Family & Relationships - 20 January 2007

Im 22yrs old and im sick of men treating me like crap... This week my boyfriend broke up with me.. he said "i think i was just with you cos i wanted to show you off to my friends cos your hot.. but your not the right girl for me"

Ive only ever had 3 ppl that i felt strongly about... one was him! I know im only young... but im sick of men treating me all nice until they get whatever it is they want!!

I always seem to like the pricks aswell... never the nice ones

maybe I need therapy.. or maybe i was meant to be a lesbian..

GAH!

2007-01-20 17:34:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anna L 1 in Singles & Dating

I left a note for him in his backpack, it said "hey beau u seem like a cool guy and i was wondering if u wanted to hang out sometime? (#)...we arn't exactly friends yet, but we have talked before/ complimented, whatever
He texted me with an answer (pansy!) saying "You seem like an awesome girl too, but i practically have a gf, but yeah call me sometime"
The next day i tried to talk to him, but he was either really shy, or hostile! lol idk which one.
I sort of was sad, so i didnt really talk to him or look at him, but the one time i did, he was lookin at me, only it wasnt an "I like you" look, it looked very concerned.
We ignore eachother in the halls, so i took to the hint to back off..i deleted his messages, number, i dont look for him anymore, and i am done watching his hockey games or talking about him.
I guess im an attractive girl, but did i creep him out before? Are these good steps to getting over it?

2007-01-20 17:34:16 · 4 answers · asked by kat 3 in Singles & Dating

This is not a joke/troll! I'm devastated! I feel like I'm being emasculated.

2007-01-20 17:33:48 · 9 answers · asked by Hank Hill 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Married for two years and I was full of of love with my wife. Appenrantly my wife is very close to a lady friend and expressed a lot about herself. Her friend could not take it any more and called me the details: A cousin who is staying with us is having an affair with my wife. We were planning a family and her good friend asked what if you get pregnant to your husband, she simply replied " well he will never know it's my cousins child." For what the friend has told me is so bazaar but she did tell me another story which is true and could only have been told by my wife to her. It's terrible to accept as the contrast from such a love has now turned into bitterness and putting our marriage onto rocks. My wife has told me a year ago that she had a previous 2 year affair before I met her. It is really heart breaking.

2007-01-20 17:32:52 · 7 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What should we pay for when it comes to the majority of our wedding party being from out of state? My fiance and I are trying to keep the costs to a minimum because we're paying for pretty much everything ourselves, and money is tight. Due to the time we want to have the wedding, we had to plan it for my "hometown" area which is another state. We really want our closest friends to be a part of the wedding, but we're afraid of the costs. Would it be out of line to ask them if they could pay for the majority of their stuff, with us throwing in gas money and a night in a hotel?

My fiance graduated last may, and I will be graduating this may, so we're the typical "broke college" kids.

2007-01-20 17:32:28 · 14 answers · asked by the future mrs 1 in Weddings

2007-01-20 17:31:34 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Friends

There's this guy I really like, and I mean REALLY like. We're just friends at the moment, but we talk, flirt, and laugh constantly and I think there could be something more there. My instincts definitely tell me this. We often lock eyes with each other for up to 5 seconds, and he's told me that he thinks I'm good looking. There's never a dull moment in our conversations. He often comes over to sit by me in class, and I catch him staring at me sometimes. The problem is, I'm way to shy to make a move---well, I have too much pride. How do I get him to admit his feelings for me or take things to the next level?

2007-01-20 17:31:12 · 10 answers · asked by Michaela J 1 in Singles & Dating

ok just before christmas me and my friend met these guys they tryed to pick us up and i gave him my number and he was thrilled right so we went some where else but ended up going back to see them all night he had his full attention on me evan wen me and my friend hit the dance floor he stayed behind waiting for us with my male friend and his gf will i came back he ended up asking me to go to his house knowing i had that time of the month cos my friend told him so i went back he was soo lovely he droped me home in the morning and asked if he sould see me again ...... didnt call so we called him a week later he was away in another state for work he works like 90 hrs a week and he said he would like to hang out wen he got back.. didnt msg me till the other day saying .... keep this night free this guy is having a going away party and he wants u and ur friend to be their... ok i dont get it help me?????

2007-01-20 17:30:44 · 7 answers · asked by nicola f 2 in Singles & Dating

A girl that I like is a waitress at the restaurant that my brother and brother-in-law took me to tonight; my brother-in-law decided to be a little forward and had us put in her section. After she had taken our order I asked them what they thought: my in-law noted that she wore a ring with a heart on her finger with the heart facing in; this he stated meant she already had a boyfriend. My brother said that she had little red spots, or marks on the back of her arms; this means that she is a smoker. That and lately she has been rather brief and all business towards me, as she was tonight (I understand that she IS working and has to hurry, but normally since we are acquaintances she relaxes a bit). Does anyone think that what my family said has any truth there, or are they just busting me? I know that the surest and quickest way to find out is to ask her (as my brother has stated this numerous times) but I’m rather shy by nature and not as confident as my brother-in-law.

2007-01-20 17:30:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i could go on forever, but i am going to try to keep thid brief as possible. a while back a girl sent me all her yahoo messenger archives over myspace. she had been talking to my husband for a couple weeks from what i can tell. i know she could have altered the conversations but he admitted to talking to her and telling her some of our personal business. here's the kicker- he also admitted to sending her NUDE PHOTOS of himself! i was very hurt but i've decided to stay with him for now because of my own personal reasons, so please don't just tell me to leave him. my question is how can i set him up to see if he'll do this again? i set up a fake myspace account to try to catch him, but i think he figured that it was me. i am not very computer savvy. can anyone help? i want to know if there is any way i can catch him if he is up to this again.

2007-01-20 17:30:24 · 15 answers · asked by sarah s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-20 17:30:00 · 4 answers · asked by anand 1 in Singles & Dating

At work, my responsibilities require me to travel to another company to complete various business transactions. I often deal with a particular girl who works at the other company. Sometimes I feel a vibe when I talk to her, but I always dismiss it as mere fanciful thought. Today, my coworker tells me that he's been feeling the 'vibe' for some time, and only when she talks to me and no one else. "She digs you," were his exact words.

1. how do I know "she digs" me? the signs?

2. She and I, at this juncture, are persuing different goals. She is a student at a renowned university, while I work full time at a subsitance wage while taking college courses at night. She has a good chance at financial success, while I may be doomed to a lesser success. Should I persue this relationship? Would it be fair to her?

Also I will be promoted soon and my duties will change. I will not see her again if I do not act soon-- within one business day.

Should I? Shouldn't I? Mismatch? Tips

2007-01-20 17:29:24 · 3 answers · asked by David M 2 in Singles & Dating

my girlfriend is 19 years old and she has a 2 year old son. I love my girlfriend more than anything, weve been dating for almost a year and a half now. Her son is so irritating though. Everytime she puts him down he cries. Hes constantly getting in our bed at night and laying on top of me which wakes me up. He always wants to be on my lap or something. I didnt really hate him until the other day when he called me daddy. It sounds sweet but it disgusted me !!!! We cant even have sex anymore without him interupting us !! I dont know what to do about it what do you think ?

2007-01-20 17:28:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I need a little help here!
Thanks!

2007-01-20 17:28:06 · 11 answers · asked by DRNoraSarasin 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-20 17:26:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex (father of my 3 year old) (been apart for 11/2 years) has joint custody, he is so cruel and mean to me, he has lied to and about me, called me names, vandalized my new truck, shoved me around once in front of our daughter and he is extremely controlling and a hypocrite he lays down ridicules rules and then he breaks them example:we went to mediation and his demand was my b/f of 7months was not allowed to spend the night when my daughter was here, now he is dating someone for the past 4 months and my daughter tells me that last night she slept with daddy and charlene in daddys bed, like what the F, I have put up with so much bulsht from this man. My daughter loves him and I never tell her what a jerk he is, I just grin and bear all the crap he puts me through for her, but I am afraid she'll think me weak when she's older because I put up with it. what do you think you would do in a situation like this?

2007-01-20 17:25:15 · 9 answers · asked by anjilla_kohl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

she definetly thinks im attractive because shes really flirty with me.i also think shes really attractive too. ive known her for quite a while and she and her boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now. she reffered her boyfriend to me as her "fiancee" but just a couple of days ago i saw her upset i asked her what was wrong and she told me her boyfriend cheated on her again. what should i do? should i try to talk 2 her? should i tell her how i feel?
any answers will be appreciated.

2007-01-20 17:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-01-20 17:23:59 · 5 answers · asked by bobcat70 2 in Singles & Dating

The truth finally came out over three years ago. He know that me and my sister knows, but he has never brought it up to us. Our half sister lives in another country and we have never met her. My mom had told us (in tears) and still gives him grief over it. I love my dad and don't hold the affair against him, but I don't want him or I to feel awkward if I ask. What is a good way to bring it up?

2007-01-20 17:23:07 · 11 answers · asked by RunsWithKnife 2 in Family

How about if you think they would be a bad influence on your children and you do not want them around your husband's family?

2007-01-20 17:22:20 · 3 answers · asked by HuniBuniBee 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

so i went on this cruise, and met this guy. he was really nice and we hung out a lot, but i never really had an interest in him, until the 4th night. that night we just hung out me and him the entire night laying down and talking. he was really sweet, and i knew that i'd prob start liking him. we were talking about everything, and the topic of me being a virgin came up. i told him i was a virgin, and he didn't believe me. he wasn't a virgin, but he told me i should really wait for someone i like, and then he said "and it's not going to be me." by the end of the night we ended up making out, and he slept over my room, and he even asked me if the next night we were gonna hang out. the next night he was in the casino, so my friend went to go get him from the casino to hang out. sure enough, he wanted to and came within 10 minutes(meanwhile he had been winning a lot of money), and he came to hang out. we went to his room, and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally, he didn't ask me flat out, and it happened the way i wanted it to, in the moment. when he was putting the condom on however, i asked him what he was doing, and he said "nothing"..i made sure he had a condom on, and he was really gentle, but he didn't talk much. at one point i asked him if he still had the condom on, and he let me feel to make sure it was still on. after we had sex, we went to the casino, and then i left to go to my room to lay down. he said he'd come back to hang out, but i didn't expect him to really. sure enough, he came knocking on my door to spend the night. the next night he had been looking for me, and he thought i was with another guy,so he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. by the 8th night we met up eventually..and i explained to him that i wasn't with another guy, and we ended up hanging out the whole entire night, me, my friend, and him. he kept saying how i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and that i would be his girlfriend if we lived in the same place. it just so happened i was going to college where he lived in about a year, and he knew that. that night we were hooking up again, and everything led to sex, and this time was even better. he said to me "you said you were a virgin right"..so i said "you remember what happened the other night right?"..and he was like "yeah, we had sex"..so i guess he was asking to be reassured that i was a virgin before him? then we were doing it for a long time, and he was talking a lot more, and physically helping me out, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and that i need to tell him when to stop or when it hurts. i was in a lot of pain, so he suggested taking the condom off to see if it felt any better, it felt a lot better and it was only for 2 seconds, but he did say to me "the only thing is..if we take the condom off you might have to give me head"..well..i didn't end up giving him head, because i didn't want to. that night he slept over again, and we had plans to hang out the whole entire day the next day. the last night, we hung out the whole night..and then he kissed me on the lips goodbye. we exchanged myspaces and aim screen names, and after the cruise he commented me right away. we had talked back and forth for awhile..and at one point i thought he was avoiding me..so i wrote him a letter saying if you don't write back then i know you don't want anything to do with me, but he did write back, so that showed me that he cared. i ended up surprising him and visiting him one day, and he was really happy to see me. he told me i need to call next time so we can hang out..and he wanted to make sure i was definitely still coming to college near him. we talked for awhile, and then i had to leave..so he kissed me on the lips goodbye, and wrote to me about a week later asking me how my trip was, and telling me to call him next time.

1.does it sound like he liked me a lot?
2.why would he ask me if i was a virgin when he knew i was already?
3.why did i need to give head if he didn't have a condom on?
4. do you think the first time we had sex he just had intentions of using me? and then the second time he realized he liked me a lot, and we were something more? but why would he come back to lay with me after the first time we had sex?

2007-01-20 17:22:05 · 8 answers · asked by olaa l 1 in Singles & Dating

after obligation expences no avalable money.
we have have 3 boys and the middle boy Jacob B Day is on the 24Th of this month also money is aside for hid b day. But no plans as of yet not sure what to do.
Its his big 30 so I would like him to remeber it. my 30th was last june and same situation no money. and nothing done but a nother day.fathers day was same weekend kids made him some thing in school. I got him a pack of cigs, cycle trader and a little play money toy.

2007-01-20 17:21:54 · 11 answers · asked by daizy11@verizon.net 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay so about a year ago, I introduced two of my friends to each other (male and female) and they hit it off and started a relationship. The guy with me was never cute or romantic or anything so I wasn't sure how it'd work out but things went great for about 2-3 months. Then my friend thinks she might be pregnant with his kid and he flips out due to his own issues and ends it with her. She's devasted, can't understand why they broke up, etc and for a year she's talked on and off with him. Recently, they've been talking more and more and she believes he's being sincere and misses her and she's eating what he says right up. She asks me what I think and I tell her but it goes in one ear and out the other so what can I do to show her that regardless of how he's acting now, he deserves a dose of his medicine and get her to listen and understand it? Am I wrong if she comes to ask me for advice to give her how I feel?

2007-01-20 17:20:47 · 5 answers · asked by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 in Singles & Dating

Ladys plz answer?
if ur go'n out with a guy and you like him ( as in the best bf you have had real sweet and nice ) and you get ready to have sex and
he is not Circumcised would you still have sex with him or leave him

2007-01-20 17:20:22 · 23 answers · asked by just_asking 1 in Singles & Dating

and don't count with yourself (:

2007-01-20 17:19:00 · 32 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

should i still talk with them or not

2007-01-20 17:18:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

does putting someones hand in hat water make them pee in their pants?
what about the feather and whip cream trick??

2007-01-20 17:17:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

lately I have been really upset with my family for not helping me with any household chores like dishes,cleaning the house or taking out the garbage. I realize that this is the way that it has been for years and years for millions of families around the world. but it has gotten to the point that I almost hate hate them...and that the dogs are the only ones that i really like. I rant,rave and also have tried talking to them calmly about my concerns and it all fall to deaf ears... what can i do? I have gone on "strike" but I I soon go back bc I cann't stand looking or living in a pig sty....my family is of the age that they can easily take care of themselves but they cann't seem to even do simple task.... I really need help...

2007-01-20 17:17:40 · 3 answers · asked by nsparky1 2 in Family

2007-01-20 17:17:30 · 20 answers · asked by AgentZero 4 in Singles & Dating

My best friend and her bf,Ross,are going to break-up. Ross told me. Well, I LOVE Ross!! I really want to go out with him and I know my best friend wouldn't mind! I've been getting hints from him that he likes me.Like he says that he's always thinking about me and stuff! Well, I wanna go out with him, but I'm scared he's not going to ask me b/c he's afraid he's gonna hurt my best friend! So, I was gonna ask him, but how do I do that!? Like, what should I say?

2007-01-20 17:17:16 · 2 answers · asked by Bebe 2 in Singles & Dating