Talked to an ex-girlfriend of mine yesterday. She just got married about 2 months ago to a guy 30 years older then her (she's in her mid '20's). She told me she just found out her husband signed them up for a swingers club unbenownst to her. She discovered it somehow. She's not into this and to the best of my knowledge, they didn't talk about this before marriage. Apparently, he wants a 3-some with another woman. She is totally flustered. He even offered to divorce her. He seems apologetic, but you have to wonder.
What advice should I offer her? I want to see her happy and feeling good about herself and her marriage. I don't want to get into the middle of anything, but I think she needs someone to offer solid advice and consolation.
2007-08-19 03:52:54 · 4 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your ex-girlfriend was extremely inappropriate to come to you for advice.
I would stay out of it.. it is a lose - lose situation for you.
2007-08-19 04:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My only question to her would be "why are you asking me this crazy A$$ question, if you are not into swinging, and he is planning on a trip to the club with you and his other lover for the purposes of all y'all doing each other up in a night of lustful sweating panting fleshy pleasure (prolly more for her and the chick...since he is in his Viagra phase of life), and he has offered to divorce you.......if you don't want to do another chick for him..................aint it kinda clear...........?"
Either that or I would tell her "I dont interfere with married folks business....because I have never married someone without asking, trusting, and verifying their sexual preferences."....only to find out they fully expected me to do up some chick they think I would look good making out with."
She would probably piss me off......just being DINGY!!!!
2007-08-19 11:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "God bless you" and leave it alone. Marriages (no matter how quirky they may appear from the outside looking in) are sacred territory and should be left inviolate.
2007-08-19 11:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say nothing
she has to learn her own life lessons in life
and she can get out of this one
if she stays then she approves the swinging lifestyle
if she leaves then she leaves
2007-08-19 11:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋