Adoption

rite hi i am asking this question because am curious
well my parents were talking about adopting children from age of 5+ and well it will be after me and my sisters move out what kind of rules is there 2 adoption like do u need 2 be working or do u need 2 be at a certain age my parents will be in there late 40s when all my sisters move out would that be a suitable age? also any rules or stuff that would be good to know could u help us with
thanx

2007-12-26 09:49:30 · 9 answers · asked by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3

2007-12-26 08:11:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a serious question and I'm honestly not trying to stir up trouble. My son will be 7 in a few days and at this point he doesn't ask much about his birth family. He knows he was adopted and we talk openly about his birth mother and former foster parents whenever the topic arises, but he rarely mentions any of them. I know from research and foster care preparation that birthdays can be traumatic for the adopted child as well as for the birth mother.

Can you tell me how you feel on your birthday? I know some of you have had good adoption experiences and others have not. I'm interested in finding out how you celebrate your birthday, whether it's with family or not, and whatever else you might want to share. I think it would help me to be more understanding if my son has similar feelings on his birthdays.

Many mahalos! :)

2007-12-25 10:04:07 · 23 answers · asked by aloha.girl59 7

I am now 19 years old, but when I am around 27 years old I do plan on adopting a baby boy, not old than 2 years old. Yes, I do want my own child biologically, but I do want to adopt a child preferrably a baby boy, and one of a race other than my own. I don't think I will ever get married, because I know i could not commit myself to the same person for 10, 20, or 30 years or longer, so I wouldn't put myself in that predicament. However I do want my own children biologiclly no more than 2 biologically. Which I would hope to have primarily in my custody. When I woud adopt would the child be mine, and could he stay in my care. Once i sign papers could his birth parents take him back? I plan on caring for him, loving him like my own, and buying him nice things, but will he love me back? I know lots of adoptive parents out there abuse their kids, but i wouldn't do that, I would truly be there for him emotionally and financially, I'd spoil him. I would truly care for him. Advice

2007-12-24 14:13:36 · 13 answers · asked by sam j 1

I am 13 years old and I was adopted when I was 6 months old. My parents have treated me with almost no rules through-out my entire life. Now, at the age of 13 they are trying to change things. Is there ANYTHING I can use agnest them, any legal right that parents who've adopted don't have that regular parents do?

2007-12-24 08:13:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my husband are TTC, and its not working! so adoption is a possibility in the future. we live in the uk. i have had mental health problems in the past when i was a teenager, only depression, nothing too major. and i self harmed and tryed to commit suicide. im over this now, all in the past. but if we tryed to adopt, would they hold this against us? thank you x

2007-12-23 13:43:04 · 5 answers · asked by EmmyB 2

Like if an aunt adopts her neice at birth?

2007-12-23 08:35:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

How did or would u feel if your child decided they wanted to go ahead and search for there birth parents?

My mother was very supportive but I could see that she was hurting abit too. MY mum met the woman who gave birth to me and I think it mad my mum feel alot better.

How would you react? or is it something that you wouldnt know until the time came?

2007-12-23 08:26:53 · 18 answers · asked by sarahhhhhhh 2

...would you support her?

i ask this question because i recently read an article published from data from the hyperemesis education and research foundation, which stated that quite a few women chose to end their pregnancies due to severe nausea and vomiting. i wonder, if a pre-matched pregnant woman developed hyperememis gravidarium, pre-ecclampsia or another debilitating condition, would the paps support her decision to terminate the pregnancy?

this is not a "pro-life/pro-choice" debate. this is concerning "therapeutic abortion" (or the "health of the mother" argument), which falls beyond the realm of elective termination.

2007-12-23 02:18:12 · 15 answers · asked by tish 5

I think I read somewhere that sealed records become unsealed after 99 years...when all the parties that they directly affect are dead and gone. Although this might not help me get copies of original documents, it might help my descendents. Anyone know about this?

2007-12-23 00:44:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Adoption is often referred to as giving a child an opportunity, providing opportunity for a child when they wouldn't get that from their first parents.
What could hold back a child from having "opportunity"?
What requirements and characteristics does a person capable of giving opportunity have?

2007-12-22 09:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Gershom 6

In the UK adoptees are allowed access to their adoption files when they are 18. From what i have read on here, it is not the same in america. If it wasnt for my adoption files being open to me, then I would have never found andrea (birth mother) or my siblings. I think its all wrong. anyone agree or it that a stupid question?!

2007-12-22 02:36:11 · 7 answers · asked by sarahhhhhhh 2

If you were 15 or 16 and you were pregnant, what would you do?

Would you keep it, abort it, or put it up for adoption?

2007-12-21 15:58:33 · 41 answers · asked by Emma523 2

2007-12-19 20:28:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and myself are preparing to start with adoption, it will be international and we are fully prepared to wait two years for it to complete. A concern I have is with the home study - we are currently remodeling our home and I wonder if anyone would know if this might become a problem. Most of the house is completed, we have only the landscaping, living and dining rooms left to complete. Is this any reason for a home study not go on, or for it not to turn out positively?

2007-12-19 14:41:18 · 6 answers · asked by zombie_togo 3

For example, if I gave my daughter up for adoption, how long would I have to change my mind after the adoption takes place?

2007-12-19 13:38:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

to adopt a child maybe 9 months to a 1 year old

2007-12-19 13:30:14 · 7 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3

As someone considering adopting a child, what is the most important thing I should know? What should I do, not do, be prepared for, say, etc? What do you wish someone had told YOUR adoptive parents?

2007-12-18 09:19:37 · 18 answers · asked by Patty Lee 3

have you ever been with your family in a line and the cashier thinks you're the next person in line?or you had a family member in the ICU but because you weren't the same color as them the hospital refused to believe you were a relative and refused to let you in siting family members only? how did it make you feel? and did you ever find a way to prove it?

2007-12-18 06:30:42 · 10 answers · asked by kaluah96 3

Is it moral for a couple to adopt a child, raise it for a few months and then return it back to the center because one of the parents was not able to get along with the child well?

2007-12-17 16:11:19 · 46 answers · asked by ? 2

\My wife and I are trying to adopt our second child because having another child bio would be harmful to my wife (medical reasons) We are going through the foster system and my family is not happy about it. My mother has all but said that she will treat the two children differently. I think this is horrible. I will love my kids and I expect my family to do the same. Do you think once the child is here she will react diffrently

2007-12-17 08:07:32 · 28 answers · asked by Big Daddy R 7

This happened to me in elementary school. At the time I didn't think much of it, because I lacked perspective. I did think EVERYONE else had "better" parents, because they resembled their parents and I really longed for the connection of looking like others and being understood. I felt like a round peg trying to live with squares.

When I met my real parents when I was 21, they were much younger than my aparents. I have no doubt they would have been MUCH easier to relate to growing up. And been similar in age to my peers parents.

It seems to me that if you want to put off adopting children till late in life, you certainly shouldn't take an infant. A great deal of my childhood was spent in the hospital with sickly (old) aparent. Don't young children deserve vital parents?

2007-12-17 07:03:31 · 21 answers · asked by Adoptionissadnsick 4

This is their 8th annual show. It's supposed to bring awareness about all the children in foster care. I was wondering if anybody ever watched the previous ones. It looks really great because it is spotlighting stories on children adoptd out of foster care. Many of them are older children and teenagers. I really believe that if society saw more positive aspects of fostering older children, then people would not be so afraid of it. All you ever hear about is how hard it is adopting older children. You never hear anything positive. I hope this helps bring awareness about foster care. That would be really good. What do ya'll think?

2007-12-17 04:01:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm pregnant and the bio-dad took off soon after we found out. Now i'm w/ a new guy and he's been helping me out so much threw this pregnant and we're thinking about getting married and I was wondering how i'd go about having him be listed under father on the birth certificate. Me and the bio-dad were never married or anything like that.

Also, I live in California

2007-12-17 03:48:26 · 12 answers · asked by Lenababi 2

Well, another 'depressed' woman on drugs to treat her 'condition' killed a child, her 'dream come true' according to authorities.

This woman was already the mother to two biological children, the police call the violent act an 'isolated incident'.

http://www.indystar.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20071214/LOCAL/712140474/1006/LOCAL11

2007-12-17 03:38:07 · 16 answers · asked by Sunny 7

When I go to the Doctor or Hospital I am asked for extensive family medical History. The American Adoption System tells me I am not entitled to know anything about myself or my own birth, including my family medical background

When I get upset about this situation I am told over and over (I've recently had a particularly nasty email from someone here on Y/A) that I am "feeling sorry for myself"

What do you think? Is it ok for anyone to be kept in the dark about their own selves?

2007-12-16 22:36:30 · 26 answers · asked by H****** 7

Go back to visit your adopted parents, my friend who fostered 10 children, told me neither of them kept in contact with her, only her biological and stepchildren came back to see them.

2007-12-16 14:19:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dad passed away 5 years ago. i have a 23 yo bro, and 20 yo sis, a 18 yo bro (all out on their own), i'm 16, and my little bros are 12 and 7. we just found out that my mom has brain cancer, they gave her 3 mo. to live. both my parents were only kids and 3 of our grandparents have passed away, the other one is at a nursing home. i'm hoping my mom will make it, but if not, would me, Kameron, and Keegan be put into foster care, or would we be allowed to live with our older siblings (like one of us with each)? what would be legal, we don't want to be separated.

2007-12-16 13:01:40 · 16 answers · asked by :) 3

For the nice people that anwered my questions - thank you for ansering with your honost opinion, that it wasn't a good idea and maybe I needed some help and was just feeling stressed like all parents but I deleted my questions because other people were just too mean. I just feel sometimes like I am not good enough and most people on here sure know how to make you feel even worse than you felt before asking for help.
Merry Christmas to you all!

2007-12-16 12:01:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hear people saying right or wrong reasons to adopt in a lot of questions. It got me thinking what are the wrong reasons to adopt? What are the right ones?

2007-12-16 07:49:00 · 10 answers · asked by Petra 5