On Friday I rec'd an invitation from the Mother of the Bride for a bridal shower she was hosting. I then find out the Step-Mother will be doing the same thing next month...what is the modern protocol for this event?
2007-07-15 07:32:23 · 11 answers · asked by basport_2000 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No! No! No! It is in poor taste and extremely bad etiquette for a family member to ever host a shower for the bride.
2007-07-17 15:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mothers, step-mothers, sisters, and step-sisters should really allow a cousin, aunt, maid of honor, or other good friend to host the showers. In my opinion, when an immediate family member hosts a shower (wedding or baby) it's like asking friends to give their family gifts. While we all want to give the bride (or groom) a wedding gift, do we really want their FAMILIES soliciting gifts from us? Does that make sense? It just seems more polite to have a friend or extended family member do the soliciting.
While modern protocol seems to be all about "gimme, gimme, gimme", I am still old fashioned enough to know where to draw the line, as I suspect you do, too. Do what you are most comfortable with in a situation like this. I doubt the brides family will notice one way or the other.
2007-07-15 11:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think just because you are blood you should have to go to the shower. You have two choices. Go and only try to have a good time. Or you can send a card and a small gift and call it a day. They could be having a very small wedding and are not slighting you on purpose. Especially in this day and age where weddings are so expensive. Your an adult and capable of making your own decisions. Just make sure you make one you can live with.
2016-04-01 05:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, it is the maid of honor who is in charge of the bridal shower. This doesn't preclude other people from throwing bridal showers for the bride though. For the one throwing the shower (who is not the maid of honor), it would be appropriate to coordinate with the maid of honor regarding this and the shower would be appropriate only if the guest list comprises of a different group of friends of the bride so there are no overlapping of guests in either shower. This is what the mother of the bride and the stepmother should consider before inviting guests to the respective showers they prepared.
2007-07-15 07:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Trillian 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Most of the time the sister of the bride or one of the bridesmaids will host the bridal shower.
2007-07-15 09:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know the modern protocol but I do know how I would handle it. I would present my bridal shower gift to the bride before either party, personally. Then I would attend whichever or both parties as I felt or could schedule without a gift knowing I had already taken care of that before hand. Just enjoy the party (or parties) and help celebrate the upcomming wedding :)
2007-07-15 07:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Shulaar 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Anyone can host a shower except a close relative. This according to the Emily Post etiquette book.
2007-07-15 10:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by bebop 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
it's the MAID OF HONOR who has the shower. that's why she's the 'honor'; she honors her friend by giving her a shower/party.
if this family is not 'into' manners (which, obviously, they aren't) i would have to decide if i want anything to do with this family or if i want to take them 'as they are'.
if you decide to take them 'as is' then modern protocol is out the door along with their manners.
that's the way I see it , anyway.
2007-07-15 10:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Are they both in very different locations? Or are the in the same area? Do they get along? I'm guessing no since they are planning two different showers.
I'd only attend one shower. One shower = one gift.
2007-07-15 08:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
two bridal showers seem a bit unnecessary, choose one, you should not have to go to both or buy two presents!!
2007-07-16 04:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋