Adoption

What did your aparents do right and/or wrong with regard to your being adopted?

2007-10-29 08:22:26 · 11 answers · asked by thefoxxww2 3

In this case I'm talking about Caucasian parents adopting an African-American child, not an international adoption. Especially families adopting older children, what struggles have you come across as far as adapting to each other? I live in a state that has only about a 10-15% African-American population, but the majority of children in foster care in this state are African -American, and while I would be open to adopting any child who needs a loving home, I wonder if a child from a different racial background would be ok with it. Any thoughts? I'd especially love to hear from adopted children who've been in this type of blended family.

2007-10-29 07:46:43 · 6 answers · asked by Lamborama 5

Do you think it is right for adoptive parents to change the first names of children they adopt. I know someone who adopted a family of kids and they are changing the first names of each child it they want to...

2007-10-29 06:51:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I heard adoption costs a fortune, I'm a loving person and I've thought about it for two years now.

2007-10-29 04:42:04 · 16 answers · asked by michelle g 1

i was adopted when i was about 3 years old. i have had alot of missing information about what really happened, i noticed on my birth certificate that there is no hospital listed
does this mean i wasnt born in a hospital?

2007-10-29 04:06:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-28 11:33:09 · 15 answers · asked by Tinkz 1

Met my birth mother ten years ago, havent spoke to her since, that was her choice. Now my brother has to keep it secret from her when we do meet, will she ever come around. She knows we have met but is in denial. I have four more brothers to meet.

2007-10-28 10:09:57 · 15 answers · asked by lucy 1

I often hear it said that instead of infant adoption taking place, birthmothers should be encouraged to parent their children first to see if they can do it. The same people very often also advocate for foster to adopt, or at least foster care.
Ok, two questions.
1) Where do you think the children in foster care have come from? They are the result of people thinking they could be parents, but couldn't.
2) How many chances do you think a person is reasonably entitled to decide if they can be a parent? Do you really consider it fair to a child to disrupt their lives and attatchments for as long as necessary until a woman decides she wants to be a mother?

2007-10-28 02:28:05 · 20 answers · asked by Weeme 2

My husband and I are planning on adopting very soon, but we are looking for ways to subsidize the high costs of the agencies. Does anyone know of grants we could use for this purpose?

2007-10-27 14:20:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son has no memory of his biological father and the only dad he knows is my husband. Is he old enough to understand if I told him now?

2007-10-26 21:47:07 · 27 answers · asked by Jessica M 1

I have a biological son. We have discussed possibly adopting a girl someday. Our house is only a 2 bedroom. Is there some type of rule that says a male and female can not share sleeping quarters?

2007-10-26 03:57:51 · 18 answers · asked by DawnK25 1

2007-10-25 16:00:27 · 6 answers · asked by Sam B 1

My husband and I just got our foster license a month ago. Since then we have been waiting for a placement. I quit my job to stay home with the child and we are excited to be used by God to love on a child for as long as they need. We finally got a call yesturday for a sibling set of 2 girls, and told to get ready they would be placed today sometime. We were called today to be told the girls would be placed with family friends who are licensed. Which i am so glad for the girls as i know they are going through alot now but my husband and I feel like this is taking forever. How long was it before you had a placement......any advice....Thanks

2007-10-24 11:09:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live in Texas and are in the process of adopting. However the young woman whom we are adopting from is not too sure on who the father is. She has named someone but has not been able to reach him. He is aware of the pregnancy and adviced her to abort and gave her the money to do so but she was too far along and decided to go with adoption. Therefore she contacted us. What would the steps be on having the father's rights terminated, being he has not been available and has no idea she couldn't abort the pregnancy, if he is in fact the father.?

2007-10-24 05:32:53 · 8 answers · asked by a clue please 1

I was adopted in 1978, it was a closed adoption, and the courts refuse to open my records. I know for sure that I have biological siblings and I would really like to locate them. I would appreciate any advice..

2007-10-23 13:44:12 · 12 answers · asked by peacefrogzs 3

what did you think of them?

2007-10-23 11:32:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Texas. My son is 6 months old. We have not formally adopted him yet but will in 1 month. I have an open adoption with my son's birthmother. We have a very good relationship.
My adopted son's maternal grandmother is a not a good person. She is convicted felon, has 3 kids who were taken away by CPS (including my son's birthmother) and still has 1 child in the foster care system. For some reason, she dead set on getting my son back though. She can't get her own son out of CPS but she wants my son. She threatens my son's birthmother all the time and has gone so far as to contact a lawyer. The lawyer tried to find out if his birthmother had been coerced.
Obviously there was no coercion. Do we have anything to worry about? I really need reassurance.
My son's birthmother let the adoption agency know what is going on and told them she is very happy with where her son is. I'm just concerned because she still seeks approval from her mom and can be easily influenced.

2007-10-23 08:45:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 22:33:30 · 15 answers · asked by nancy 2

I don't understand the big deal as to why more people are adopting foreign babies. Wouldn't people think to help their own? There are millions of american children praying for permanent homes. I understand completely the poverty levels,malnutrtion in other countries, but what do you think the reasons are why people adopt globally? Do you think its fair to American people or your homeland persay?

The children in Africa, China, and other countries suffer from physical abnormalities, pyschological issues..as well as American children..I hear you can get a special "discount" for these types of children..it just sickens me...there are many innocent children in the USA who would kill for a permanent home..

2007-10-22 22:09:44 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not old enough yet, but in a few months i am planning on adopting an older child, about 7ish. I was adopted when i was just a little baby and i feel like God wants me to return the favor and save a life. I want to adopt an older child because they have a lesser chance of being adopted. I'm just asking for advice, or anything to help me with the process! Thanks.

2007-10-22 20:20:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

figure out if after we got married would she be able to automatically change her name over with me or would he have to legally adopt her. Just so u know he has been the only father she's known he's been around since she was 13months and she will be 8 this month so we were just trying to figure out the easiest route we could take in this situation.

2007-10-22 15:50:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a fairly flexible job, but he still doesn't have more than 15 days vacation. If we want to adopt internationally can he come for some of the trips but not all? Obviously I wouldn't travel abroad on my own, but I would probably bring my mom for the time he could not come. I know some of the countries require 6-8 wks. of travel. Would it still be possible for us to adopt internationally?

2007-10-22 06:08:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a person was placed for adoption as an infant, but after he had been placed with the adoptive parents for months, the biological mother changed her mind regained custody, does he have the right to know?

I know it is very imortant to for a person to know that they were adopted, but is it their right to know that they were almost adopted, and were treated as someone elses child, and cared for by another family? Do you think it would be damaging to find this information out as an adult if your mother never told you?

(this is not my situation, just something that I'm curious about)

2007-10-21 20:03:05 · 27 answers · asked by Angela R 4

Lets say you're dying tomorrow and have no family and you were FORCED to place your child.... (I know someone who was in this situation God rest his soul)

What kind of parents would you seek for your children?

Would there be anything that would put a gay couple at the top of your list over all of the possible parents out there?

Just curoius.

2007-10-21 14:27:00 · 23 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4

I got married and my husband adopted my daughter. The bio. father still has to pay child support every month. He says that he still has all rights to see her. Can someone please tell me that he is wrong? Please tell me that he has no say over my child?

2007-10-21 13:55:53 · 19 answers · asked by ladyjwitt 2

I see a lot of b-mothers who were told that they needed to do "what's best for thier baby"

You know give the baby to better people.

What if everyone having a child had to live to that standard... Angolina Jolie would have all of our children. Although I'm a great mother there's always "better parents" than us.

I know there is a true need for adoption, I've adopted. I would never have done it just 'cause someone wanted a "better home" for their baby. It needs to be because there's NOT EVER a suitable home.

What do you think?

2007-10-21 12:11:17 · 24 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4

In the family and culture of the country, the mother refused to allow the husband to tell the child that he was adopted. Now the mother is dead, the child is 30 yo and married, and the father wants to tell the truth, but fears it will be devastating to the somewhat unstable personality of the now adult child. It is a mystery that the child never learned on their own, but should they have to wait until the father dies to learn the truth?

Or, is the father just being selfish and trying to take care of his imagined guilt by blabbing.

2007-10-20 18:01:22 · 16 answers · asked by agreeableone 3

2007-10-20 13:51:58 · 7 answers · asked by BRENDA E. A 2

2007-10-19 17:31:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anna Q 1

When my son hurts, I hurt....

When we went to court he ran upto his b-mom and she turned away. I want him to know her so bad. I think knowing him whould be good for her too. I get real sad when I think about how he will feel when he tries and she rejects him. I keep giving her an invitation to see him, but she declines. Am I being just over sensitive?

She says she doesn't want to see him 'cause she feels guilt for the way she treated her body and blames herself for his health. I know that, that played a role in his health, but not all of it. How can I help her forgive herself? He's doing great this month and has perservered. I want her to see that.

When do I stop trying?
Do you think she really wants me to stop writing?

2007-10-18 14:42:49 · 18 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4