Okay, me and my ex-boyfriend of 16 months broke up about 6 weeks ago. Between now and then, I've had two boyfriends (one was just for the rebound and only lasted for 25 hours, and the other one I'm happily with right now). When we first broke up, the ex acted and told everyone that he was SO over me, and at first that hurt me. But I'm fine now and have moved on to someone better. A week after the split, I'd catch him going out of his way to get a glimpse of me, smiling at me randomly, and just recently he's been trying to make eye contact with me and walks distantly behind me in the halls. And ever since I've gotten the new boyfriend, I've noticed it more and more. Every time I mention this guy, my ex makes a face and turns away, even though his "boys" new that he liked a different ex (not me) and wanted to ask her out, but then he ended up not wanting to anymore. And just some extra info--my new boyfriend is one of his friends. My question is--what's going on here? What's his problem?
2007-05-12 12:13:36 · 12 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'll be honored to give advice to a top contributer...thanks for asking:
my take on this is that he IS probably "over you"....but there are some shadows/pieces that are left, if u catch what i am saying. This guy seems to be a bit jealous of ur current relationship, but just because he still has a temporary mindset of the past16 months together. Usually (not in all cases) if its a close relationship, but not a deep one in the sexual sense, its the guy who requires more time to recover than the girl. I am not bashing either gender...guys just have a slower time adjusting than girls, and its not because we're less intelligent...and its not because girls can forget guys easier...its just the way each of us are. I think eventually this will play out, and he will eventually get rid of the remenence of the relationship. Be patient, he will catch on....eventually.
2007-05-12 12:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by JMAC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you only broke up 6 weeks ago after being together for over a year, i dont get how you can have another 2 boyfriends, and he probably doesnt either. hes probably just uncomfortable and maybe a little jealous that your obviously moving on.
2007-05-12 21:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by sophia bush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy
2007-05-12 19:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his problem is simple its the if i cant have you noone can attitude that most men and women have when they do the breaking up or are on the other end. he knows you have interest for another so that is bothering him since you are giving your attention to someone other than him you see. as long as he respects your space and relationship with your new boyfriend then let him be him and you just be you
2007-05-12 19:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want you to be happy he wants you to go back with him and you girls will be ok for a few months or weeks then the same old sh!t will happen again and he will be an a$$hole i know because my ex does it to me and i took him back and he created on me and now i am moving on and he is back again dont take him back because then you'll just keep falling for his bull and thats no good .... i knwo because thats what i am doing :(
2007-05-12 19:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by deviously_devine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's called Jealousy. He's Jealous because you are showing another guy attention. And the kind of attention that your giving is the kind you gave to him for 16 months so he's not used to it. And he knows your over him and he's pissed because he knows he can't have you.
2007-05-12 19:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a whole lotta Drama girl. Keeping yourself involved with people in 'circles' will always have all of this big D. Stop trying to figure him out and move on like you claim to have done.
2007-05-12 19:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealious he does not want you with anyone else .16 months is a long time he probaly still has feelings for you. the question is do you still have feelings for him? and if you do maybe you guys should reconnect
2007-05-12 19:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by lorlor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the alpha dog syndrom, you feed a dog and everytime he's hungry he come back. if you slept with him this is the answer. if you did not, then he is prbobly infactuated. best advice, don't have sex until marriage, then the hormones are kept in check a little better and you won't get HPV/HIV
2007-05-12 19:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you even worried about ur ex? looks like you can't get over ur ex. Ur sleeping with the enemy. That's all i got to say....throw him a drunkin money!
2007-05-12 19:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Danny . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋