Etiquette - December 2007

Ive only been working at my job for a few months and we are having our Christmas party soon. I dont know if I want to go and when I told my boss, she seemed upset. My coworkers are kinda unfriendly to me.Like sometimes I think they avoid me. I understand that im the new one, but come on, its been 4 months! I also only work there part time, not full time.And I have anxiety in social situations where I dont know anyone. There will be other workers from other departments, but I dont know them. And its not like your normal office party too. At my other job, we have it at a bar and so its more relaxed and stuff. Here, its happening at a coffee shop. I dont know, i just feel weird going, but I dont want to be looked down at.
What should I do?

2007-12-04 10:44:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be meeting my gf's parents for the first time this weekend and wish to make a good impression. Never done this with a prior gf, though, so not experienced at all. Is there a "generic" gift for this occasion. Likely I will not give that, but it would help me guage the level of gift that is appropriate.

2007-12-04 10:44:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going to my boyfriends Aunt's house for Christmas Eve dinner, and I was wondering what is a good, small, present for the hostess? Just to be polite.

2007-12-04 10:43:07 · 19 answers · asked by Amy P 2

2007-12-04 10:42:10 · 6 answers · asked by jamie 1

I say women cuz I've yet to see guys do this. I work in a gym and work out 3-4 days a week and never seen a man do this. I've seen some ladies just flap their lips for the entire duration of their workout. I figure if they can speak then they're just not working hard enough.

2007-12-04 10:26:59 · 12 answers · asked by Yea Yea 4

only mindless grammar folks will fail to get this message!

2007-12-04 10:21:57 · 14 answers · asked by tom the plumber 3

Some of mine include...
when people don't squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom of tube, when people don't dry the floor after spilling something on it so if I unknowingly step in it, I get my socks wet, when people turn the light on when I am watching T.V., when people chew obnoxiously loudly,open doors, when people don't put rubber bands around bags of food that will go stale otherwise and I'm sure there are others...haha I sound like such a complainer but these things just get me....arghh

2007-12-04 10:05:48 · 14 answers · asked by beatlesfanatic123456 3

We have some extended family that we are seeing during the holidays and they are just stuffy, snobby, egotistical jerks. We have to see them for ONE day during the holidays. . how can we deal with them and their 'not so nice' remarks???

2007-12-04 09:54:00 · 7 answers · asked by LESLIE P 2

I seem that once the holiday came around all people want to do it eat and party. Then once it has passed they are depressed that things haven't turn out the way that they have planned them to. I get depressed because it is just look like know one really know the true meaning of Thangsgiving or Christmas or Easter it just all about food parting and sex too

2007-12-04 09:20:28 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a letter in my pocket to the widow of a neighbour who tookhis own life.There has been a bit of friction between me and her but I feel that that has passed on account of the present circumstances. The letter is from my heart. Should I post it????

2007-12-04 08:59:44 · 23 answers · asked by PAUL G 5

today when i was leaving school a girl approached me and said my handbag was really pretty a guy she was with then commented and said" that looks expensive" i felt disrespected but i still had a calm look on my face am i taking this the wrong way?

2007-12-04 08:57:36 · 31 answers · asked by gofigure86 2

2007-12-04 08:28:04 · 10 answers · asked by SiMpLy_Me!i!i! 1

2007-12-04 08:23:12 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1

My supervisor sent an email around to everyone in the office anouncing that another attorney got engaged this weekend. I feel like that is info for the groom-to-be to announce. I feel like my supervisor is trying to steal some of the spot light in a strange way.

Am I just over thinking this or does it seem rude?

I know if I shared with a colleague that I was engaged, I wouldn't want he or she to tell the whole office -- I would like to be the one, if I wanted everyone to know.

2007-12-04 08:19:41 · 7 answers · asked by {:3) 4

Ok for sometime now it has been obvious that my neighbours have been watching us through our patio sliding door windows out their bedroom window. but now they actually have a camera visible and we all here can see it. I am a legal secretary keep in mind and I won't do anything illegal or wrong. But I would like to do something to piss them off back so they will stop taping us walking around our house in our underware. While I encourage neighbourhood watch this is rediculous!!!! I don't like them peeping at us. My husband however could care less and likes to keep the blinds open to keep an eye on valuables in our yard such as bikes and what not that we have laying around. I would prefer that they place their camera elsewhere rather than peering into our living quarters. So I would like to do something nasty inside our home visible to their camera, for example like worse than making faces or waving at the camera to have them get the idea we don't appreciate it. Does anyone have IDEAS?

2007-12-04 08:00:08 · 16 answers · asked by doll 3

2007-12-04 07:51:56 · 29 answers · asked by Maria M 1

In my second interview, I met with 4 different people. Later that day I recieved the call that they are offering me the position and I start in 2 weeks, and that they will send me an official offer letter to follow. I accepted the offer on the phone. Is it appropriate to email everyone that met with me yesterday and say "thank you for your time, I have accepted the position and look forward to working with you soon" or is this tacky? Should I wait until the letter comes bfore doing this?

2007-12-04 07:20:50 · 10 answers · asked by Snarf 3

I used to be the type of person who would tell a person flat out what I thought of them -- whether it be good, bad or embarassing. I would always do it in a nice way, but sometimes people's feelings would get hurt. But I learned several years ago that's not the way to be. However, there are several people in my family that I want to give a piece of my mind. I have tried to hint around how I felt, but they don't seem to get the picture.

Is there a proper way to address a family member to avoid hurting their feelings. Before you even go there, these are not people that you can just sit down and talk to. They are very defensive and would probably break down and start crying. They are in their 50's and 60's.

2007-12-04 07:01:45 · 7 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

I am trying to defend myself on this topic, Me and My Teacher disagree

2007-12-04 06:49:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

For the past 2 years, we have give my father in law and my brother in law something they already had. Now, obviously, we didn't know either of them had said gift or else we wouldn't have wasted the time/money.

Both of them (on seperate occasions since we trade gifts at different times) have informed us that they already had what we gave them and they left the gift with us. Yes, that's right. Neither of them took their gift home.

Now, I was raised that when someone gives you a gift, you thank them, graciously take the gift and either dispose of it, give it to someone who might like it, or return it to the store for something else. I wouldn't dream of being so rude as to not accept a gift because I already had it.

How do you react? (And no, we do not go out any buy them something else. I refuse to reward rudeness.) The 2 t imes with my father in law and the one time with my brother in law, I just sat there, dumfounded, as my husband APOLOGIZED PROFUSELY to them for the mistake.

2007-12-04 06:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by JMDP 3

i.e. what are the advantages of an upscale bar over a common bar & the disadvantages?

2007-12-04 06:21:51 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2

2007-12-04 06:15:57 · 12 answers · asked by brutus 1

i had a confrontation at work today with another co-worker who works in the same office as I do. there are three people in the office and we rotate every week to cover for another co-worker in a different office when she is at lunch. last week was my week and i called out sick for two days, well today when i come back from my lunch, the girls who's week it was says, well, aren't you going over there? and i said going over where? and she said to cover for so and so's lunch and i said no, its your week. if she would have asked me, instead of telling me, my answer may have been different. was that wrong of me to say no?

2007-12-04 06:13:13 · 8 answers · asked by lina0883 2

Im a junior in college. I have a good life. I went away to school about 2.5 hours away from home. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years who is nice. He treats me well, he wouldn't ever cheat on me; we're studying abroad together next semester. He lives close to his family. I still feel like something is missing in life. There's part of me that wants to get out of small towns, and move to a big city. (My hometown had one stoplight, and college town is small.) But that would mean being farther away from my family (whom im really not super close to), but im just afraid if i took that step, i would regret it. I dont feel like i fit in with many people here. i dont want to end up living a lonely single life though either. I want to have a family someday, but im only 20. I still have time to think about it because I don't graduate from college for another year. I've always felt like there was something better out there. Is that being selifsh and naive?

2007-12-04 05:57:46 · 14 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2

2007-12-04 05:49:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister's kids are so bratty about Christmas presents. They are ages 11 and 15. They want Coach purses or money (quote: "If you can't me $100 for Christmas, don't even bother"). Well, I have 2 kids and can't give $100 to each of them for Christmas let alone a $200 purse. So, do I comply with their wishes and give them nothing or give them what I can and have it tossed aside and unappreciated? It's really not even the money, it's the attitude I can't deal with.

2007-12-04 05:39:36 · 36 answers · asked by ♥Pretty♥ ♥Kitty♥ 7

Its for my friend and she loves westie dogs shes got one as well. i was thinking of getting her a westie calendar, but I'm not sure if its proper present.

2007-12-04 04:59:09 · 39 answers · asked by suga UK 5

She has a minder.It's a form of pestering for ooiii.I refused oooiii and she has destroyed my rights.She is from a minority.I don't want to get angry but I did and it hurt.

2007-12-04 04:29:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know people have to do their jobs, but why do they always ring when I'm having my evening meal. I don't want to be rude to them, so I just tell them I'm going to hang-up.

How do you deal with them?

2007-12-04 04:01:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

They bring things in like cookies, candy, notepads, small organizers, jam, etc., and the owner of the business wants EVERYTHING given to them!!

Does this happen a lot?

How crappy is it that they do this?

2007-12-04 03:57:20 · 18 answers · asked by startwinkle05 6