We have a rather fussy (formerly colic) 5 month old, who already has a lot of stranger anxiety - she is very attached to mom and dad, and often screams after being held by someone else... frequently she is inconsolable...
There are many relatives and friends who seem to insist on holding her even if she is having a melt down. I think they seem to think that surely they can calm her down... when they cannot and I take her away to calm her, I feel really guilty! The comments are always - "it doesn't bother me if she is crying... but if it bothers you here you go." It makes me feel really dumb for wanting to help her stop crying, like it shouldn't bother me. But I know it is a mother's natural instinct to stop her baby from crying and I see no reason to have her scream incessantly and work herself into a tizzy.
What's the deal with people not wanting to let go of crying babies after a couple minutes, unless prodded by the mother? Suggestions in dealing with this?
2007-09-18
16:33:45
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wesjen
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