Family & Relationships - 19 August 2007

My bf of 17 months has finally edmitted to me that he's been talking to his ex girl friend...He said he missed talking to her...He said she understand him, & they can joke about anything...He says he loves her, but only as a friend they've both agreed to that...He said they will ALWAYS be friends...He says he loves me with all of his heart....& sometimes I just don't understand him? & I guess I don't laugh enough? I feel like I'm not good enough. I feel like if he had the chance he would be with her & not me. I feel like I'm being used just for sex & nothing else.I don't think he truly even loves me.or if he ever has.He made her seem better, as if he was comparing us together. I asked him why he loves me, he said becuase your a great gf?? Bull aye? I dunno, I love him..& it's killing me with in that he did this to me,& behind my back for awhile.Everyday just lieing to me. He said he was always going to try to keep it from me, he even made a new account online so I wouldnt find out.

2007-08-19 04:11:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When most married women get divorced they want child support but if they want independance why do they ask for money from the Fathers/Husbands
now i understand that the Fathers/Husbands need to support their kids but it seem to me that most want a check to support their independants not the child and when the Father/Husband starts asking where the money goes most will deny the information. I think Child support should be changed to womens independance support and i think it should be banned and i bet the divorce rates would fall whats your opinion?
I know there will be smart@sses that will answer so go ahead but remember i would love some intelligent answers also

2007-08-19 04:10:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my mother in law keeps bitching about me to my mother, my husband...saying i dont keep things tidy, i dont socialize enough with the family, i dont help out round the house...etc

I have my own house, and i barely visit her house....and therefore i dont see the need to do the cleaning/washing up- esp since she has a bloody cleaner! as for socializing with the family...i am very very private and what little i do, is never enough

I work full time and i am supporting my husband, her son. My parents help us out a lot as well and we have done a lot for her. She doesnt listen to reason, she whines, she bitches and she moans about every single thing i do...and we both ignore each other.

My husband is caught up in all of this...yet his siblings side with their mother, which is understandable......but she wouldnt like it if someone said bad things about her daughter....so why do it to anther woman?

please dont say talk to her coz she wont listen..she shouts and walks out.

2007-08-19 04:09:46 · 25 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Family

My future Mother in Law is wearing a black tea length dress with like white/black chiffon on the top and the oversized sleeves. Now we have a great relationship, I already call her mom since my fiance and I have been together for 8 1/2 years and are getting married next Saturday!! YAY : ) But she told some of the ladies that she works with what she was wearing and they all told her that she should ask me what I think of it, cuz they assumed I would have a big problem with it. I don't have ANY problem with her wearing that, actually I love the dress and it's so cute on her and encourage her to wear it. I was just wondering what you guys think of this and how would you react if they showed up in black on your wedding day? Have a Great Day!! Thanks : )

2007-08-19 04:09:34 · 30 answers · asked by PennyLane 2 in Weddings

I went to the state supreme court in New Jersey the other day to file for a set child support payment ad visitation of my son, and I was given a court date. But, his mother and I have come to an agreement, and I wanted to cancel the court date and file that were given. How do I do this? Is it even possible?

2007-08-19 04:08:03 · 7 answers · asked by pspaceman1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

title pretty much explains it

2007-08-19 04:08:00 · 41 answers · asked by Just Ask 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-19 04:06:30 · 3 answers · asked by beyond C 1 in Family

husband wants to look at it, watch it with them etc. My husband has been looking at it every morning while I am asleep lately and then waking me up for some ....... Does this mean he is bored with me now..... What can I do to spice things up for him....or is this a take away me situation for a couple of days to get his focus back

2007-08-19 04:05:13 · 4 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I know this girl for about 4 years now.We have worked together in several projects.She liked me once.

2007-08-19 04:01:57 · 32 answers · asked by MAVERICK 1 in Singles & Dating

I think I really am... Alright, me and my girlfriend have been together almost 3 months. Now I know someone is gonna say "3 months could never be love, that's just lust" Well no, it's not. I know for a fact it isn't lust. Okay...well, first I realised I was doing crazy things so I could see her...like for one...I didn't have a way to her house...so I walked 7 miles to go see her...and I've done that about 5 times now to see her. And I have had many girlfriends in the past...never said any "I Love you's" at all to them...I say it to her though, and I mean it. The other girls gave me butterflies in my stomache for maybe about...umm...4 days. Brittany (my gf) gave me butterflies for the longest time. Sometimes i still get them, but like, I've gotten used to this so I don't think I get nervous anymore around her, I am completely comfortable being me around her! (another first) And here is the big shocker...being a guy and all-we talked about doing....um..well...i'll just say "the thing" and I realised I care waaaay too much for her to ever do ANYTHING that could potentialy cause harm to her in anyway. Like it could screw up her future...her career, hell, even her life. And right now I miss her like crazy and could go on and on about her (like her perfect smile and her beautiful light blue eyes) and decided to write this...I know this has to be love...I just wanted to see what anyone else thought. If not that...then I am in the process of falling for her. I've never ever felt this way at all. ever

2007-08-19 04:01:34 · 20 answers · asked by destroyerofchaos 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-19 04:00:38 · 17 answers · asked by baby boo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm going to a last minute wedding next week and don't have the money to buy a nice expensive gift. I've seen ideas about photo albums and decorating the invitation. Any other ideas??

2007-08-19 04:00:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Hes a great guy. I just feel funny asking him

2007-08-19 03:58:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-19 03:57:40 · 20 answers · asked by llllllllllll 1 in Friends

all the friends ive ever had are awsome at first but then they begin 2 suck.. there are dayz when tons of friends will call and want 2 get together..then there are some dayz when i think they all hate me cuz they dont call or answer the phone... does anyone else have this problem

2007-08-19 03:57:12 · 13 answers · asked by jessica l 2 in Friends

i met him, our eyes met and the chemistry was crazy, my husband even said so. I cant stop thinking about him. I am thinking about leaving my husband to see what can happen if this dream of mine can happen...what do you think?

2007-08-19 03:57:03 · 51 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Singles & Dating

all of my friends have bf's and i dont.
i could have one if i wanted but i just cant seem to get this guy to notice me as more than a friend!
We talk a lot and everything he even told me where he lives but we nvr got to,"hey wanna come over to my house afer school"
help please!

2007-08-19 03:56:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have an older sister by 3 years who's still single although since 18 she used to brag about a zillion men asking for her hand, her boyfriend of 4 years has recently dumped her saying he was pushed into this relationship and if it was up to him there was no way he'd involve himself with my sister...so you see how she feels right now.....Im gonna get married in october and every day and night she's on my nerves, she bullies me alot , intimidate me and my fiance in every way possible and talks behind our backs to my mother and fires her up against my fiance...many people tell me its me getting married sooner but i just cant understand it, if it was her i'd become very happy that shes happy and even if i'd get jealous i'd try not to show it like this...what do you think? what shoud I do?

2007-08-19 03:55:57 · 10 answers · asked by Ginie 5 in Family

Is like this. I have a distans relationship with a man I love with all my heart. He loves me too very much but it has being difficult to see each other. There are a lot of other things that stand in our way, he is younger than me and is planning to move to live here, but he has to face a lot of things, learn a new language, a new culture, learn to deal with my children when they are here every other week, etc. Still aour love it has been strong. I had hope until a month ago. A woman I know who says that she is a clarvoyant or whatever she may call said to me that our love wouldn't become a fact and that I shuld get tigether in the future with a man a little older than me and I was going to get married to this man.

Now, this made me very sad because I have spent two years fiting for this relationship I have and we are even making plans together. This woman made me feel hoppless, I feel I lost my enthusiasm, my hoppes for a future with the person I love, I feel emptiness. What to do?

2007-08-19 03:54:57 · 5 answers · asked by M. V 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Talked to an ex-girlfriend of mine yesterday. She just got married about 2 months ago to a guy 30 years older then her (she's in her mid '20's). She told me she just found out her husband signed them up for a swingers club unbenownst to her. She discovered it somehow. She's not into this and to the best of my knowledge, they didn't talk about this before marriage. Apparently, he wants a 3-some with another woman. She is totally flustered. He even offered to divorce her. He seems apologetic, but you have to wonder.

What advice should I offer her? I want to see her happy and feeling good about herself and her marriage. I don't want to get into the middle of anything, but I think she needs someone to offer solid advice and consolation.

2007-08-19 03:52:54 · 4 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

it's been three years and nothing seems to work.all suggestions are welcome.

2007-08-19 03:52:14 · 12 answers · asked by blitzkrieg 5 in Marriage & Divorce

i left the country for work here in taiwan and after a few months, she wrote me a letter asking me if i still have the same feelings for her. She then told me that she liked me too. She told me to court her again to make our relationship official but then when i started communicating with her and begin courting again, i have noticed some signs like; "can we remain friends for now?" then there's a time i called her that she told me that i should limit calling because she's affraid that she might get caught into a "relationship issue" by her parents where in fact she never complained before when i used to call her. sometimes she refuses to talk with me and tell some alibis. I even caught her talking with a guy on her cellphone's line 2. My question is, is it possible that she already have chosen someone else to be her lover instead of me?

2007-08-19 03:51:27 · 5 answers · asked by maverick24 1 in Singles & Dating

See im only 16 and my freind sent me a nasty message i was saving it to show her momhow she been treating and i lost my phone i ask my brother to find it and he did after geting back swimming it was gone and know i dont get my phone back until im 18 WHAT DO I DO

2007-08-19 03:51:09 · 2 answers · asked by hot_555_call 2 in Friends

My friend whom I love is going to jail..help me?
I'm in love with this guy who has been my best friend on and off since the 8th grade....

we starting getting involved only last summer and up until 2 months ago everything was great then he got arrested and since he's already got a lot of problems, DUIs and volation of probation from this last arrest hes going to jail for quit sometime..he is currently out on bond waiting to be sentenced The problem is that the night that he got arrested he called me the next day told me what happend then he has quit calling, hanging out, and talking to me period. What's going on here? Also he's been doing drugs and have lots of little flings with like every women I know. Its like he went wild. Is this normal? He's a man whore druggie now awaiting jail time. But I'm still in love with him..what do I do. Its like he wants nothing to do with me and wont even take the time to give me an reason.

2007-08-19 03:46:55 · 31 answers · asked by Littlemiss Me 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-19 03:46:13 · 12 answers · asked by qihaw 2 in Singles & Dating

...with a 7 year old girl. The girl's mother was watching them and sent them to the room to watch a movie before bed. The girl came out a short while later and said, "You don't have to come check on us, we're fine." A RED FLAG went up in the mom's head and a minute later she caught her daughter draped in a blanket straddling my 10 year old and "humping" him. (they were both bare) WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO WITH THEM????

2007-08-19 03:40:22 · 6 answers · asked by DCLady 1 in Family

2007-08-19 03:38:26 · 3 answers · asked by ? 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I think the best life for giral is to live without married

2007-08-19 03:37:25 · 15 answers · asked by Dina AL- WAZNI 1 in Weddings

This is just a genaral question just answer yes or no if u think.

2007-08-19 03:37:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

one of thise "who*re me" things on myspace? my friend wants me 2 do it 4 her

2007-08-19 03:30:10 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends