My wife won't have sex with me or anyone! I tried talking to her, caressing, doctor's, all kinds of stuff. She loves me and is not messing around. She asks me to wait. I am but its to the point now when i see a woman i get wet. I can only "slap the monkey" for so long. I really need some kind of relief. I thougnt of buying some "things" but I would have to hide it. Some friends of hers are willing to help if you know what i mean. I don't think that's a good idea. If I had to I would prefer a stranger with no strings attached. I am going crazy!
2007-05-12 12:43:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do anything with any strangers or neighbors/friends. That will just make the matter worse. Just be patient, talk to her and stuff, you know?
2007-05-12 12:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see three choices:
1. Wait, like she asks you to do.
2. Get something going on the side.
3. Divorce.
My guidance: Wait as long as you can.
No. 2 runs the risk of falling in love with someone else and going through the hell of the pain you would be causing her. You also don't want her friends to "help." It would hurt her more.
Divorce is the straightforward, honest approach. It involves no deception and it should definitely be considered if you can wait no longer.
You are being called upon to muster every ounce of character you possess. You will look upon this time of your life years from now as a time you were tested under duress.
2007-05-12 12:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right about not taking her friends up on their offers. I would definitely tell her that I can't wait. Messin around would delay sex even more. Tell her that you are getting impatient. There is other things you can do besides sex that'll please you such as oral intercourse or touching. If its the act of sexual intercourse that bothers her tell her that you are willing to do other things. Being that you guys are married you shouldn't be going through this with her but it might be a self conscious thing. Maybe she don't feel attractive anymore. You need to address her about this and find out everything that could be wrong.
2007-05-12 12:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shar D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Up to you but a stranger you do not know about. With her friend you know what kind of a person she is and can reach an understanding. It has already been discussed since you are suggesting the are willing. Just keep things discreet.
2007-05-12 12:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing that physical touch is part of the complete puzzle. I understand that. If you love her and want it to work, stay and & ask her to share her concerns with you. Do something different together (trip, picnic, hike, just get out of the house!)
Once there, open up an honest conversation, and listen. You might learn more about your wife and discover the problem in the meantime.
2007-05-12 12:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing would to go to marriage counseling. Tell her that you've tried your best talking to her about it, but because she refuses to address the problem, only a professional can help. I think that by doing this, you can be completely honest with her without getting into hot water because it'll be mediated by the counselor. And if she refuses, you may want to consider a divorce because this shows that she is immature, and unwilling to compromise which is not good for a marriage.
2007-05-12 12:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by LB422 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a couple of days, then cool your jets and wait. If we're talking weeks or months, then something is seriously wrong. If she will go to the doctor with you to be examined, great. If not, she's cheating on you. Bringing in some of her friends is definitely out. If she is frigid because she is having intimacy issues then screwing her friends will really seal it. Good luck.
2007-05-12 12:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Woody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear there may have been some problem with ur wife for not having performing intercourse with u. U please lay on bed keeping her in ur lap and say to her that she should hold ur pennis in her hand. u keep on squeezing her boobs,touch her buttocks,message her thighs, she will be heated up and will make herself available for sex. If not ask her to give hand blow till u come.U touch her virgina, massage it slowly slowly,put finger inside and move. Kiss her,kiss virgina.Do it in love all the times. Don't make relations with her friends, it will spoil ur relations. Do as I suggested, u will enjoy, try to find the causes by loving her.May someone would have frightened her that sex give pain etc. etc. or she may not be liking to be pregnant.
2007-05-12 12:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by desigob_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all if your ha- ott it should not be a problem or she is a lesbo, pregnant , or going through life crises that she cant talk to you about dont do it with her friends that is just sick and it will feel acward and sick also try to go to therapy if it gets bad and try doing some thing romantic or staying away from woman so you dont wet yourself oh wear diapers if you have to lol im serious she could be going through some thing or cheating so just watch out
2007-05-12 12:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont b a despo!!!
be honest n loyal to ur wife..
i am not sure wht her problem is...but u need to find out the problem with her....ask her nicely without sounding desperate about sex!!!...talking is best rather u having sex with other woman...tht wud hurt her feeling n probs lead to divorce.
Well..i dont know why she is such...but find out if her marriage was forcably done!! i mean arrange or wht/?
besides if its no such thing...just ask her whts troubling her...may b she is quite scared of the thought...or had worse or bad experiences in previous relationships or anything!!!
be nice and friendly...tht will help u both in ur long run and commitment to each other!...stop being so despo...and figure out ur own problems with her by trying to understand her and speaking to her...k
~~Good luck@@~~
2007-05-12 12:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by answer it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋