i had a confrontation at work today with another co-worker who works in the same office as I do. there are three people in the office and we rotate every week to cover for another co-worker in a different office when she is at lunch. last week was my week and i called out sick for two days, well today when i come back from my lunch, the girls who's week it was says, well, aren't you going over there? and i said going over where? and she said to cover for so and so's lunch and i said no, its your week. if she would have asked me, instead of telling me, my answer may have been different. was that wrong of me to say no?
2007-12-04 06:13:13 · 8 answers · asked by lina0883 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No but what does your supervisor think? If he doesn't care, then tell her you might have considered going to her if she had a better attitude about it; however that may create resentment with that person. I don't think you are wrong for saying no at all though, so don't be sorry.
2007-12-04 06:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Nite 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she filled in for you while you were out sick, she would naturally have expected you to take your turn this week. Would it have been that big a deal to do so? Was it worth a confrontation? If she said, "Well, aren't you going over there?", she was asking you not telling you. It should have been cleared up immediately with no defensiveness on the part of anyone.
2007-12-04 14:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she covered while you were out, then yes, it was. She did approach you wrong, but when it comes to managing your responsibilities at work, you have to do the right thing no matter what. The fact of the matter is that we have to be able to depend on our coworkers and that means working as a team. Someone covered for you, so you need to return that consideration.
2007-12-04 14:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i would say it depends.
You have a right to be angry about this if you are the type of person who only uses 2 sick days a year.
If you use many sick days and they correspond with this coverage thing then it would be reasonable for this person to be upset.
I would also say it is the manager's duty to say this.
2007-12-04 14:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by mpasnick 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU are the one who should have rushed to her with taking on the responsibility of the lunch coverage!
Your coworker was right to expect you to cover and make up for your absence, likely that she covered for you.
If you didn't like her tone, chalk it up to irritation at her inconvenience and make up for it by enthusiastically making up for the coverage lost. You were in the wrong.
2007-12-04 14:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think Barbara is right. She is going to come after you now. I personally would have done the same thing you did. But, you know, the workplace is a place where you have to be careful. I would ask my boss what the policy is on this, and see what he/she says about it.
2007-12-04 14:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by skeet monroe 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Document this. There are bound to be repercussions.
Go directly to your boss and/or HR and ask precisely what the sick-leave / receptionist policy is. Make sure to have this in writing.
Trust me - your nasty co-worker is gunning for you - especially now that you said 'no' to her.
2007-12-04 14:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like she was asking you.
But, I know what you mean. It is extremely difficult at work. You have to be careful what you say to coworkers, and especially bosses!
I commend you for being assertive. That is awesome.
I want to be like you in that regard.
Good for you!
2007-12-04 14:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋