it's been three years and nothing seems to work.all suggestions are welcome.
2007-08-19 03:52:14 · 12 answers · asked by blitzkrieg 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People tend to trivialize break-ups with insensitive, stupid remarks like "it was meant to be," or "there are more fish in the sea." Nothing was meant to be, and you may not care for another fish at the moment,
The heart, however, has gone through a tremendous shock as it untangles its "heart strings." There is a tear in your emotional fabric, in other words, which takes time to heal.
Be kind to yourself, don't blame, move on as best as you can. You will still have feelings for that person, and they will fade as you get on with your life.
Be thankful you found love, even for a short time. Many people never do.
To use a movie title (and a very good movie it was), "The Heart is a Lonely Hunter."
2007-08-19 04:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between 'can't' and 'won't'.
Sounds to me like after 3 years, you are in the won't category.
I have some fond (and some not-so-fond) meories of times with my ex, but I found that building new memories, and focusing on them is what gets me through the feeling of wanting to go back to see waht could have happened.
Ex's are ex's for a reason, and whatever that reason was or is, is what you should think about when they pop into your mind.
2007-08-19 10:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. I hear yah! I'm battling the same thing. I started doing something called Hapkido. It's a martial art 3X a week for excersize. I got a new job that is way more challenging than my first. And between the two I stay so busy my mind does not drift to my X.
2007-08-19 10:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by beemusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing works because you are not letting yourself to move on. There's no way you can get over your ex if you are not ready yet. I am pretty sure that there's something have to do with your guilt. Probably...you have done something better or you should have treated your ex better ....dadadada... But let it go. Its like baby steps, you need to start all over again. Stop remeniscing the good memories that you had together. Move on. Try to put all the things that reminds your ex somewhere that you dont see everyday. Let it go buddy.
2007-08-19 11:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Mari♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that really never goes all of the way away. Acceptance is the key. Accept that they are gone, that you were lucky to have once had that experience and treasure that you know what qualities you want in a person. The perfect match is out there for you, fate will bring them and that will bring satisfaction.
2007-08-19 11:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you started dating anyone else in this time? there are valid reason why you and your ex broke up. remember those reasons, and don't imagine that they miraculously have changed or wouldn't matter. if she is unwillingly to date again, then you are just wasting your time ruminating. try aversion therapy if you feel that willpower alone won't work. put a rubberband around your wrist. every time you think of her, snap the rubberband (put some gusto into it). eventually, you will begin to subconsciously associate the pain of the rubberband with her and you will train your brain not to think of her or to at least think of her in a less pleasing/romantic way. ta-da goal accomplished. check out: geocities.com/sbiv37/marr
2007-08-19 10:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'am not sure how you got your divorce,but if you just can't get over your ex-yall should sit down and talk.My ex-is still like that,but we talk and we get alone better apart.You both my can go and be together for the 2nd time.I know where my mistakes are at and so does my ex.
2007-08-19 11:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa (butterfly) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u have to accept its over with, is it worth getting back with that person? would it mean more heartache for u if u did try to go back? find someone new, reach out to others, don't dwell in the past. therapy may be needed if your stuck and can't get past it. it isn't easy getting over someone we loved, and counted on but theres always a way out we just have to find it.
2007-08-19 11:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going out and meeting lots of new people so you get your mind off him and you might find people who you have more in common with than your ex
2007-08-19 10:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I empathize with you cause I'm in the same boat. I think when someone special comes around I will be done with those left over feelings....good luck.
2007-08-19 10:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋