Family & Relationships - 4 August 2007

It's proven that if men acted as the head of the family as they should, the family's better off. But in cases where a bit disfunction happens, society always blames the woman...and then when she tries to assume some control, society always blames the woman. Sure, if things go right, seldom, women get the credit...buy y always the blame? I can understand blame from husbands, because when feuding, defenses go up. But when women have no one, it's hard to stand firm(they get in trouble for that too). Then when problems are BAD, and women stay, they get blamed for that too...even though everyone knows no one's gonna take a single woman and her kids in. So after marriage, all a woman has is her husband and her kids...maybe...or she's all alone for the most part. Y say the lie that her family will be on the girl's side, when that's mostly a lie? Why's even my husband's wrong doing MY fault? Y's everything twisted to make the man look ok, and the woman the reason it went all wrong?

2007-08-04 07:09:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Indeed I am concern the rate at which divorce takes place. I am afraid of it's effects to our societies.

2007-08-04 07:07:15 · 15 answers · asked by Yach 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I are trying to spend more time together because he spends much time working and it's hard to find the time. We usually spend evenings together, and that's usually how it works. So last night he tells me that we wouldn't see each other that night because we will get together early for breakfast today, spend the day together, and so I plan my morning knowing that I have an entire day with my boyfriend. So, he calls and tells me that it will be an hour later, which I am cool with. No problem. He says he needs to hit the gym. I say ok, but then I find out he's still at home and will hit the gym eventually. So now, it's more like 2-3 hours later after he first said we would have breakfast. I'm thinking breakfast isn't going to happen. So, that's when I say it isn't cool for him to have me in limbo when he wouldn't dare do something like that to his clients at work, or group members at school. I ask why is it different for me? Am I completely at wrong here?

2007-08-04 07:05:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ive been married 11 months and am expecting my first child. A few months ago I went to my buddies bachelor party. Things got crazy and i got really drunk. I wound up sleeping with one of the strippers in a drunk stupor. About 3 weeks later I realized I had contracted a STD I love and respect my wife so much, yet I just cant tell her the truth. We have been intimate since the incident. I am afraid she may have got the STD from me. What do I do, I dont want to lose my family.

2007-08-04 07:01:25 · 29 answers · asked by jacen c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do I buy her a Wedding ring prior to the Wedding?

2007-08-04 07:00:31 · 19 answers · asked by BaseballFan4Ever 4 in Weddings

I can not get along with my family. I live with my dad, grandma, & younger brother. I can't take this living situation. Everyday my grandma argues and complains about dumb stuff. My Dad gets mad at me for dumb stuff. I'm 23 and I have to tell him everytime I go out. They treat me like a child. All we do so argue & fight in this house. I'm sick of it. 2 weeks ago my dad call the cops on me & my brother for no reason. I'm not a bad person. I went to college & got a degree. I'm back in school now getting a cerification in drug & alcohol counseling. I start my internship in the fall. I don't have any kids. I work & make my own money. My grandma always talks negative about me & my brother. She has a fit if there is 1 peice of paper on the dresser. Ever tho I have a degree I'm am not able to find a job that pays enough for me to live on my own. I am so stressed out that I'm ready to move to a homeless shelter. I'm just sick of the fights. What should I do?

2007-08-04 06:58:48 · 21 answers · asked by candigal 3 in Family

name change. Is this correct? I have the form to change address for the IRS but do I need to contact them?

2007-08-04 06:55:44 · 5 answers · asked by Rachael B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I sent him a message over myspace, he hasn`t read it yet. We`ve been going out for a month and a half. He keeps texting and calling but I haven`t been answering them because idk what to say.

2007-08-04 06:53:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

why is it that most of you when a relationship has just ended,do you not even wait till the bed is cold ,do you have another woman straight in the bed without a thought for the woman you have been just seeing....seriously why??is it to hurt an ex or just that you have no feelings?i see it happen to me and other women all the time.

2007-08-04 06:52:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok, so i think my crush (the one i always ask questions on) does like me a little. or is starting to at least. i mean, he flirts with me and everything. he is the lifeguard at the pool i go to. but now, that summer is ending i worry we wont c eachother very much, im so lonely when im not with him. im a very shy girl and i dont think i can just ask for his number or aim. how can i show signs that i want to get them from him ? i love him ....

2007-08-04 06:52:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My SO is out of town working for 2 weeks and I am so relieved. I love him, but he is such a control freak that its a blessing to get a break. Problem is that he still tries to "plan" my day for me while he is gone. He has a list of things HE thinks I should be doing. I lost my temper with his list and he just sees it as me being lazy. He has no concept of the fact that I am capable of keeping myself occupied, because the things I may choose to do are not the things he would have me do. Whew! How do I get him to stop trying to plan my every minute with out ending up in a fight and him hanging up?

2007-08-04 06:51:59 · 16 answers · asked by ladyvlk0001 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I was going to the fair with my best friend and we stopped by her house to get some money and her brother (my crush) came in the kitchen and asked me if he could go with us. I said no and my best friends said she doesn't mean it like that then i added there was no room in the car (because we were going with my sister and her kids) and then he seemed happier and said he would call around and try to get a ride to the fair and catch up with us there. He never made it to the fair with us but he said he did try to find a ride. Why would a guy want to go to the fair with his little sister and her best friend who is his age? Does he like me too? or was he just trying to get to the fair but then why would he want to hang out with us?

2007-08-04 06:49:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Alot of people have been telling me it's legaly mine since it's an engagement ring and he gave it to me. Would I get in trouble if I kept it?

2007-08-04 06:49:02 · 21 answers · asked by Chel 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Do you think this is a sufficient amount of time to plan and invite guests for a super small wedding?

2007-08-04 06:48:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Okay well there this guy were pretty close now and well i've never really seen him take off his glasses. I want to ask him to take them off but what if he doesnt like to? How should i ask? I mean im not sure if he minds but i've neevr really asked...? How should i ask him?

2007-08-04 06:46:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-08-04 06:44:11 · 20 answers · asked by bostonbby 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my niece was married in may. she is a very intelligent girl, 4.0 average thro college, sweet, kind, quiet. not one that ever throws you such an "unexpected". but they played "all shook up" by elvis while "walking" (more like bopping) back down the isle together after the ceremony. no she's not really what you would call an elvis fan but it went over great!!!! it was so unexpected after such a trdional service, everybody smiled and laughed as they passed by. it was kinda like an instant celebration after "i do." the reception was just food and visiting......no music or band.. part of what was so great is she had told only 2 or 3 people and the family or entire wedding party did not know either!!

2007-08-04 06:43:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Some people really say rude comments about them.....



What do you think of them...



I like them and I think they're just the same as we are....

2007-08-04 06:42:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i've been with this guy for 7 years, we recently had a newborn baby he is only 3 months. Our relationship has total changed he calls me a lots of names when i put food in my mouth i've gained like 25 pounds due to the pregancy. but i'm a cautious person when it comes to my health.I've told him i will definately work on my figure when my son is 6 months cos for now i beleive my body is still tender, he doesn't wanna buy my story i'm not a big person and i've never been i used to wear size 10 but i'm size 12 now. Anyways last week it was my birthday i did get nothing from him not even a card. I asked him he told me long and lame excuses. He said he was sorry but i know he just wanted to close the chapter. Now should i stay for the sake of my son or move on i grew up without a father so i vowed that my kids wont go thru the same procedure. But he has no respect for me whatsoever, he' s very good to our son though, but still he's abusing me emotional.

2007-08-04 06:39:36 · 8 answers · asked by hotcocoa 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-04 06:38:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I heard few months back that its not morally wrong as long as i don't have a gf at the meantime.

I am currently getting to know a gal but unsuccessful at the time being and we stay as friends. I still haven't stop praying about it and somehow the feelings is relatively unique which I can't explain. Nevertheless I am giving myself 2 more years since I figure out I am pretty serious about her. While at the meantime I need to get things done for my life priorities.

There is another gal who rejected me prior but for the past 1 week since I apologise to her for some events, she seems to be keen in meeting me up and been giving me missed calls. I must admit I feel lonely but I refrain from taking initiative to text or call her unless she do so. The initial feelings no longer there but I am willing to meet her as a friend as she asked many times and I am touched by her sincerity.

You?

2007-08-04 06:38:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my parents say i am too young to have sex with me bf, but i am already 17 and i really love my bf. so i want to know how to have sex, so i can feel the sensation before it happens.

2007-08-04 06:37:41 · 13 answers · asked by Eunice W 2 in Singles & Dating

"If you want I can put a picture of the twins on my myspace and I can give you my password so you can long on to my myspace and see the pic??? If you dont want to its okk, but I just thought you might want to.well byeeee 4 now and talk to you sooon!!!"


i dont want her myspace password (i dont mean that in a mean way, just if anything happens to her myspace she might think it was because of me)...

2007-08-04 06:32:55 · 9 answers · asked by someone 2 in Friends

theyve been fighting a lot and its not just verbal! theyve been fighting since i was little! whenever i ask my dad why they fight he says my mom started it. when i ask my mom she says he started it and that i saw him start it. then my dad leaves the house. my mom and i always stay at the house after each fight. then i get all angry at my mom (*frenzy*), my dad leaves the house, i leave the room shes in, burst into unstoppable tears, she comes into the room she heard me crying in, and then she claims that because im not doing anything to my dad that im on his side, when actually i did (sometimes i kick him). she always apologizes to me and asks me if im damaged, i say yes im too damaged to be healed, and then she goes on and on about how she doesnt think she and my dad are gonna grow old together. its the same thing over and over again!! wth should i do?!

2007-08-04 06:32:39 · 11 answers · asked by A Yahoo! User 2 in Family

ok..i started talkin to this guy named roan...we dont live in the same state..i met him through a friend who lives where he is....but then i felt used. i felt like the only reason he talked to me was because i was hot..i asked him and he said now i talked to you because we were friends...and i thought you were pretty.so i believed him.then one of his friends told me that he can only get out of town girls and that he only talks to them so they'll like him.after they like him he brags to everyone where he lives saying im talkin to this hot girl...thats what happened to me.he told all his friends about me and that i was hot.so i sent him a very long message on msn saying how i didnt wanna talk to him because i knew how he was.and i kinda wanna apologize cause i really liked talkin to him.but he wont talk to me cuz he's majorly pissed at me....should i try and call him and apologize or should i just keep things the way they are?

2007-08-04 06:30:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

This girl has recently got in touch with my boyfriend and wants to meet up with him for a drink. They went to school together and are now 26. They weren't really good mates, but they would chat and stuff if they bumped into each other. All his mates think she fancies him, and have said this for years - before I even got together with my boyfriend.

She knows he has a girlfriend. I'm a bit uneasy about this. I wouldn't be if they were really good mates and just lost contact but they weren't. I don't mind him having girl friends it just strikes me as a bit odd that she'd suddently text like that out of the blue. She also put kisses in all her texts. I do kisses all the time too, but not to guys who i know are in relationships out of respect.

I trust my boyfriend, but wonder why I'm not invited to meet her and also I think she might get the wrong idea and get her hopes up. Am I being silly?!

2007-08-04 06:30:11 · 16 answers · asked by magic_porridge_pot 3 in Singles & Dating

After 5 years, I'm wondering whether to call it a day on my relationship. I no longer feel anything toward my fiancee. It seems that every slightest mistake I make (such as forgetting to lock a door), ends up with me being shouted at. It's becoming intolerable, considering I can't justify staying. I know she loves me, and I know it would kill her to see the back of me. Whenever I try to have any kind of conversation with her, she listens, I think, but I still get the feeling that I'm not being listened to.

Also, if I was to leave, I would have nowhere to go but on the street.

It's gotten to the point where I spend most of my time on here, because there's absolutely nothing left of my real life worth bothering about.

My heart has moved on, but I feel stuck.

2007-08-04 06:29:05 · 18 answers · asked by ? 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am getting in love with a boy i met some days ago(but i had met him 5 years ago again).I think he is interested because i saw him looking at me all the time and asking me stuff about relationships with guys etc.!!Anyway 2 days ago we made out but the next day i had to leave(because i had gone there for vacation)he gave me his number and I gave him mine and he said that he would text me but he hasn't so far!!Its been almost 2 days since i left.I am beginning to worry that he isn't interested anymore!!!I don't know what to do!!Should i text him or should i wait for him to call me first??Please help me!!I am getting so depressed about this!!!I am getting in love with him!!Really!!Please tell me what to do!!!I need your help!!!I have asked you this question before but i need more answers.I forgot to say that we live in the same city and he is where i met him for the rest of the summer...please tell me what to do..should i call him or should i wait for him??I am beginning to worry so much

2007-08-04 06:22:12 · 4 answers · asked by kat4 1 in Singles & Dating

i had sex with my ex..for my first time...my new bf has had sex but he says they werent special because he wasnt in love he just did it to do it..he doesnt consider them his firsts...he loves me and feels he wants to express it thru sex...i love him the same and woudl but hes going away to college that is 8 hours away and were unsure about if and how were gonna stay together...would i get to attached and it get harder if i had sex wit thim...or would it be the best option?

2007-08-04 06:21:01 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he try to change me in someone alse, why?

2007-08-04 06:19:24 · 20 answers · asked by vilceanu maria 1 in Singles & Dating