Do my prefrences in Women make it impossible for me to find a girl?

Question

Okay, My freinds say I have high standards and thats what keeps my from talking to girls and not fear. (Trust me its the fear)

I don't know what it is, but Im just not attracted to "Sexy" women, I Guess Im more of a girl next door kind of guy, I like the sweet and cute over sexy and hot.

Here is what I look for

Overall Smaller then me (Im 5'7 and 150lbs) I have to be taller and Im not fat so i don't deserve a fat chick.

Younger then me Peferebly HS Senior, (Im a college sophmore, but Im a year younger then evryone in my class, my birthday was right at the cutoff point when i was a kid) and I would like to go to Prom (I didint get to go to mine)

Not Black...I don't mean that in a racist way, Im just not attracted to them.

Not super-southern (I live in north carolina) I mean like confederate flag in there room, that damn accent, and that southern girl face(you know what Im talking about)

Heres the big one, heres the one that screws me most of all though

NO TATTOS OR CRAZY PEARCINGS!!!!

I can't stand them, I know I have no right to be picky. but Im just not into them, they instantly kill ALL ATTRACTION i have for the girl.

Other then that as long as the face isn't Horrible, And me and my freinds joke that my 10 scale has a 2.5 point curve (There 4 is my 6.5)

But unfortunately it feels like almost ALL girls are either fat or black and then jump to the other extreme of SUPER HOT AND SEXY (And even if I was into those girls I couldent get one, I would say Im mabey a 4 myself.)

what is wrong with me...

Oh, and also No drinking or smoking (Witch adds to the difficulty of meeting women in college) EVERYONE DRINKS!!

and now Im gonna sound REALLY crazy...BUT NO BIs!!!!!

It seems ALL girls are Bi...I don't get it... I know alot of guys think its hot, but I hate it so much,

And don't give me that BS about its a womans personality that counts, OF COURSE IT IS THATS WHY I LIKE THE MOUSY GIRLS AND NOT THE HOTTIES

Hot usually equals ***** personality

Thats why I don't like them. that and (Im gonna sound so gay here) Im not looking for just random sex, I want to have a gilrfreind whos nice and fun to be around,

When I was a kid I knew id never be able to get a girl who was what other guys call HOT so I trained myself to like plane girls, and they usually have better personalities, unfortunatly Girls are either ...eww...(I know its horrible to say that about the obese, but comon) or grinding trampstamped *** on some random guy during spring break with 18 shoots of tequila.

Answer 1

Don't catergorize someone when you meet them. By doing so, you find justification as to why you wouldn't find them interesting.
If you haven't dated many women then you really don't know what you like.

Answer 2

Ok, your not ready to listen. First of all you are very picky. You have ALOT to learn about love and sex and acceptance. How can you expect anyone to love and accept you if you cannot tolerate a little weight, a tattoo, having a drink out socially and you want this little flower to be mousy, you dont want her to experement sexually, which guarantees her no pleasure in bed, because its proven missionary does not do it for girls, which means your a missionary guy only, and from what you have said your judging all of this with little or NO experience whatsoever...you dont have a clue what feels good and what dosent for a girl...your going to be very very sad if you dont open up your freaking mind pal. The girl you describe dosent exist! And if she does, she is about to jump off of a bridge soon so you had better let somebody else save her. You need to really love yourself and others for who they are, not this crazy cooked up ideal of what they should be. You programmed yourself into this corner and your going to have to undo it. Otherwise you will be alone, for a very long time and that is deadly to you honey. Someone would like to love you but you wont get past age, phyisicality and meet the soul partner you need to survive. I could be way off, way wrong but your preventing your own evolution sweetheart. Get REAL, before you commit suicide. Your really really lonely and I can see it! I care and that is why I am being HONEST. Go and seek therapy, and go and get laid, even if you have to be blindfolded to do it! Imagine your dream girl so that you can get some of this tension released. My god man. Its out there for you. Take Care.-Rachel

Answer 3

Since blacks are not a majority in the U.S., I'm not sure why almost all the women you meet are black.

Why are you afraid of sexy girls? Do you think they might not be faithful?

It seems that you are trying to avoid someone that might make you feel inferior (no one taller, the same age or older or more attractive).

Be the best you that you can be. That will open up more possibilities for you because you will feel more secure and have a lot more choices.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Greatest part of reading your question... "i don't deserve a fat chick." Freaking priceless.

Doesn't sound like you are picky. If you see a girl and you aren't attracted to her, who cares. You're in college though and you shouldn't be looking for a girlfriend right now if you don't already have one. Just go to parties and have a good time. Hook up with whoever when you're drunk. I'm sure your standards will drop then.

But if you're looking for a steady girl then why should you go after something you aren't attracted to? Stick with your standards, don't let your friends tell you to settle for something less. You sound like you want typically what every other guy wants in a girl.

Hopefully you get over you fear soon. Good luck with that.

Answer 6

I think you've got too many rules. The only rules should be that she's atrractive, caring and fun to be with. Of course there's some things that you're not attracted to, but you just made the mistake of creating a rule list, which means even if there's an attractive and sweet girl, if she has something "wrong" (she might be black or slightly taller than you) you'll rule her out. If they like you, and you like them, that should be all that matters.

Answer 7

It seems that you are looking in all the wrong places for girls that fit your preferences and you have some HIGH standards. Maybe you need to look elsewhere from college parties and whatnot. Go to a library, a coffee-shop, grocery store....i dont know where just dont obssess over finding a girl. She'll come around when you least expect it.

Answer 8

Dating with a check list will always screw you up. Just relax and let yourself be attracted to someone or not, naturally.

Loving someone doesn't mean that you've found the perfect person, it just means that you love someone enough to overlook their imperfections.

It's corny but it's very true! Let whatever happens, happen. Burn the checklist!!

I just read the second part of your question. It sounds like you're looking for someone with character, morals and values. These things are far more important than some of the outer things that you're screening girls out for. I understand that you aren't generally attracted to girls who are taller than you and that's fine - in general. It's when you stop giving girls like that a chance, if you don't even bother to get to know them, you don't know - one of them might be just what you're looking for and you're passing her by because she doesn't pass your checklist.

Also, where are you meeting girls? Think about where the type of girl you're looking for might hang out. If you're meeting girls at wild parties and/or bars they're probably not going to have the high character and values that you're looking for. You don't necessarily have to meet them at church either but perhaps some kind of campus club. I used to love clubs to meet people. You join clubs that are involved in something you find interesting and automatically you meet a group of people that you have things in common with. Anyway, think about it.

Answer 9

You have all these expectations and preferences but by the time you meet this so called dream girl of yours, you might be old, as in 80s or 50s or maybe you're dead. Seriously think about yourself. You're not perfect I'm sure, so why do you want your girl friend to be. You act like every girl must fulfill your preference but that's not true. If you continue this, you might as well end up alone. FOREVER

Answer 10

Here's what's wrong with you. You judge. You think that women with tats or piercings have some sort of insecure issue and are going through their punk stage to get it all worked out and you find it repulsive that someone has to go through such a demonstrative phase to figure themselves out, and you think that black women, since they're usually sexy and up in yo' buzznass, are shallow and you don't like that kind of insecure either. And you think that fat girls have something wrong with them (have you seen Shallow Hal). You are totally insecure yourself, and seeing women who are themselves insecure, rather than making you feel better and not so alone, makes you freak out. You see, the fact that you look to other women with such incredible judging, makes it clear that you think other people loook at you that way. But they're really not. I understand you're insecure right now, it took me years and years to get over my bout, but you need to grab one of these who is funny, that you have a decent time with, and see where it goes. Stop looking at them the way you do. Try to understand them, and you will be right as rain.

Answer 11

hey there is nothing wrong with knowing what you don't want. Believe it or not there are some girls who fit your description. Chances are its someone you've already met, you don't realize it yet. Don't worry about your friends, they seem to be busy chasing anything that agrees with them, nothing wrong with it, its just not for you. But eventually you will find a girl you really like, maybe even fall for, meanwhile your friends will go party with whoever they please, and eventually will be envious that you end up with the girl everyone loves because you were picky!