ok, first, i asked her out already, and she answered yes, but she's worried about her brother, because he's my best friend and she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, plus i can tell that he doesn't want us to be together, because we went to an art festival yesterday, and she wrote my name on her arm, and she made a drawing that said "I LOVE BEN". when he saw it, he ripped the paper, and he made her erase my name. i don't know what to do, because he's my best friend, and i really really like his sister....please help!!!
2007-09-04 18:37:38 · 15 answers · asked by Ben 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-09-04 18:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you may be his best friend, but she's family. First I would tell her to bring it up. He'll probably punch you in the face or just get really mad. If you really like this girl, give him a beer after it's all said and done. If he'll be pissed off for a while. From that point on, you just have to watch what you say to her and about her when he's around.
He's frustrated because all brothers naturally hate whoever dates their sister(s). Brothers tend to be over protective of their sisters, especially when it comes to their friends. Just treat her right and watch what you say. You'll do fine.
2007-09-05 01:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Wiseass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..That sorta puts you in a position there, but if he's your best friend, then he should know everything. So if he knows all the great, positive, and good stuff about you, that'll make him think you'll be great for his sister.. but if there are bad sides he knows too? No one else will know you greater.. unless he doesn't know you that much lol but just prove it to him that he is perfect for your sister.. he is just doing this bc he cares and doesn't want her to get hurt.. he'll judge you by the facts of what he knows you from the past, and the way you are.. so just make it all seem good, act good, Be good. also talk to him, about yourself and that you really like his sister and want to go out with her, that you won't hurt her and will be a-Ok lol? thats very sweet of his sis to say that she doesn't want to ruin your friendship, and you know friendships are better then a gf or bf.. so always keep that first =)
goodluck =)
2007-09-05 02:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ben,
If you really want your best-friend's sister that much, then you better be ready to fight for her, to do the difficult task. Have a heart-to-heart with her brother. Tell him about your honest and sincere intention. Tell him that your friendship means a lot to you and at 1st you're having second thoughts approaching him but then decided to do so because you can't take this kind of set-up anymore. Don't argue with him, just say it as simply as you can. Then go from there. It's a natural brotherly-protective instinct..Convince him of your devotion to his sis..If he become aloof afterward..Proceed with your heart..In time when your friend sees how well your relationship turned out, he'll soften his stance.
2007-09-05 01:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dude!
this guy is your best friend, so all you have to do is be SINCERE to him. And if you are his best friend, i am quite confident that things will turn out to be real fine.
tell him you need to talk to him and tell him everything that has to be told. these will include why you like his sis, how you came to like her, wether or not you understand his reaction, the way you feel about speaking this up with him, your feelings about the outcome of this talk and maybe there are some things i could not think of here- so please forgive.
kindly request him to hear you through before saying anything.
AND OF COURSE, NO EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL OR ANY TRICK OF THAT SORT - thats not a way of doing things
also remember the type of person he is- how he reacts to certain things; this will allow you to set the tone with which you will addresss him as well as choose the atmosphere in which you people want to be around.
remember that brothers are VERY protective of their sisters- if my best friend were to ask me abt going out with my sis, i would still hesitate; but then, if my sis was attracted to him, how could i possibly object? i would just make sure that things went on fine- may be to a lesser extent, coz the guy she would be dating would be my best friend... but that is on a personal level
remember - whatever happens in life, all you have to be is sincere and honest towards youself and people around you.
i hope that you will find a solution to your problem...
have faith in yourself
2007-09-05 02:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by kool_dude_0_9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in this situation...go to your friend first asking the girl out is second your friend comes first ask him how he feels about it make sure your feelings are true for this girl though you dont want to be just playing games and hurt her because that will just be agony for all.People respect when you come to them to ask like permission specially men with thier sisters think of what you would want him to do if it was your sister reversing situations is almost always a good way to figure out how you should handle a situation.
2007-09-05 01:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by bazoocablond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is prolly just worried about his sister but as long as ur intentions are good sit him down and let him know that u really like her and that u would do anything to stay friends and still date his sister.......... i mean if he is any kind of brother he will say ok because as long as his sister is happy he should be to..... so just keep it real wit him and things should go well.... good luck
2007-09-05 02:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by i_be_dat_whyte_gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to him about it!! Assure him that you'll treat his sister good!! But brothers are always protective of their sisters!! I do think that if things don't work, it'll damage your friendship!! So use your best judgment!! Good luck!:)
2007-09-05 01:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, that's a rough one. If you truly care for his sister and you aren't going to do her wrong, tell your best friend you will treat her better than any other guy she could go out with and she will be much safer with you. If you tell him this, he will probably come around to accepting it.
2007-09-05 01:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend was really a friend he would understand that u have feelings for her, and let u guys hit it. If you like her that much then tell him, and if he gets pissed off, then I recommend u date his sister and let him deal with it. A friend wouldnt hurt his best mate. :)
2007-09-05 17:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by ±DannyB± 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here goes talk to his sis and then talk to ur beat friend it also really depends on how close u and ur best friend r will he understand just talk and if u like her then dont worry about it
2007-09-05 01:44:37 · answer #11 · answered by cc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋