does it mean it's all over?, here is my liitle story?

Question

i've been with this guy for 7 years, we recently had a newborn baby he is only 3 months. Our relationship has total changed he calls me a lots of names when i put food in my mouth i've gained like 25 pounds due to the pregancy. but i'm a cautious person when it comes to my health.I've told him i will definately work on my figure when my son is 6 months cos for now i beleive my body is still tender, he doesn't wanna buy my story i'm not a big person and i've never been i used to wear size 10 but i'm size 12 now. Anyways last week it was my birthday i did get nothing from him not even a card. I asked him he told me long and lame excuses. He said he was sorry but i know he just wanted to close the chapter. Now should i stay for the sake of my son or move on i grew up without a father so i vowed that my kids wont go thru the same procedure. But he has no respect for me whatsoever, he' s very good to our son though, but still he's abusing me emotional.

Answer 1

If you have been with this man for 7 years and he never did this before and he has now started there seems to be more to the picture.
Have you spoke to him about family counsling? I know that is a big help to many people out there.
If they relationship is not good between the both of you then you should never stick it out for the sake of children because in the end that can hurt them. Children learn by their parents and if your son grows up in your home listening to how he speaks to you or listening to you both fight that is how his future will be with relationships.
You can separate and still have a great relationship together with your son but not as a couple.
One of my close friends divorced when her son was 2 yrs old. They lived 1 block from each other and they became friends for their son. They are both re-married and made the arrangement neither would move until he graduated school. He is now 15 yrs old and has the best relationship with his mom and dad because they became friends.
Also, about putting of getting into shape... I've had 3 children and with my 1st gained 50lbs... Lost all but 5lbs before #2 and gained 40lbs with him... When #3 came along I was still about 10lbs heavier...
She was my last and I had C-Sections with all 3... At week 8 I began to work out using the Slim in 6 Program! This program is GREAT and will help you get your pre-pregnancy body back, you can pick it up at your local Target store or online at www.slimin6.com

Now, I'm not saying that you need to lose the weight for him. I'm just saying it will be easier to start it now rather than waiting 3 more months... When 3 months rolls around you'll put it off 3 more months cause now your son is more active and you can't fit it in your schedule. HTH

Answer 2

Your son will be able to survive without having a father 24/7. You were able to do it, even though it might have been hard, it was probably for the better. You need to look out for yourself before anything. Never stay in a relationship for the child. I almost did the same thing and I'm glad I didn't. You might meet a man that is so wonderful to you and not judge you for the weight gain that you will be glad you left. No one should ever have to put up with abuse whether its physical or emotional. My goodness....size 12 is not even that big...don't know what he's so worried about. I was a size 5 and went all the way up to a size 13 after my first. I'm finally down to a 9, but my boyfriend NEVER judged me for it. He said that our body is just our shell.

Answer 3

I think there are worse things than kids growing up without a father, and that's having parents who can't live with each other. Imagine it: two people who you grew up to know as parents... and they can't even respect each other. I can't say I've lived in that situation, but my mother and brother are a lot like that. I used to cry in my room and wish for it to stop.
If you want what is best for your kid, find a good father figure in another man. Where it may hurt to live without a biological father, if the new man is indeed a good man, your child will develop in a better environment.
To make it short: get out of there. No good can come of it. You can't live that way, and your child will grow up in a rough environment. It'll be good for both of you. Be warned: your current man may attempt to take custody of your kid. If you do make the move, make sure you have a good job and a decent record. Most kids go to their mothers, so you have an upper hand there.

Answer 4

have u talk to him about this?? tell him to respect u hun... I don't think ur son should be seeing his dad treating u bad emotionally and thinking that is okay to treat girls like this....



Before making any decision...how about some counseling so you guys can save ur relationship....If he doesn't want to and still treats u bad and u feeling sad all the time bc of this.. then tell him it's over.
He will still be the father of the child, since he does love him a lot...

Answer 5

Okay. I honestly think you should leave him. The thing is, you can find support for your child. You may even find another guy who will love you and care for you and your child. If he is emotinally abusing you, you cant expect any more respect for your son. For the both of you, stepping out of the relationship will be of good benefits.

Answer 6

talk to him about how you feel, tell him he hurts you with such words and that you need his support and assistance right now. if he does not change and does not want to hear a word about that, when he really is abusive and the only thing he is interested in is that you´ve gained (what is absolutely normal after a pregnancy), he is just not worth your love anymore.

Answer 7

get away from him. you don't deserve that. No one does. You don't have to let this go on. The way he's acting, it make become physical abuse. Your son will be fine without him. Would you rather stick around & let him grow up witnessing things like that?

Answer 8

If he's abusive, you need to get out. Tell him Marylin Monroe was a size 12.