My dog had to be put down....His hips crumbled..It was heartbreaking.?

Question

He had been on Rimidyl for his arthritis...But still, the hips just would not work anymore...Usually, when i took him to the vet, they would fix him...SO I FELT I HAD DECEIVED HIM by taking him to the vet...I was HOPING THEY COULD DO SOMETHING FOR HIM...cuz they could every other time...HOW DO i get over that "feeling"...that i deceived him???..Did not know he was going to be "put to sleep"???...I just felt awful...i cried for two days...Please i am serious..This was very heartbreaking!

Answer 1

im so sorry

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are going through. I had my cat for 14 years when one day I noticed a spot of blood where she had been sitting. I hesitated to take her to the vet, because she was a "one person cat", and she did not like other people to handle her. I knew the vet would have to put her to sleep to examine her. When I took her in, I thought she had an infection in the anal/urinary area which caused the blood. It turned out to be a large tumor and nothing much could be done for her. While she was still asleep from the exam, I had to tell the vet not to wake her up. I, too, cried for days because I felt I never really got to say "goodbye" to her properly and she had trusted me. Everything in the house reminded me of her--she was like a member of the family after 14 years. It was even hard for me to open a can of tuna because of memories. It does get better. It has been 5 years now and I remember her with joy rather than with sorrow. Time truly does heal all. Hang in there and know others have been in your place also and know what you are going through.

Answer 3

My sympathy for your loss. The law would say that dogs are mere property, but I know better.

Some people would say that telling the dog he is going to heaven is useless, as they cannot understand. I see dogs as people, where some are better off facing death with the eyes open, and some are not. Only you can tell whether you should have been more honest with him.

Another possibility is that you were overwhelmed by emotion, did not think properly and did the impulsive thing. We all have regrets, remember times when we should have done differently. The proper thing is to face we did wrong, and to resolve to learn from the experience so as not to repeat the mistake.

I know it is no consolation, but at least the dog died peacefully of natural causes, after a lifetime of loving and being loved. Not all humans or dogs are so lucky to end that way.

Answer 4

im so sorry for what happened, i had to put down my dog a few years ago and i still get that feeling of guilt.
But i hope that when my time is up, if im in pain, then someone will help me out the way i did my dog, knowing they will feel the same way you and i do now. you knew before u took your dog to the vet u would feel this way but u still did the right thing, that shows u are an honorable person, caring more for others than for your own feelings.

Answer 5

So many people have reacted to your question and reached out to you with their hearts open. Some shared their pain and some their experience dealing with the same feelings you have now. Many want to reassure you that with time your feelings of loss will become more manageable. I work in the veterinary field and there is one thing I am certain of. Your pet gives you the love it does it's whole life. They are always there for you all this at no cost and no conditions save one. They count on you to be able to make the difficult decision to let them go from there pain when the time is right. They trust only you to make the decision knowing it comes from this love you have for them that you let them go.
I once heard someone say, "The pet's only true fault is they don't don't outlive us."
Hang in there pal, we support you in this, your time of loss.

Answer 6

You did what you could for your dog. Some health problems just can't be fixed, no matter how much you wish they could be. You took your dog there for good intentions, you wanted to help him and you actually did, by ending the suffering for him. It's always hard and heartbreaking when your pet dies but they inevitably do eventually. Just keep in mind that you did what you could to help him and this time there just wasn't anything else you could do.

Answer 7

i'm sorry your dog had to be put down, but i'm sure he didn't feel deceived, and it wasn't your fault. if he was in pain, that was the best thing you could do for him. he wouldn't have felt any pain when they put him to sleep and he didn't suffer. he didn't even know it was going to happen. I hope you feel better soon. ♥

Answer 8

I'm truly sorry for your loss. You did not deceive him. You were doing what you thought would make him feel better even if in the end, it did not help prolong his life. You should not fault yourself for that. Be kind to yourself. Your dog still loves you even if he is already at the rainbow bridge.

Answer 9

I have had to put down a pet before and yes, it is heartbreaking. It is obvious that you loved your dog and genuinely tried to help him. Take comfort in the fact that you loved him while he was here, that you gave him a good life, and that he is now in a place where there is no pain.

Answer 10

Your doggy loves you. He'll remember the good times yall had together and how great of a human you were. And when you would feed him and pet him and rub his belly and take him to the vet when he was in pain and when yall would play outside or go for walks and when you bought him all those toys!!! He's happy you were his human!!! I bet that's really all he would be thinking.

Answer 11

I am sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. You did the most loving, compassionate thing you could have done for your pet. You did not deceive your pet, you showed them a true kindness and relieved his pain and suffering.