Im 22yrs old and im sick of men treating me like crap... This week my boyfriend broke up with me.. he said "i think i was just with you cos i wanted to show you off to my friends cos your hot.. but your not the right girl for me"
Ive only ever had 3 ppl that i felt strongly about... one was him! I know im only young... but im sick of men treating me all nice until they get whatever it is they want!!
I always seem to like the pricks aswell... never the nice ones
maybe I need therapy.. or maybe i was meant to be a lesbian..
GAH!
2007-01-20 17:34:19 · 22 answers · asked by Anna L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me... I'm 25 things will work out and remember things always happen for a reason even if it's something bad. But the truth is you will find a even better guy. You are single now and someone better always comes along ok. Life's to short have fun girl... I love long relationships with girls though. Thats the best part.
2007-01-20 17:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by snatza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go looking for love. You won't find it. What you may want to do is find a co-dependency group that might help you. Some are free. Love will find you, and when it does, make sure you are mentally healthy and can accept it. The boyfriends you have had treated you badly because you allowed it. The first time they do, walk away and don't look back. Build your self esteem and tell yourself you are better than that. Stop being a glutton for punishment and figure out why you allow them to treat you that way. Therapy would be good.
2007-01-21 01:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by lucy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many guys like that out there. Take your new found singledom as a opportunity to really find yourself. Change the way you hook up with guys, if its always at clubs & bars there isnt much chance of anything meaningful coming from it. Get to know a guy a bit before starting anything heavy with him, if he cant respect tht then he just goes in the category as the same losers you have had before, no loss of pride for you then.
If there is a particular type of guy you are physically attracted to, try someone different and dont be afraid to throw them a gorgeous smile and even start talking them, you will be so suprised how well it will work for you. Best wishes, I know exacltly the feeling.
2007-01-21 01:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anna,
There's nothing wrong with being a lesbian, but if you were meant to be one you'd know it by now. Unfortunately, you're stuck with men...
The good news is that we nice guys really are out there. Guys who will love you, treat you like a princess, do anything we can for you, and cherish every hour with you.
But we're not the guys who always hit on you; we're a little harder to find.
A psychologist would probably say some girls look for men who will treat them like they're used to being treated; I hope that's wrong, and just a slightly different mindset will help you weed out the jerks and focus on somebody who really deserves you.
I wish I could email/IM you, but as it is... I can only say -
Good luck.
2007-01-21 05:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by eldad9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal; change you whole way of "thinking" the guys you like, get to know the person for maybe two months, Love will find you when it's the time. Just relax don't get too involved and take break from the clowns be real and go hang out with your friends don't think to survive in this world you need to be with just anyone who tells you the silly little lines that shoot out there mouths!
2007-01-21 01:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start with Ana recognizing that she is the best, the greatest, the most wonderful person she knows. You really are, you know? Learn to love yourself, to accept yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can love and honor yourself, you will only choose as partners/dates those people you feel you can honor and who will honor you. If a guy drops you, consider that you wouldn't have liked him in the long run. If he can't see how great you are, then who wants him? He's short-sighted, not too bright and insensitive. Take care of yourself first, love yourself, honor yourself. As you do this, others will be attracted to you because you know yourself. If you can do this you won't find yourself with guys who treat you like crap. If they don't honor you, there's no reason for you to honor them. Good luck.
2007-01-21 01:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL Try it and see. Well, sorry to hear that, but a lot of people have these kind of problems. Don not worry love will come to you some day. Either late or early, but it will show up. Also, don't try to go out and look for love, love will find you,on the place, time, and person you least expect it to. Maybe your one true love is really close to you, but you don't want to see it.
2007-01-21 01:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chicana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find love in 3 years, 4 months, 22 days, 17 hours, 55 minutes and 32 seconds. Good luck!
2007-01-21 01:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by thatvegasguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor thing!
im so sorry that men have been treating you really bad but this is how you should go about
when you meet a man, look for qualities that you like about him and find common ground!
like for me, i want my future wife (i am still in high school) to be interested in sports so even if there was a bombshell of a girl, if she hated sports, then i'll see you later!, y'know
if you guys can find common ground, it will be better
also, tell him straight up that you are serious and don't want any bu11sh1t from him, if he's your kind of guy, he'll agree and it will show you that he is serious as well
2007-01-21 01:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ratchet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think the same thing but really love wil happen for you when its meant to. Dont rush it cause then it wont be true love. Stay single for a while and just date people, you will realize what kind of men are good for you and wont be caught up if you keep your options open.
2007-01-21 01:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋