My boyfriend and I are trying to spend more time together because he spends much time working and it's hard to find the time. We usually spend evenings together, and that's usually how it works. So last night he tells me that we wouldn't see each other that night because we will get together early for breakfast today, spend the day together, and so I plan my morning knowing that I have an entire day with my boyfriend. So, he calls and tells me that it will be an hour later, which I am cool with. No problem. He says he needs to hit the gym. I say ok, but then I find out he's still at home and will hit the gym eventually. So now, it's more like 2-3 hours later after he first said we would have breakfast. I'm thinking breakfast isn't going to happen. So, that's when I say it isn't cool for him to have me in limbo when he wouldn't dare do something like that to his clients at work, or group members at school. I ask why is it different for me? Am I completely at wrong here?
2007-08-04 07:05:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your completely wrong to put your life on hold for him. If he can't make breakfast, then don't complain (not that you are, just a figure of speech) just get on with your day. If he knows you'll stop and rearrange your schedule for him, then he may take advantage of that, OR he may sincerely not realize how thoughtless he is being, and its your job to communicate that to him (but not in a nagging way).
Good luck!
2007-08-04 07:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being outrageous. He put you off in the evening because you were getting together for breakfast, then he puts off breakfast.
He's probably burnt out from working too hard. So don't freak too much just yet. Let him know you're disappointed, because you were looking forward to seeing him. Next time he suggests breakfast, go to his place. That way if he's running late, or sleeping in, you're at least there with him. If he starts to make a habit of leaving you in the lurch like this, it's time to worry.
2007-08-04 07:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong for not feeling like a priority. He may just need some "alone" time, but he should be forthright with you rather than keep procrastinating and putting you off when he made plans. Can you go to the gym with him? I would deffinitely voice your opinion on how it makes you feel, go about your day as if you didn't have plans with him (like he has done with you) and ask him to call you about 30 mins. before he is ready to meet up b/c you are "running errands."
2007-08-04 07:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by KMacK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not wworng in feeling the way you do, and your boyfriend should put you first at all times. You should talk to him and let him know how you feel, and how you want to be treated in the relationship that you have. You need to be with someone who wants to be with you. Good Luck!
2007-08-04 07:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by PETEPUMA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone on this one!! That is soooo frustrating!!!!!! i would cool off and really sit him down and say that this isnt going to fly at all!!! I think he will continue to do that if its not nipped! I wish you luck with that and you are perfectly ok to be upset!
2007-08-04 07:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by MadKat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you arent wrong, you just need to talk to him about your boundaries--if you dont understand what Im talking about there are some great boundaries books.
2007-08-04 07:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by dove2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw ur not wrong!!! He is not a keeper let him go!!!
2007-08-04 07:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by sbapplebottom18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont know how to help you.
2007-08-04 07:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option
2007-08-04 07:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by eastcarolinagirl. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋