2007-07-15 08:00:17 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Since both you and your husband agree with each other this helps you. I would just tell your families that you've decided that this year you guys want to do something different and start your own family traditions at your home. Do you have children? I've stopped doing Thanksgiving with my parents. My son and I make our own personal fun dinner with non-traditional foods and rent a movie and just spend the day together.
If you have children, start your own family traditions. Or do something in the community. Or make a picnic dinner and eat in your family on the floor. There a lot of things you can do. If there is no children, then you and your husband can have a special dinner together or get together with friends. At Christmas I've heard of couples getting together and going to each other's homes to see each other's trees and having a drink, egg nog and a treat, Christmas cookie, etc. They spend about 30 minutes at one house and then drive to another couple's house to see their decorations and celebrate there for 30 minutes and move on to next.
As for as telling your families, just be honest and say you want to do something different this year and hopefully you can get together next year or you will visit in the spring. You can call them the morning of the holiday to wish them a Merry Christmas. But don't let them put a guilt trip on you. Traveling gets expensive and can be dangerous nowadays. Good luck!
2007-07-15 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them now-way ahead of time, that you will not be coming because you will be having a very quiet holiday at your home. Period. If they do not respect you and what you want to do then why would you want to be with them. There is no rule that you have to go to their places. You will not enjoy it running around and travelling so call up right now for the only purpose of telling them that. Make that call expressly for that and nothing else. It will have more impact than if you call and say hi how are you and then talk about other things and oh by the way we arent coming. Build it up when you call with Hello I have something to tell you. Make it formal and so that it will be understood as a final statement. Go for it and Good for you for doing it.
2007-07-15 08:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do your families expect the two of you to travel? Do they live far away from you and they expect you to go visit them? Or they live close by but they just want you to travel? If they want the two of you to visit them then that's probably because they miss you. If they live close by and they just want you to travel then it can depend on different things. There are A LOT of possibilities. Maybe they think the two of you have been working so hard and you deserve some vacation away from home? Maybe they recently went somewhere on a vacation and they enjoyed it so much so they want you to enjoy it too? Have you been having problems with your husband? If you have then maybe they think a bit of vacation outside of home can rekindle the romance? You are the only one who know the answer.
2007-07-15 08:10:39 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stand your grounds. It's YOUR holiday, you should do what YOU want with it. Just tell them that you really don't feel like travelling this time around and just want to stay home for once.
2007-07-15 23:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand your ground, invent any type of excuse or not, but you must not go if you feel it will hamper what you would like your holidays to be...it's tough, but they will get over it. I could never understand why some people are so put out that others cannot join in on their decisions, whether it be family or not.
2007-07-15 09:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your family know that ...
Although you appreciate their desire to have you come out to see them for the holidays, You have made other plans for your family.
They don't need to know that your plans are to stay home.
If they really press you to know what your plans are you can let them know that you decided to experience the local flavor of your town during the holidays this year and invite them to join you. Only if you wnat them to that is.
2007-07-15 08:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by mrslet02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you love them and that you guys are staying home this year. I have had to do this. I have 6 kids. I don't like dragging them everywhere. It make the holiday , exhausting.
God Bless .
2007-07-15 08:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you and your husband happy. You should never let anyone dictate what you should do, even if it is family. If they want to see you let them travel to where you are.
2007-07-15 09:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your holidays!! Do what you want. You could compromise, I suppose, and travel part of the time, but it is YOUR time, not theirs.
2007-07-15 08:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Wendi lu who 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's time to live for yourselves, not your families. Be firm. Stay put.
2007-07-15 19:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋