Family & Relationships - 12 May 2007

I am 31 and a mom of two. He is 39 and has a kid too. Well he says that he likes me and wants to be my friend and see if it goes somewhere. We are just friends.... I think that is a cop out. If you like someone, you take the risk and try being a couple for at least a month and spend time togehter that way. He obviously likes me... it is very obvious in his manner, eyes and the way he is around me. But he wants to be friends because he thinks it could become more. I am not like that at all. either you think I am worth the risk or not. I like to move fast. I want to spend the rest of my life with someone. I spent 6 years of my life waiting for men that I love... I don't wait anymore. If it is right, then it would happen. He wants his options open, then he can have them open.. but I am not interested in anything more then just seeing him very occasionally on a friendship level. I intend to be a VERY casual frind. Am I wrong to feel gilted? I don't 'do guy friends' very well at all.

2007-05-12 12:45:26 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Over the last few months, I have become really attracted to a male co-worker who I see from time to time at the office.
About a month and a half ago, we started emailing each other a couple of times a day, about random stuff.
It was getting pretty exciting as we have so much in common and I love his personality.
About a month ago he spotted me outside and asked me if I knew he was married.
I had a suspicion, but never asked him about it directly.
Once he told me he was married, I did back off a bit from the emails but we still checked in with each other less often.
Over the last 2 weeks, we have been to lunch together a couple of times and have shared a coffee break for an hour or two after work. Although I would never do anything with him knowing that he is married, is it wrong to hang out with him as a friend? I have told him this and he said he is fine with it.
My friends think I shouldnt even go to lunch with him, but I would really love for us to be friends. Please help!

2007-05-12 12:45:14 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

not to be messed up but this kid that is not even my friend keeps on coming over and its getting annoying because the only reason he comes over is for the internet at my house and to grind my geeres even more he says a bunch of sh!t about me and people and last time he came with 2 other kids i dont know please help give me some advice to get rid of his a$$ for once i cant say nothing messed because hes the son of my dads best friend but like i said just because our parents are friends doesnt mean i want to be his HELP!!!! CAN'T STAND HIM

2007-05-12 12:44:33 · 10 answers · asked by Adrian O 1 in Friends

My wife won't have sex with me or anyone! I tried talking to her, caressing, doctor's, all kinds of stuff. She loves me and is not messing around. She asks me to wait. I am but its to the point now when i see a woman i get wet. I can only "slap the monkey" for so long. I really need some kind of relief. I thougnt of buying some "things" but I would have to hide it. Some friends of hers are willing to help if you know what i mean. I don't think that's a good idea. If I had to I would prefer a stranger with no strings attached. I am going crazy!

2007-05-12 12:43:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a cool car, a bigger house than yours and may be being hotter than your gf/wife? And if your gf keeps groaning on about how you don't even know driving and you don't give her enough money to buy exclusive clothes...etc. Will you divert your angry to this female neighbour, trying to get her in bed as a revenge to reclaim your manliness back??? because I suspect this guy gave me the booty call for those reasons. Is it possible for a guy to do that for those reasons? Guys' true opinion please.

2007-05-12 12:39:42 · 3 answers · asked by lily on pool 2 in Singles & Dating

Broken English = More Chicks?

2007-05-12 12:39:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I don't care about it because people who know us knew that she is not mine.So I really don't care people misunderstand or not.

2007-05-12 12:39:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So anyways, there is this guy that I like, and today he was like all over me, and we almost had sex, but I didn't really want to because I didn't know what was happening. I asked him if we were going out and he said that we were just hooking up. That made me upset, because I felt used. So then he told me that he thinks I'm cute but his ex left him broken hearted. Should I wait until he's over his girlfriend, or is he using me? I really like this guy..

2007-05-12 12:38:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My partner says that I am 'indiscreet' with others about our relationship - and says that I often say stuff about him that mortifies him. I think I am just being open as I feel that I don't have a lot to be discreet about. Having said that he recently 'almost' had an affair with someone - and I now blame myself for driving him to seek comfort from another woman because of my behaviour. How can I stop myself from acting indiscreetly especially with my close friends?

2007-05-12 12:33:59 · 26 answers · asked by Buggirl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it cheating when you are flirtying with people on the internet?

and if it isn't to you would you still stop or minimize it if you knew it was hurting the person you were with?

2007-05-12 12:30:19 · 31 answers · asked by xxteenage_wastelandxx 2 in Singles & Dating

My family and my mom had a HUGE fight, and now my mom is going on strike, not talking, cleaning, driving my family anywhere, ect and tomorrow is mothers day! i have no idea what to do! she said that my family doesnt appriciates what she does for us, then started crying like a lot. I havent seen her cry like that ever since my grandmother passed away. Im really stressing out and i dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

2007-05-12 12:29:50 · 16 answers · asked by imxcut♥ 3 in Family

Under my exboyfriends phone he had me listed as his cousin D... Why would someone do that?

He let other people look into his phone but he wouldn't even let me touch his phone...

He would always tell me to "go over there" when he was on myspace. I knew he was talking to other girls...

but do you guys think he could hace taken it beyond that?

2007-05-12 12:28:21 · 5 answers · asked by xxteenage_wastelandxx 2 in Singles & Dating

and have witnesses to varify it can i legally do something about it...this girl is lieing stalking my husband and spreading rumors about me all over town its been going on for about a week and last night she stopped my husband and tried to tell him a whole bunch of lies me and my husband want to know if i can legally stop this matter

2007-05-12 12:27:45 · 12 answers · asked by Brenda A 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

i have a friend who has a friend who will be tweenty five in Septmber who is trying to get a girl who is about to be fifthteen in September pregnant?

2007-05-12 12:27:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when I got piss ed off I sent my mother in law an email telling her how hurt I was that she forgot my daughter's birthday. My mother in law has sent me two emails now making excuses and bit ching. She basically blames me and now is completely pissed off at me for bringing it up. I am so angry that she has turned this back on me, not caring about how her actions have affected my daughter. Till this day she hasn't wished my daughter a happy birthday. I have vowed now to step back and stay away from my mother in law. (this isn't the first time she has forgotten an important holiday with my girls, and they are starting to notice) I have even vowed to not give or recieve anything for her for mother's day. Is this right? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Should I just say "oh, well she doesn't care it's my daughter's birthday" and give her something for mother's day pretending she's the greatest grandmother? Does everyone have problems with their mother in law too??!!

2007-05-12 12:23:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-05-12 12:20:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-05-12 12:20:30 · 2 answers · asked by favorite_aunt24 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-05-12 12:16:46 · 6 answers · asked by Rufus121 2 in Singles & Dating

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=60163308
i want to know because i think i am and i want to ask this girl out but i need to know this first. yes i am a bit unsecure about my self but o well thanks in advance

2007-05-12 12:15:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, me and my ex-boyfriend of 16 months broke up about 6 weeks ago. Between now and then, I've had two boyfriends (one was just for the rebound and only lasted for 25 hours, and the other one I'm happily with right now). When we first broke up, the ex acted and told everyone that he was SO over me, and at first that hurt me. But I'm fine now and have moved on to someone better. A week after the split, I'd catch him going out of his way to get a glimpse of me, smiling at me randomly, and just recently he's been trying to make eye contact with me and walks distantly behind me in the halls. And ever since I've gotten the new boyfriend, I've noticed it more and more. Every time I mention this guy, my ex makes a face and turns away, even though his "boys" new that he liked a different ex (not me) and wanted to ask her out, but then he ended up not wanting to anymore. And just some extra info--my new boyfriend is one of his friends. My question is--what's going on here? What's his problem?

2007-05-12 12:13:36 · 12 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Singles & Dating

No, I'm not going to harm her physically: RELAX !
She wants me to financially support her while she's sleeping around with her new lover.
We're divorced but she still lives at my place. Her new lover wants her to move in with him. She sleeps most nights at his place, but all her funiture is here. (is place is way too small !)
I just got a new job and I wish to move to a new apartment closer to work, but she's still in school till September and she wants me to stay and pay the rent. She has no job, studies full time, and the new guy won't pay a dime.
So WHAT DO I DO??
PLEASE; YOU DECIDE:

1) Stay till September, pay the rent until she gets a job around September, then leave. (while she's screwing him nightly).

2) Give my 60 day's notice now, and find a new place and let her fend for herself, possibly moving in with him when I go.

When we got married I promised to support and provide for her forever, now she's angry at me for changing my promise.

You decide her fate:

2007-05-12 12:12:15 · 35 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-12 12:10:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend was raised Christian and still is. She managed to avoid sex until date raped at 19. Didn't report it to police, or tell anyone until her parents found receipts from a clinic STD test. A month or 2 l8tr hooked up with a guy who was her boyfriend, at least once, maybe twice or more, don't remember, but then dumped him cuz she didn't want to do it anymore.

Since then she has had three boyfriends, none of whom she had sex with. She did fool around with one like she and I have fooled around (dry sex). Her last boyfriend she DIDN'T fool around with.

Here's what bothers me. She expects me to wait until marriage but she ain't no virgin! I'll admit I ain't either and have had more partners than her. But the difference is that I was not Christian when I was having sex, she was.

She had dry sex with me a couple times because she didn't want to lose me, but days later regretted it and said no more. I feel like the other guy was worth going all the way to keep but I aint...

2007-05-12 12:09:34 · 14 answers · asked by ben b 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-05-12 12:09:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-05-12 12:07:21 · 13 answers · asked by "M" 3 in Friends

I fell in love with my best friend. He told me he loved me, lied and got back with his ex. I was left alone to pick up the pieces. I was so in love that I still continued to be there for him. I still had sex with him, hung out with his fam, went places with him. It was just like a relationship only he wouldn't leave his girl. Well after 5 mths of games I quit. I moved onto someone we both know. Now he is blowing me up. Out of nowhere he tells me he misses me and is calling me baby. Where was this guy mths ago? And why is he doing this now??? He's admitted he is jealous, but why does it take this for men to come around?

2007-05-12 12:04:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I"ve known this guy for almost 8 years now. we talked almost daily, three or four times a day. he's driven 800 miles to see me twice. He's married of course. His wife knows me, his son knows me. I've spoken with all of them. this last time he was here, his last words to me were "I love you", so I haven't heard from him in 8 weeks, I heard from his wife though, so finally, I can't stand it any longer, I had to call and make sure he was okay, we are friends, he drove 800 miles to see me, twice even. Anyway, I called, wife answered, told her I needed to speak with him, and he called me back, he stated we were on speakerphone, said he told me I would 'probably' never hear from him again when he left here, I told him he did not say that, he said he did, I said I guess I just didn't listen then, he said don't call again, don't call 'here' again, am I reading something into this? why did he inform me of the speakerphone? and 'probably'? what's up with that?

2007-05-12 12:00:16 · 11 answers · asked by sickittyt 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I are only 20 years old and his in the US navy as a corpsman. and he loves his jobs. I was woundering How do the wifes of Military men, How do you feel when you know what kind of job your husband has and you know the job you get or have isnt as high as your husbands. How does that make you feel. Does your husbands ever push you to do something great cause they know they did something great and they want you to do the same but that you would never be able to do what they did.

How do face the fact that your husband is higher then you how does that not bring you down.
Im going through a really hard time. I want to do something great with my life but knowing what my husaband job and what he does. I feel like If I do anything he wont be proud or that I will feel like I did something great with my life

2007-05-12 11:54:41 · 16 answers · asked by allie laught alot 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I use to go to school with this one guy that was gay, and I did not llike being anywhere near him; that guy was sick. Its not the gay part that bothered me, its the fact that he was also a cross-dresser. I swear that it left a scar in my memory. I so disliked him for that reason, is that wrong?

(He did not use the boys or girls bathroom, he always went to the school office bathroom.)

2007-05-12 11:52:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I know I am beautiful, smart, and have a great personality. Is that intimidating to a guy?
Cause I know guys like a girl who is confident, but what if the girl has to much confidence?

2007-05-12 11:51:44 · 9 answers · asked by Katy 2 in Singles & Dating