I"ve known this guy for almost 8 years now. we talked almost daily, three or four times a day. he's driven 800 miles to see me twice. He's married of course. His wife knows me, his son knows me. I've spoken with all of them. this last time he was here, his last words to me were "I love you", so I haven't heard from him in 8 weeks, I heard from his wife though, so finally, I can't stand it any longer, I had to call and make sure he was okay, we are friends, he drove 800 miles to see me, twice even. Anyway, I called, wife answered, told her I needed to speak with him, and he called me back, he stated we were on speakerphone, said he told me I would 'probably' never hear from him again when he left here, I told him he did not say that, he said he did, I said I guess I just didn't listen then, he said don't call again, don't call 'here' again, am I reading something into this? why did he inform me of the speakerphone? and 'probably'? what's up with that?
2007-05-12 12:00:16 · 11 answers · asked by sickittyt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your information was very detailed and I am suprised if you have not been able to see the handwriting on the wall. Friendships with married men are almost impossible. For yours to have lasted as long as 8 years is a plus. I am surprised his wife allowed this 800 mile travel not once - but twice! The speakerphone - was for his wiife's benefit. (I am sure she was listening to every word) I'll bet you the last trip was the last trip. I am sure his wife was probably fed up with this 'relationship' and asked him to cut it off. What you are reading is this married man and his family no longer desire this kind of friendship with you. I am sure this hurts because of the length of time you have been friends, but be thankful that you had 8 years and turn your directions toward something or someone else. Someone who is not married. Good luck to you.
2007-05-12 12:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the deal is his wife did NOT know about you until he came to visit you. Now he has evidently been given the ultimatum that either he break it off with you forever or she is going to divorce him. I'm sure he told you he "loved you" because he was thinking he could come back that 800 miles to see you again. Somehow his wife found out the real reason for the trip was you. You were on speaker phone because his wife was there listening and making sure that he broke off any relationship with you. Do yourself a favor and don't mess with married men. No matter if they tell you they are getting a divorce or their wives are fat, ugly and she hates him. This is a guy that just likes to play around and has no intention of leaving his wife and family. You are just a toy to him. The sooner you understand this, the sooner you can get into a real relationship with a future. There is hardly ever a future with a married man.
2007-05-12 19:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...so u guys are like best friends or something. It seems like u love him more than a friend and u were calling and bugging the house, his wife could fo taken it the wrong way. I'm sorry but if a close girl friend was calling my house looking to talk to u all the time i'd get the wrong idea too. His wife probably told him to tell u to back off. She may think something is going on and wanted to know what u guys were talking about so maybe thats why he put u on speaker phone. And he probably said all those things so his wife could hear that there was nothing between u guys. U should maybe try emailing him and seeing what is actually going on.
2007-05-12 19:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Liz C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helloooooooo.. the man is married. Leave him alone. His wife knows about you and is not comfortable with him seeing you. He's HER husband. Thats why you were on speakerphone. Because a husband and wife should not hide anything from eachother. Move on. Don't call him again. Leave him alone. His wife doesn't want you in his life. Even if you're just friends, she probably feels like you are too close to him, and is afraid of him having an affair. Just let him go.
2007-05-12 19:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your seriously causing drama that you don't need. I mean come on he is married..what do u think is really going to happen. Sure he said he loved you but it could be a different type of love that he has for you that is different from his wife and son. You are seriously gonna make ur self crazy if you keep dwelling on this. I bet his wife made him put you on speaker phone bc more than likey she knows something is up and is starting not to trust him and by putting you on speaker phone he is showing her there is nothing to worry about. Let it go and move on...if he wants to talk to you he has your number and will call and if he doesn't oh well. Go out there and find someone who will appreciate you for all of you and not part of you. I know it's hard but just walk away. It will be worth it.
2007-05-12 19:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by barbiebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the wife does not approve of the relationship you have with her husband. She probably voiced her opinion after he got back from seeing you. He had you on speaker to prove to her that he was really speaking to you. I think that you should leave him alone. Even if he did say, "I love you" he must love/respect his wife somewhat to have you on speaker to end the friendship. It sucks when you love someone that you cannot be with, or who doesn't love you back in the same way you love them. Try to move forward, focus on yourself, the right guy will come along. Good luck.
2007-05-12 19:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE is MARRIED! Get help and get over him. You do not ask a man to live his children. It is WRONG! He told you on the speaker phone so his wife could hear. so she knows that you heard. He chose her. Get over it.
2007-05-12 19:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by wicked wench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's married. leave him alone with his wife and kids for God's sake...find your very own man and do not steal anyones man. where's your morals? have you ever sat at the church and listen to the priest preaching about ten commandments?.
Get a life and dont get involve to a married person.
2007-05-12 19:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that this is a bad situation and definitely get out of it. It will only be trouble. so just get out of it as quick as you can. like NOW! because his wife knows...
2007-05-12 19:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Knockout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has no real intention towards you. You should find someone who isn't so unattainable.
2007-05-12 19:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋