I hate living with my family, but I don't have any place to go. What can I do?

Question

I can not get along with my family. I live with my dad, grandma, & younger brother. I can't take this living situation. Everyday my grandma argues and complains about dumb stuff. My Dad gets mad at me for dumb stuff. I'm 23 and I have to tell him everytime I go out. They treat me like a child. All we do so argue & fight in this house. I'm sick of it. 2 weeks ago my dad call the cops on me & my brother for no reason. I'm not a bad person. I went to college & got a degree. I'm back in school now getting a cerification in drug & alcohol counseling. I start my internship in the fall. I don't have any kids. I work & make my own money. My grandma always talks negative about me & my brother. She has a fit if there is 1 peice of paper on the dresser. Ever tho I have a degree I'm am not able to find a job that pays enough for me to live on my own. I am so stressed out that I'm ready to move to a homeless shelter. I'm just sick of the fights. What should I do?

I have a job. I don't make enough money to live on my own. Apartments are not creap. The low income apartments are all full here.

Answer 1

Move out. You're 23 yrs old!! You're a grown woman, you have a degree. The reason they treat you like a child is because you're still living off your parents like a child. Get a joan and place to live instead of sitting in front of a computer asking people what to do with your life.

Answer 2

So when is the right time to move out on your own?
You are 23 years old and have a college degree.
You want to complain about your father's and grandmother's rules saying they treat you like a child, when you live there taking advantage of them like you were a child.
Do you save any of your money?
How about looking in the paper for someone that needs a room mate? or has a room to rent?
That would be better than a homeless shelter wouldn't it?
What kind of answer are you looking for here?
You want all of us to tell you that you are perfectly alright living at home with a college degree and being 23 years old?
There are ways for you to move out, your just being too scared to do it.

Answer 3

You are 23, it's time to move out. You save up your money if you don't have enough and get an apartment and live your own life. If you have a friend talk about putting rent money together. Your family is bringing you down, and you have to get your future in tact, there are other alternatives - don't go to a shelter, you need to find 2 jobs that you can find that would work with your hours and save your money and get your life going if you're not happy living there. This is all in your power.

Answer 4

Why don't you search for an apartment with a roommate. Like that you can still live on your "own" but with half the cost. Maybe you know a friend who wants to move out also. If not you could always ask around at school. Plenty of college kids live together to avoid the high cost of living. You could also check Craigslist of whatever city you are in and search for a room/or roommate there! Just be careful!! Under housing there is a link that says: Rooms &shares.....Good luck to you!

Answer 5

i really sympathize 4 u when my family starts to fight its AWFUL ur stuck in a very difficult position maybe u could try living with them for a few more months or something and save ur money or u could get a roommate or try and move in with a friend who might give u lower rent I'm not sure maybe try working some more shifts if u have any extra time or moving 2 a different town with less expensive apartments u could go to a realistate agency maybe they could help u find a less expensive apartment good luck don't worry soon enough you'll get out of there and this will all just be a memory

Answer 6

Why are you all fighting? Is the money tight, not enough space in the house, people not pullin their load, etc? Older people are usually set in their ways and dont want to change. You have to look at it from everyones point of view. You all should try talkin it out. You are 23 yrs old. I don't know how much common sense you have, but that's no reason to be treated like a child. If they feel like its their house and they have to control everything, you should accept any legal, acceptable job that would cover your rent and bills. You may have to hold off on shoppin and anything thats not vital to your well being.

Answer 7

First of all ask yourself are you fueling at all the fire? I mean when your grandma says something do you answer back sarcastically? Or your Dad? Then if you can honestly say no, tell them Dad, Grandma, our time together living all within the same confines are almost over, do you think we can all live together in peace? I dont want to upset you and I love you both but can we try to live in peace and love? Also tell them one never knows in life what will happen, and say if something should happen to one of us, what will we remember? How we loved each other or the piece of clothing I left on the dresser. Tell them how upset and how unloved you feel and see what they say. If they cannot feel with this comment. Move and live cheap till you get the job you want.

Answer 8

Well, what are you doing living at home at 23? It's unnatural and a problem in 99 out of 100 cases. Get the hell out of that house and live on your own. You're young, work, work two jobs if you have to. Move somewhere where it's cheaper to live if you are in a high cost area.

Answer 9

hey really sorry to here about u. i think u should find a roommate n start living separately. try n get a room at ur school hostel if n e.try and stay clam when u r at home. dont argue wt ur grnanny. its better to get rid of her by just doing the things tht she says. also talk to ur dad n tell him that u r grown up now n u want to live ur own life. dont worry everything will be fine. be happy keep smiling.

Answer 10

PRAY!! I say this because my daughter and I have been living with my sister and her twins in OUR mother's house. I always get stuck watching them when she wants to go do something. Even though I pay my bills and some of hers she acts like it's her house and I'm lucky to be staying here. Long story short, I've been praying about it for a couple months and my cousin offered me a 2 bedroom, 2 bath mobile home...not much, but perfect for me and my daughter. We'll hopefully be moving in next month. Prayer works, nobody said it works fast, but it does work!!