today when i was leaving school a girl approached me and said my handbag was really pretty a guy she was with then commented and said" that looks expensive" i felt disrespected but i still had a calm look on my face am i taking this the wrong way?
2007-12-04 08:57:36 · 31 answers · asked by gofigure86 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you did the right thing by not expressing your discontent.
Now, there are 2 cases concerned with that comment: first case is that the boy was just complimenting you, and the second case is that he was trying to disrespect you. Either way, YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT!
You did the right thing by not letting his comment get in your head and in future, try to take advise/comments in a positive manner!
2007-12-04 09:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by beautifulndn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are offended unless you feel you shouldnt have a bag that looks expensive. I have many people comment on my handbag and I didnt even buy it as it was a gift from my mother.
Just try to take it as a compliment to your taste in handbags and if you are concerned about the boys comment then I would suggest that you just get used to boys saying stupid things, as they still do that even when they are men.
2007-12-04 17:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should of taken it that way, if you show some form of disgiust or anger on your face your simply showing it and giving them what they want, when you can simply say thank you, walk off and leave them gobsmacked at the fact you took it as a compliment, although your inside emotions are understandable showing them isn't always a good choice, but remember your emotions are a form of strangth for you, so don't always hide them.
There is also the possibility they were generallyattempting to be nice or polite, but... I strongly doubt that from how it sounds, basicly whatever it was you took it well and admirably, good man.
2007-12-04 17:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are taking this the wrong way and overthinking. It was a compliment, not in any way disrespectful. Why would it be an insult that your things look expensive?
2007-12-04 17:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about the comment. He probably was saying that because he thought the girl is going to expect him to buy her one. Don't take it personally.you have nice handbag be proud.
2007-12-04 17:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mae Mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take offense to it. It's hard to judge people's motivations or what they say sometimes. When in doubt, give people the benefit of the doubt and assume your taking it the wrong way. Not only will that let you be able to let things roll off your back easier, but it will save you from confrontations resulting from misunderstandings.
2007-12-04 17:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by aaronkclark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he was just saying what was on his mind.
it's no disrespect. maybe his social skills aren't that great, but try to be gracious.
you can always say nothing or:
"yes, it was" or
"yes, it does look great" or
"wouldn't you like to know" or
any one of a million things.
you never know, maybe the girl was trying to get the guy to buy her one like that which makes sense why he said that. he may have even been saying it more to her. this is a small thing. smile. smile. smile. if you are defensive about having money and don't like it pointed out, you have some work to do. on yourself.
2007-12-04 17:02:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nice that the girl complimented on your handbag. The guy probably just didn't know what he was saying. It depends though, is it a girl who is nice or one of the rude girls and guys.
2007-12-04 17:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel disrespected. A simple "Thank you" and "Glad I found this cheapo - knock offs are the best way to go!" If they were disrespecting you, that would make them feel small. If they weren't, then you just accepted a compliment.
2007-12-04 17:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, personally i would not worry about it. they could have been jealous that you have a great handbag and they don't. don't fret the little things in life like that. if you worry about stupid comments that people make to you now, how will you handle the real world when you get older. just chill out and don't worry about it.
2007-12-04 17:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by poohbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋