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so i went on this cruise, and met this guy. he was really nice and we hung out a lot, but i never really had an interest in him, until the 4th night. that night we just hung out me and him the entire night laying down and talking. he was really sweet, and i knew that i'd prob start liking him. we were talking about everything, and the topic of me being a virgin came up. i told him i was a virgin, and he didn't believe me. he wasn't a virgin, but he told me i should really wait for someone i like, and then he said "and it's not going to be me." by the end of the night we ended up making out, and he slept over my room, and he even asked me if the next night we were gonna hang out. the next night he was in the casino, so my friend went to go get him from the casino to hang out. sure enough, he wanted to and came within 10 minutes(meanwhile he had been winning a lot of money), and he came to hang out. we went to his room, and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally, he didn't ask me flat out, and it happened the way i wanted it to, in the moment. when he was putting the condom on however, i asked him what he was doing, and he said "nothing"..i made sure he had a condom on, and he was really gentle, but he didn't talk much. at one point i asked him if he still had the condom on, and he let me feel to make sure it was still on. after we had sex, we went to the casino, and then i left to go to my room to lay down. he said he'd come back to hang out, but i didn't expect him to really. sure enough, he came knocking on my door to spend the night. the next night he had been looking for me, and he thought i was with another guy,so he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. by the 8th night we met up eventually..and i explained to him that i wasn't with another guy, and we ended up hanging out the whole entire night, me, my friend, and him. he kept saying how i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and that i would be his girlfriend if we lived in the same place. it just so happened i was going to college where he lived in about a year, and he knew that. that night we were hooking up again, and everything led to sex, and this time was even better. he said to me "you said you were a virgin right"..so i said "you remember what happened the other night right?"..and he was like "yeah, we had sex"..so i guess he was asking to be reassured that i was a virgin before him? then we were doing it for a long time, and he was talking a lot more, and physically helping me out, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and that i need to tell him when to stop or when it hurts. i was in a lot of pain, so he suggested taking the condom off to see if it felt any better, it felt a lot better and it was only for 2 seconds, but he did say to me "the only thing is..if we take the condom off you might have to give me head"..well..i didn't end up giving him head, because i didn't want to. that night he slept over again, and we had plans to hang out the whole entire day the next day. the last night, we hung out the whole night..and then he kissed me on the lips goodbye. we exchanged myspaces and aim screen names, and after the cruise he commented me right away. we had talked back and forth for awhile..and at one point i thought he was avoiding me..so i wrote him a letter saying if you don't write back then i know you don't want anything to do with me, but he did write back, so that showed me that he cared. i ended up surprising him and visiting him one day, and he was really happy to see me. he told me i need to call next time so we can hang out..and he wanted to make sure i was definitely still coming to college near him. we talked for awhile, and then i had to leave..so he kissed me on the lips goodbye, and wrote to me about a week later asking me how my trip was, and telling me to call him next time.

1.does it sound like he liked me a lot?
2.why would he ask me if i was a virgin when he knew i was already?
3.why did i need to give head if he didn't have a condom on?
4. do you think the first time we had sex he just had intentions of using me? and then the second time he realized he liked me a lot, and we were something more? but why would he come back to lay with me after the first time we had sex?

Answer 1

It sounds like he started to feel some kind of feelings for you. If he just wanted to use you then he would have just not written back to you or anything. I don't really know what your 3rd question means. It sounds like he forgot he had sex with you and though he it was with another woman, but you will never know if you don not ask him.

Answer 2

I think it sounds like he likes you, but I wouldnt say he likes you " a lot". He is probably just trying to get to know you....
He may have asked if you were a virgin again, b/c maybe when you were having sex to him you felt a little loose or maybe there was no bleeding. Also, i think he may feel that you have it up too easily to be a virgin. Most virgins dont sleep with ppl that they dont know on a cruise.
He asked you to give him head b/c he wanted it, it had nothing to do with the condom being off. Its likely that he figured if youre a virgin and let him have sex with u w/o a condom then ur not afraid of disease so u mightt as well suck him off b/c its not like ud get pregant in the mouth.

Answer 3

OK, he deff is thinking of the future and would not make sure your going to be around and all if he didn't like he..he has to have some sort of feelings... And the giving a bj part is because he wouldn't prob really get off or let himself get off with noting on...ie didn't want u to get preg & etc... so, in that he'd want you to finish him off & understood how you felt. The first thing of why he didn't want to have sex with you to take the virginity is because of the whole thing when u take someones it doesn't always turn out good. A guy only stays to "cuddle" when there is more.

Answer 4

You gave your virginity to someone you didn't know very well who may have very well viewed you as someone to have a good time with while aboard a cruise ship. He liked you but moreso for what you could offer him sexually. He wanted to make sure you were a virgin because he wanted to take your virginity. I don't understand what he meant by (3). Lastly I do believe you were used. I could be wrong though. Keep in touch with him and see where it goes. Try getting to know him better.

Answer 5

first off dont do that. dont meet guys and sleep with them cause that aint lady like. he used you. those are the tipe of guys that sweet talk you and end up doing things that u dont really want to do but they seem right in the moment. he used you very much. slept with you once saw that you were easy, sorry, and went again. if you gave him head it was so he could ejaculate either in your mouth, because he likes it, or he doesnt want to get you preagnant so it safer outside of the vagina obviously. so take care and remember dont let yourself be used by a man. im a guy and i dispise men like that and hate them, because they make the good ones look bad. hope i could be of help.

Answer 6

he sounds like a decent guy, but with most guys that you just meet for the first time you just dont know. but i wouldnt stereotype him as a guy just looking to use you. i dont know why he would ask you twice about your virginity. and about giving head without a condom, guys like it better that way.. you dont need a condom because you cant get pregnant, but you could get an std. and i cant tell if he just had plans to use you, i think you should ask him about that yourself.

i hope i helped a little, do you mind answering my question about my guy? cus i took the time to read yours answer it.. no one is answering my question and im kinda stressed about it.. thanks

Answer 7

You have already asked this question

Answer 8

y are u repeating this question??