i had sex with my ex..for my first time...my new bf has had sex but he says they werent special because he wasnt in love he just did it to do it..he doesnt consider them his firsts...he loves me and feels he wants to express it thru sex...i love him the same and woudl but hes going away to college that is 8 hours away and were unsure about if and how were gonna stay together...would i get to attached and it get harder if i had sex wit thim...or would it be the best option?
2007-08-04 06:21:01 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if i w u i wouldnt do it
2007-08-04 06:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by james d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In reality you need to think about the fact that he is moving away to attend college 8 hours a way. Unless you are attending the same school there is no way this relationship will really truly work. When young people go away to college this is the time of their life and they shouldn't be held down by 1 person.
I would think that he'll get to school and have fun. If you do have sex with him you'll have that attachment and it will just end up being much harder.
Now, I don't know your relationship or if you are both truly in love or if he's saying this just to get something to remember you by.
I would think it would be easier on your heart to NOT have sex if he's leaving.
2007-08-04 06:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt have sex with him until I knew we would still be together while he's in college. College life does change some people. Your first is your first regardless of whether or not you're in love. I don't know him but I always keep in my mind that anyone could be running game on me to get sex. Follow your heart not your hormones. Think long and hard on this. Yes it will be hard for you if you have sex and you break up.
2007-08-04 06:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont do it unless you are 100% happy, if he loves you he will and wait until you are ready and vice versa. The fact that he has been having sex with women that he does not love has alarm bells ringing in my head.
If ya happy go for it, play safe, And only take this part of advice if you are of a legal age to be having sex!
2007-08-04 06:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is entirely for you to decide, a highly personal decision and not one for group discussion. We can't, and shouldn't, decide for you. If you do have sex, make sure he uses a condom and use a spermicide cream or jelly too. Each and every time, never have unprotected sex with any man who has had other sexual partners.
2007-08-04 06:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to then do it...but if you are having to ask people if its the right thing to do then i dont think you are sure enough and shouldnt do it yet...if he loves you enough he will wait for you anyhow...if what he says is true...then hes not going to go off sleeping with other people for the sake of it is he...wait and see what happens...if the mood is rite then you will know when the time is right because you wont want to stop it...it will naturally happen and will be really special that way.x
2007-08-04 06:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest you preserve yourself until you are more mature.
your doubt about having sex is an indication of your indecision.
you are not sure its the right or proper thing to do.
make a reasoned decision. do the right thing. consider all your doubts. it will make you a better person in the long run.
good luck.
2007-08-04 06:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex be4 marriage is a no no. if he really loves you then he would respect your decision to not have sex. if you really love him you guys should get married. think about it. does he really care for you does he really love you does he care about your inside more then your outside does he care what you think. even if he's going to college you guys could still stay in contact i'm sure whenever both of you guys have free time. w/ sex you will most likely get more attached to him and there is that chance you might get hiv stds aids pregnacy etc. hope this helps
2007-08-04 06:26:26 · answer #8 · answered by searchin4more 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys will say anything to have sex. He tells you he loves you and wants to express it through sex? Oh please thats the oldest trick in the book. He just is one horny dog that can't wait to bang the living daylights out of ya.
2007-08-04 06:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
check for STDs first, because the person that he had sex with had sex with other people so technically you are getting all the people's STDs in that chain reaction. if you are going to have sex use a condom and don't get too attached it matters if you want to because he could cheat on you anytime
2007-08-04 06:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're so unsure, don't do it. Sex is a big emotional thing, and you shouldn't do it if your not ready! Or you could do what I do and practise abstinence! It helps avoid so many problems!
2007-08-04 06:24:10 · answer #11 · answered by m1zzbehavin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋