How do you get along with your husband's family if you do not like them ?

Question

How about if you think they would be a bad influence on your children and you do not want them around your husband's family?

Answer 1

I think that there are a couple of things that you need to do here.

First of all, you need to be honest with your husband about your concerns, esspecially about them being a bad influence. This is important because if they start whining to him and he doesn't know why you don't like them, he may be more willing to take their side.

Secondly, distance. If you live far enough, this is easy enough to avoid them without seeming to avoid them. If you live in the same town as the in-laws, enroll your kids in after school activities and have family outing nights with your husband and the kids (which are both good things in the first place). Let his family know that you're a busy and productive family, and if they like they're invited to your son/daughter's game at such date and time. That's minimal interaction in a structured environment, where neither the kids nor the in-laws will feel that they're being deprived but there won't be much chance to impart bad behaviors on your kids.

Ultimately, you probably can't change them. The key is going to be how you can be civil with them when needed, not pick a fight, and not let them influence your kids too much. Good luck!

Answer 2

Firstly, tell your children which is right and which is wrong. Secondly, pretend you love the and buy them presents or treats when they come for a visit. If they are staying for a longer time, try to lie to them and get out of the house. For example, tell them its monthly check up day or your long dead gramma is dying. When your have their support, they will be there to help if you and your husband fought.

Answer 3

Stay away as much as you can. Be polite when you are around them. If they are really bad cut ties altogether