Etiquette - July 2007

Is it rude for someone to show up at your house uninvited?
What if you have never invited that person to your house or told them where you live?
And yes they have your phone number!

2007-07-15 16:50:51 · 15 answers · asked by Grits 2

I'm in college full time and work as a bank teller part time. Customers ask me all the time how much do I make. Why is this any of their business? Why do people think that its ok to ask me how much money I make? Is it just because I'm young?

Do people ask you how much you make? or will people stop after I graduate from college and have a career?

I could never imagine going to the doctor and saying " By the way Doc, how much money do you make per year"?

2007-07-15 15:46:12 · 32 answers · asked by Katie 4

Yes... i should be thankful the thought was there. But for Christmas, birthdays, holidays... everything, both my mom and my aunt have bought me really really bad, impractical gifts. For example... a seatbelt cutter.... a bin full of caribbeaner clips that you can't use for climbing.... hospital lotion....a lamp that you strap to your head.... you get the point. The worst part is that I know they are actually paying a bit of money for some of the things they've gotten me. I live in a small apartment, and i hate to waste..so i get these impractical gifts, when throughout the year there are certain things i would LOVE to get, but don't do so. How do i tactfully say, if you have to spend money on me, please do it for things i will actually enjoy, instead of things i'm going to throw out bc they are useless and taking up space? idon't want to hear about how i sound like a spoiled brat, and shoudl be thankful. just give me a tactful way to approach this...ps.. they start shopping in february

2007-07-15 15:40:57 · 10 answers · asked by OhioFantastic 3

people are cruel.

2007-07-15 15:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by calltoperservence 2

she hugged me for a while like 15 seconds. she said take care in her low gentle voice... then she squeezed me briefly...it kinda hurt.. then she turned her back on me, never giving eye contact, even as she shut the door...she was leaving for good. she was saying take care as she walks away with her back turned to me...

shes around 10 years my senior...she was sort of my supervisor....despite my name vincent, im female...uhm, no dirty ideas..but what does that mean when she didnt give me eye contact even?

as she closes the door carefully, there wasnt even a smile, but she wasnt looking back at me...

shes a very nice person, very thoughtful..shed praise me when i did a good job..i just sort of felt 'snubbed' when i wasnt looked back at...

2007-07-15 14:57:53 · 3 answers · asked by vincent m 2

2007-07-15 14:50:36 · 21 answers · asked by ATOM THE FEMALE 1

Sometimes you are asked to pick an answer or pick a side. Well, sometimes I dont agree with the choices. I didnt say I didnt like the choices. Im not neutral about it. Its hard for me to describe but when that question is asked I believe the person asking just wont understand my answer.

2007-07-15 14:12:30 · 8 answers · asked by flyingwithachimp 1

(we're not dating yet) If I tell her i enjoyed talking to her and to have a good night is that enough? If i dont tell her i'll be calling her later, will that give her the wrong impression?

2007-07-15 13:04:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 12:49:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 12:48:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't believe I'm asking such a dumb question on here.. but to put it into context for you:

I get very few weekends off throughout the year (one or two a month, if I'm lucky), I work 12 hour swing shifts and keep two residences.. one near home (with my dog, girlfriend, friends, etc) and one near my job 2-3 hours away.

On my last weekend off for the next two months (and my birthday weekend) my girlfriend wants to take me for half the weekend to see her family... fine. I said sure, didn't make a fuss about it.

A few days later I asked if I could be back by a certain time (5pm) Saturday night so we could try and get together with my friends. She didn't think my plans were solid enough and said that if I didn't make more solid plans she sees no reason to "rush" back home (her parents live a few hours away)... and I said I should be allowed to do what I want on my birthday, if it involves poorly made plans than so be it-she disagrees.

2007-07-15 12:26:53 · 7 answers · asked by Nic 2

and you have something that belongs to you in their room would you wait until they go out before you entered at room to remove it or at least tell them that you are wanting to go in.
I think its better to tell them

2007-07-15 12:09:44 · 20 answers · asked by kate d 2

2007-07-15 11:26:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I put in the classifieds that I am giving away some of my frogs and toads. A lady answered and we talk about where we will meet. I tell her that it is better for us to meet at a certain place on we WEEKDAY. Today is Sunday, of course, and I give her directions to the place I want her to meet me at and I say I'll be a this certain place (i'm not saying where) all day because I have to study anyways. Well, she then emails me back and says, "Okay, I'm leaving my house now. you recognize me because I am the young lady with two little kids with me. See you in a bit."

AH WHAT? By reading that, you can tell she thinks I am meeting her right NOW at the place we chose. I know I made it clear that I am available on weekDAYS. This is freaking me out and I kind of feel bad. But, I shouldn't feel bad, right? Because, I put it as clear as I could. Maybe when we saw the word "weekday" her mind translated it to "weekend". I am at a loss here.

Your thoughts?

2007-07-15 11:21:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

would it be appropriate to send my new supervisor a thankyou card for hiring me to my new position? if not, what is appropriate?

2007-07-15 11:01:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents had a BBQ yesterday and about 35 people showed up. A lot of people brought stuff to eat even though it wasn't asked of them. One couple brought a cheese cake. hey were one of the first people to leave and took the last two slices home with them. Everyone else stayed until late into the night and many people had asked, after the couple left, if there was any of that cheese cake left. Was it rude for them to take it back home with them?

2007-07-15 10:26:11 · 13 answers · asked by meggybucks1 3

Recently we had tea at a very nice hotel. I noticed several people eating the tiny sandwiches with a knife and fork. Others picked them up and ate them using only their fingers. Is one way more proper than the other or is it just pretentious? After all, they are called "Finger Sandwiches!"

2007-07-15 09:56:50 · 19 answers · asked by holisticgardener 2

It seems like the only time some of my family members call is when they need money. Otherwise, I never hear anything from them. What's a polite way to just say no?

2007-07-15 09:55:53 · 14 answers · asked by Matt3471 3

2007-07-15 09:00:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 08:56:37 · 29 answers · asked by tracyterry 3

2007-07-15 08:26:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 08:13:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-15 08:00:17 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle S 1

i wach tv shows i see men go in the womens bathroom and the man gets yelled at by women and why do they sreem when that happens too they realy dont want men in the womens bathroom why?

2007-07-15 07:48:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

On Friday I rec'd an invitation from the Mother of the Bride for a bridal shower she was hosting. I then find out the Step-Mother will be doing the same thing next month...what is the modern protocol for this event?

2007-07-15 07:32:23 · 11 answers · asked by basport_2000 5

He had been on Rimidyl for his arthritis...But still, the hips just would not work anymore...Usually, when i took him to the vet, they would fix him...SO I FELT I HAD DECEIVED HIM by taking him to the vet...I was HOPING THEY COULD DO SOMETHING FOR HIM...cuz they could every other time...HOW DO i get over that "feeling"...that i deceived him???..Did not know he was going to be "put to sleep"???...I just felt awful...i cried for two days...Please i am serious..This was very heartbreaking!

2007-07-15 07:28:48 · 14 answers · asked by sweet 4

How can I avoid them and what do you do to get rid of one?

2007-07-15 07:25:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

meant...You did NOT agree.... SOME people take it wrong...or should i just say..."I see"...so there is no MISUNDERSTANDING...?????.

2007-07-15 07:24:09 · 6 answers · asked by sweet 4

Sometimes it makes me want to avoid people who bring up this topic too much. As if I wouldn't want to get married to the right person, but it's really hard to find the right person. Or, they try to give advice like "try internet dating". Bleh! Particularly it makes me uncomfortable when they needle me about why I don't go for a certain male friend just because he's muscular and from the same race. Actually there are some really good reasons why I don't but I don't feel like dredging all that stuff out and putting him down. I really don't understand why it isn't a good enough reason for people that I'm just not in love enough to give up my independence. I want to know what to say to people without sounding rude because some of them are good friends who are otherwise well meaning.

2007-07-15 07:18:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it better to get caught sleeping with your head down on the desk or sitting straight up in your chair, because I'm at work right now and really sleepy and if I'm gonna get caught, I don't want to be in the worst looking position

2007-07-15 06:26:12 · 9 answers · asked by Dae Dae 1