2007-09-04 17:42:08 · 30 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before everyone jumps down my throat, I'd like to clarify that I said ENGAGED, not MARRIED. The actual marriage could take place years, maybe even a decade down the road.
2007-09-04 17:47:27 · update #1
Not necessarily. If you know in your heart that you want to be with that person for the rest of your life, then you know. I got married right after I turned 19 and we just celebrated our 4th anniversary. Still happily married and looking forward to spending my life with him. :)
2007-09-04 17:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by Christy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very unwise. Two children (at 16 we're still children) getting engaged are making a huge commitment to each other for the rest of their lives. They are still growing mentally, emotionally so in five years, they may not even be the same person. I think the best move would be like a courtship of sorts. The two involved should make sure that they share interests, but at the same time have their own, individual interests. Also, if they still do plan to get married they should consult a marriage counselor, which will be very helpful in the present and the future.
2007-09-05 00:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by angel_sierra16 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES. DONT DO IT. thats way too young. the people on the show engaged and underage are still 2-4 years older than u. even if u think u have found the right guy, just continue to date him for a few years so that u are sure that u have found the right guy. this ensures that u 2 love each other. thats the reason divorce rates are VERY HIGH. its becasue people just marry the first guy/girl they see. wen u decide to move out(which is hopefully not for another 2+ years), consider getting an apartment together to see if u 2 could stand each other 24/7. also, if u believe in not having sex until u get married, then definatley dont du it for the sex because newlyweds or younger married coules usually dont have safe sex even wen they arent trying to make a baby so then ull just have to babysit for 18 years.
2007-09-05 00:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not weird, but probably not a good idea.
If you are really sure that you want to be with this person for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, then I would wait until I was at least 21 (after college even better). There's no reason to rush it, but every reason to wait. It's not impossible for a marriage to survive when people are so young, but the chances are pretty slim that it will last. And it has more to do with how you will both mature and grow as people. Believe me, I bet if you ask anyone you know what they were like, thought, etc. at 16 vs. now, you would get some pretty wild answers.
2007-09-05 00:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. If your considering getting engaged that young, my advice would be not to do it. You have the entire rest of your life to be married, why waste your youth on it? Plus, your so young, so haven't had enough time to find out what you really like in a guy. You wouldn't want to get married, stay together for a few years, then have it not work out and have to start all over. If you've found someone you think you love, then just stay dating for awhile and make sure you've found the right one. Good luck!
2007-09-05 00:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Joie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, weird. It was really weird for my younger sister to be getting married the same year I graduated from high school.
She married 3 days before she turned 17. (She wasn't pregnant). She's been married for over 30 years. In that time, she completed high school, completed a degree, raised two children (the first born after being married almost three years).
I would guess that this is the exception and suggest you very closely look at your relationship. But it does show that if you keep your priorities and focus, it is possible to marry young and be successful (She and her husband have terrific finances, no debt, lots of assets).
2007-09-05 00:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rainman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I was engaged at 16 but didn't marry until 17. Good Luck
2007-09-05 00:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by teddy_bear_says_os 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be weird. An engagement is in contemplation of a wedding. Don't get engaged just so you can say you are engaged. Only do it if you plan to marry that person.
2007-09-05 00:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tmabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird if you live in a backwater state or have an IQ below 100.
Get grown up first. There is whole world of guys out there.
2007-09-05 05:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the point of being engaged when you can't/won't be married within one or two years? The purpose of engagement is to prepare for a wedding. (IE. - making arrangements)
2007-09-05 00:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋