i could go on forever, but i am going to try to keep thid brief as possible. a while back a girl sent me all her yahoo messenger archives over myspace. she had been talking to my husband for a couple weeks from what i can tell. i know she could have altered the conversations but he admitted to talking to her and telling her some of our personal business. here's the kicker- he also admitted to sending her NUDE PHOTOS of himself! i was very hurt but i've decided to stay with him for now because of my own personal reasons, so please don't just tell me to leave him. my question is how can i set him up to see if he'll do this again? i set up a fake myspace account to try to catch him, but i think he figured that it was me. i am not very computer savvy. can anyone help? i want to know if there is any way i can catch him if he is up to this again.
2007-01-20 17:30:24 · 15 answers · asked by sarah s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(Same way I caught my wife in an an affair).
Get a key logger program, we got it for our children to monitor their computer use, (she forgot it was there), there are several on the market (cdnet.com), they work in the background (secretly)and record every stroke of the key board. You can read his sent mail and mail he receives.
But be warned and prepared for what you will find out. If you have never had your heart miss, I mean literally miss a beat, you will learn the feeling. It hurts and it hurts bad!
2007-01-20 18:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by John H B 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go into his Yahoo Messenger, then Contacts, then Message Archive. It will show you the last conversations that have been going on. He may have his options set to where those delete. If that is the case go to Messenger, then Preferences, and select the box to archive his messages.AND THEN DON'T FORGET TO LOG OUT!!!!
Also, you can check "history" in Internet Explorer.
And then if he clears that, you can go into Windows, Search, Search by date, and it will pull up all the stuff accessed on that day.
Hey guys don't call me a stalker! I was just trying to be helpful!!!
2007-01-20 18:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way to go is to get friends to see if he'll play up to them on line,1 can be forgiven but no use saying sorry and keep doing the same thing,and sure you should know what he's up to on line,i read 1 answer that said it was on line it wasn't cheating,bulls wool it's not,do what you have to do hon,find him out and at least in your own mind you can either leave or put up with him doing this
2007-01-20 18:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by TOM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get key logger software that works in the "background" of your computer and then you can get the info sent to you and only you can read it. Just do a search on key loggers. Many parents use them to keep an eye on their teens' activities.
2007-01-20 18:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... that is not really cheating. I am sure that it hurt your feeling but it is just like porn, untouchable.
It is silly and immature to try and catch your husband in the act, especially if you are making fake accounts to lure him.
Do you really want to make this work? Then you need to go to marriage counseling. Obviously your husband felt he needed to talk to someone about your relationship issues.
Tell him that you are hurt that he would go to a stranger to talk about your personal business and that you are hurt that he then felt it was OK to send that person nude photo's and that you really want to make your relationship work and then get into some marriage counseling and quit trying to play games.
2007-01-20 17:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Say, how in the world did this girl discover who you were? I can hardly believe in miracles, and statistics would give a very low probability indeed that she could figure out your real identity at a fingers' snap.
2007-01-20 17:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally when you dig for trouble you'll find one. From what you've said it is not clear whether you've forgiven him for what he did or whether he regretted what he did.
I would advise that you either find it in you whether you want the marriage or waiting for an opportune time to revenge. It seems you have lost all trust in him. So, why not quit?
2007-01-20 19:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE ME HIS MYSPACE ACCOUNT AND I WILL GO CHECK HIM OUT FOR YOU. PROMISE I WILL TEMPT HIM TO TALK TO ME, LOL.
I FEEL THAT ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. WHAT IF THIS GIRL WAS IN TOWN, WHAT WOULD STOP HIM FROM TAKING IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL AND MEETING HER?????
SERIOUSLY, I WILL TALK TO HIM ON MYSPACE IF YOU WANT ME TOO, IT WILL BE FUN.
2007-01-20 17:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by MARY M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect call cheaters investigators...hah then if he gets caught im sure he wouldnt do it again he would be on national television...just go to www.cheaters.com im sure they can help you with this little situation if you cant do so well on the spying part on your own...good luck!
2007-01-20 17:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by ღCCღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight.................... You know he is a cheater, but you're not convinced on leaving (for personal reasons) until you catch him ....... which you've already done............. so you have decided to spend your precious time trying to catch a cheater that is slicker than you........... meanwhile you "LOVE HIM"!
Do I have this right?
Sorry but I really don't have your kind of energy to answer this question....................?
2007-01-20 17:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋