Adoption

Teacher Debbie Moon's first graders were discussing a picture of a family. One little boy in the picture had a different hair color than the other members. One of her students suggested that he was adopted.

A little girl said, "I know all about adoption, I was adopted."

"What does it mean to be adopted?", asked another child.

"It means", said the girl, "that you grew in your mommy's heart instead of her tummy!"

2007-10-11 10:40:55 · 26 answers · asked by Eye of the Beholder 4

I was adopted in Connecticut when I was 1 month old. I do not know anything about my birth parents- no names, nothing. I do not live in CT anymore but I would like to know how I go about finding them. I have tried to go through the adoption agency where I was adopted from (Catholic Family Services) in CT and they told me I have to pay $200 search fee and it does not guarantee they will be able to give me anything. Isn't there a better way??? Please help! I have children of my own now and I really just want to know some medical history. There is nothing in the adoption paperwork about any medical issues.

2007-10-11 10:30:03 · 6 answers · asked by FLmom3 6

2007-10-11 09:34:43 · 4 answers · asked by ameri0903 3

Eg:
http://www.antiadoption.org/faq.html
http://www.amfor.net/Adopters.html
http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/prejudice_teen_mothers.htm


I was really surprised to see sites so adamantly against adoption. I personally can see why adoption could be a bad decision in some cases, but having so many positive adoption experiences in my life (myself, other members of my family, friends, friends children etc), I don't understand why adoption overall could be a horrible thing.

Thoughts and comments?

2007-10-11 07:15:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

What would you prefer happen to your own children, should you (and your spouse/SO) become deceased- would you want them to be cared for by your family members or adopted out to strangers?

2007-10-11 03:56:50 · 34 answers · asked by jade_frost82 3

I was born in morecambe, UK and then when i was 3 moths old moved away from my original mother, i know her name and where i was born, there the only details i currently have. Im 18 and so legally alllowed to start the search for my mother

2007-10-11 01:59:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

After reading lots of questions and answering a few I noticed that there is a horrifying and marked lack of knowledge among adoptive or soon to be adoptive parents about the affects of adoption for the child. My adoption was relatively closed, but I have found things out more recently but it is really traumitising being lied to and not knowing your identity. Are adoptive parents actually aware of this? And do they realised that their adopted child/children could be shattered inside but don't know how to ask about their history because they have strong fears? And have adoptees had good experiences with their adoptive parents? Any adoptees share their experiences?

2007-10-11 00:59:09 · 12 answers · asked by ♪ Rachel ♫ 6

2007-10-10 21:52:27 · 29 answers · asked by vee_michelle 1

when someone tells you, you were chosen (via adoption.)

2007-10-10 19:04:41 · 34 answers · asked by Gershom 6

I need someone to pick on.

2007-10-10 15:34:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-10 11:39:07 · 19 answers · asked by creolenola 1

1)I went and got his original birth certificate. He was named "Baby Boy ******" do you think it hurt him to see he didn't have a name?

2)We plan on to move to a community that has many adoptive families and a great special-needs program. Do you think it will help to be around other adopted children?

3)We have tons of pics of everyone in the b-family ( I got them myspace...is that wrong?)

4)I attempt to keep in contact with b-family (but they're not to interested.) Should I keep trying or just accept that they don't want contact?

5) kept the doggie his b-dad bought for him when he was in the NICU. I let him play with it and he keeps it in his crib. I want him to enjoy it.

6) I have all of his birth records and an extensive medical history of both sides of the fam. Will it hurt him to read about the day he was born. HE was SOOOO sick and almost died because of the decisions his b-parents made. Not sure how to handle this one. I know to be honest, but it'll hurt him.

2007-10-10 10:36:56 · 17 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4

Need help finding half brothers & sisters from Toronto area.
Was given up for adoption.
Family name Mac Donald
Year I was born 1967

2007-10-10 07:08:04 · 6 answers · asked by ani 1

I have made statements that have been blasted by some, and embraced by others.

I am wondering if the people that blast my comments are blasting them because they truly believe that there is no such thing as a good or proper adoption.

Do you truly believe that every agency/attorney is only in it for the money, and has no interest in a better life for a child?

Do you really think that all birth mothers are deceived and lied to?

Do you really believe that children are better off being told that their birth mother chose to not raise them? Am I a lesser person because I chose to raise another person's child?

We are good people. We are unable to have a biological child. We know that the child that we are raising is not our biological child. We also know that we will love him/her as much as we would a biological child.

2007-10-10 01:07:07 · 26 answers · asked by LC 5

My husband and I have the opportunity to adopt a child. This would be a closed adoption. our names would go on the birth cirtificate immediatly.
It just seems too good to be true. The birth mother had NO interest in the child. She wants NOTHING to do with him or her.
We have a home and are ready to be parents. We have so much love in our hearts. I can see the Pros But I know there are Cons....HELP

2007-10-09 18:42:44 · 25 answers · asked by popatreas 1

im 18 years of age and want to know if i have to take a drug test if my parents adopt another kid

2007-10-09 16:46:16 · 10 answers · asked by cap491890366 1

I'm 19. It's my first child. I want to keep him because he is my first child. I don't see whats the point of me carrying a child around for 9 months and then give him away. My mother is in my ear..looking out for me. Her choice was to give him up for adoption. I love my unborn baby. But i don't think i'm be able to support him the way i want to. But i've seen and experience single parents raising their child and they came out fine. I don't know what to do. I know there are open adoption options. But that is saying that the adoptive parents have to send me pics of my child and i keep in contact with them til he's 18. i can keep contact with him if i keep him.

2007-10-09 13:06:48 · 52 answers · asked by Jus Me 1

2007-10-09 11:02:48 · 16 answers · asked by jesse 1

I was adopted as a baby. I was talking to my mom the other day and she told me that my birth father never even knew about me! I don't know why, but this is bothering me now. I always thought that he knew. It's not like I'm going to run out and go find him, but there is a part of me that feels like he deserves to know that he has a child. Thoughts?

2007-10-09 04:14:20 · 29 answers · asked by redpeach_mi 7

So my sister got pregnant in Oregon by a total deat beat. She knows his full name and how to contact him, but she doesn't want to. She wants this baby to go to a good home. She's living in Utah again and looking into adoption. Does she have to tell the father? What if he finds out, can he undo an adoption?

2007-10-08 16:33:25 · 36 answers · asked by Diana 2

Let me start by saying that I was adopted. I don't feel that I've lost anything. I've got wonderful parents who love me and would do anything for me. I was a desperately wanted child. I never think about my birth mother. My adoptive parents were perfect.
My parents were always very honest with me, I never didn't know that was adopted, it was a fact, not a huge part of our life as a family. I don't think I've lost anything at all, and I'll probably never go looking for my birth mother, unless some strange genetic thing comes up with my own children, I don't see the point. So my question is: Why bash adoption? Because you made a choice that you are having a hard time living with? I read somewhere on here that birth mothers should get to keep their babies to 8-10 weeks because we let puppies stay with their mothers that long. This is crazy, you and baby bond during the first days, that is why the child should be turned right over to the adoptive parents.

2007-10-08 12:50:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

l was adopted in 1966 how do l go about looking for my biological mum? l have all the paper work but not sure where to start? please help.

2007-10-08 04:36:27 · 25 answers · asked by hunnybunny 1

Here's the thing....my baby's daddy disappeared almost 2 yrs ago. I met a great guy 1-1/2 yrs ago fell in love and married him. He wants to adopt my 3 yr old daughter. Sometimes he's a great daddy but other times i wonder if he even knows she's here? He likes to entertain at home almost every weekend when he is in. He works offshore. He fishes, dives, and hunts. I am beginning to realize he is kind of selfish. He is also a drinker. (mostly on weekends when friends are over) What i guess i am asking is how do i know if it is the right choice. What questions should i ask him to make sure he knows exactly what he is getting into and if he is ready for it. He wants a child of his own but i am not sure i want to do that. I am scared i will be stuck raising 2 kids by myself. Help!!!!! Any advice will be appreciated. Or questions i should ask him.

2007-10-07 14:24:19 · 38 answers · asked by Jennifer L 2

We know the adoption industry isn't perfect. so what can we EACH do to help improve the process. I know someone who was placing her child privately because she thought it was horrible for an agency to SELL her baby. She said that during her assesment they made her look at 100's of"dear birth parent letters" and told her that they could find her a better "match"

She chose a family who wasn't looking to adopt, but welcomed her request. She chose them because of who she KNEW they were, not who they said they were on paper and she wasn't budging.

So, what can we do to fix the glitches?
make it illegal to charge "placement" fees?

Have a GOVERNMENT agency without bias do the assesments?

Have a GOVERNMENT issued booklet be given to each mother letting her know her options, including foster care?

Have GOVERNMENT runned homes for mothers needing support?

This is somewhere the GOVERNMENT can do a lot of good, so what's the hold up?

Anyone have suggestions?

2007-10-07 12:11:46 · 16 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4

If you are adopted does your surname change to the adopter's. Or does it stay the same. If it does change, does the name on your birth certificate change aswell?

2007-10-06 07:27:39 · 20 answers · asked by alexds_92 1

Would some one who is adopted be a better adoptive parent then some one who wasn't adopted?

i am just wondering this as i want to eventually adopt a child of my own, and i know how hard it was on me when i was growing up being adopted and knowing that my adoptive mother has no idea what is going through my head or how i feel, i thought this would be a good question, i really would like to hear all of your different opinions on this subject.

thank you in advance

2007-10-05 13:17:56 · 22 answers · asked by Day Dreamer 4

if I had known I would feel this way, I would have never searched for my birth mom...anyone else feel this way?

2007-10-05 10:01:09 · 13 answers · asked by medge97 2

ok so i'm gonna be adopted by a familt that say that they arn't gonna let me do alot of stuff i used to in 2 days(i thought it was 5 but i guess i'm moving there on saturday) which ticks me off! and now i just find out their gonna take away my laptop! i tottaly NEED my laptop to keep in touch with my friends that live in japan! my laptop has so many pictures that i have drawn! and it has many stories that have made! and the reason why they said i can't have it anymore is because the think i'm "to young" for a laptop! i'm 14 as well.
what should i do??!!

2007-10-04 12:00:08 · 11 answers · asked by Sasha H 1

2007-10-04 09:30:32 · 16 answers · asked by nglmts 1

Could someone please tell me, if someone has put a child up for adoption can they get that child back after a few years? do they have a right to know where the child is etc

2007-10-04 07:46:51 · 48 answers · asked by Donna R 1