If you were pregnant?

Question

If you were 15 or 16 and you were pregnant, what would you do?

Would you keep it, abort it, or put it up for adoption?

Why should I remove this question?

Answer 1

Thinking you'd know what you'd do in that situation without actually BEING in that situation are often very different.

I used to think I'd know what I'd do, then found myself horrified by being raped and missing my next two periods. (I was not pregnant, luckily).

After that event, I find that I can no longer speak with certainty just what I'd do if I were in a certain situation. ....Unless you're living that event, you really do not know.

Answer 2

Do NOT remove your question! That is the purpose of Yahoo Answers. To be allowed to ask legitimate questions and allow those who answer to do so based on experience. To remove your question only allows the "bullies" out there to continue to over-run this board with political soapboxes that are not allowed on this forum.

Now, on to your question - each person is different and it is a PERSONAL choice. At the age of 15 or 16, you need to consider if you are able to provide a loving, stable environment for this child. If you have support and feel that you are able to parent a child at this age, then yes, by all means keep the child. However, if you feel that you are too young or that you could not parent the child properly, then I would consider other options. But again, it is a PERSONAL choice that NO ONE can make for you.

For me, I truly believe in a woman's right to choose abortion. However, morally in my own personal opinion, I could not go through with an abortion because of my beliefs. That doesn't mean that it isn't "right" for someone else who does not have those beliefs.

I believe in adoption for many reasons. I do believe that it is an opportunity to provide a loving, stable environment for children and also a way to create families for those who suffer from infertility. I do not believe in "coercing" a bio parent into relinquishment, unless it is in the best interest of the child (i.e. abusive, drug dependent home, etc). However, I do believe that in some cases adoption is a beautiful thing and should not just be discounted because someone on the board has had a bad experience with their adoption journey.

In the end, just remember, that it is a PERSONAL choice. Whatever is decided should be in the best interest of the child...not the bio or adoptive parents but that of the child.

Answer 3

That's a tough one.... But I'm 18 now but if I was 15 or 16 and did get pregnant I probably would give it up for adotion. I definitely would NOT have an abortion. I would probably find a good family to give the baby to because I think that would be best for it and I think that 15/16 is too young to have a kid. You're still a kid at that age and should be having some fun and should finish school and if you want go to college . I would see what my family said on the matter as well. Nothing is wrong with keeping it either that would be hard to do and I do think its brave of someone at that age to do and keep it and if they find time for school and what not. I just think its a big responsibility so thats why I say I'd give it to a family because I'd want to finish school and be at college like I am now. But I'm really not sure there probably would be I chance I would keep the baby to see it grow up and I still would go to college and what not. Like i said that's a tough question. Hopefully I wont have a kid until I'm married and a little older.

Answer 4

Well, Im 15 now so I would be 16 when I have the baby and the best thing to do would be to get an abortion but I honestly dont think I could have the heart too.
And you dont need to delete this question! its yahoo answers and this is a place where we can discuss things like this jeez.

Answer 5

I was pregnant at 16 years old. I was scared the father was gone. I lived with my Mom I was in the 10th grade. I asked my Mom what I should she told me that abortion due to the situation was the bests. But she'd support me in any choice I made. I kept her. She is now a smart beautiful 15y girl. It wasn't easy but we made it. She was 2 when I met my husband. We made a home and a family together. I wouldn't trade having her for anything in this world.

Back when I was pregnant with her I choose go to an alternative school threw my high school and several other high schools in my area. We had all kinds of kids there a few of them were pregnant too or had a baby already. I knew one girl and her boyfriend who was planning on giving their child up for adoption. They choose the parents she spent a few days with the little girl in the hospital and they the parents took the child back to their home state with them. They would send the them pictures. That was the right choice for them they weren't ready to be parents yet. I don't know what ever happened to them. I do know that they gave a gifts precious to someone who needed wanted and were more then ready to take it on. For that alone I will always respect Brooke and her choice.

Answer 6

If you are able to keep the baby I think that would be a good choice if you had a support system of people who could help you. There are a lot of agencies that can provide support for young moms. If you don't feel you would be able to provide for the child I think adoption is a great option. There are so many people who desperatly want a child to love and raise. I think abortion is really a bad idea. Not only is extremely emotionally hard on the mother, but it is also very traumatic to your body. That baby is a human from the moment it's conceived and it deserves the chance at life just like it's mother. Best of luck!

Answer 7

Forget abortion, do you want to kill your baby? Keep it if you have a good support system with your parents and the dad if possible. If there is any danger for the child, give it up. (I knew when I found out, at six weeks, that I would give my third child up for adoption because her dad was dangerous, why we split up.) People argue about your choice and all, when you are pregnant, it is a baby unless you are emotionally empty. I did a private adoption, I highly reccomend this avenue. A man I worked for knew of 3 couples in his former town that wanted to adopt because they couldn't have kids. That put me in touch with a man who helped screen the 3 couples and ultimately chose the couple who adopted her. They came and met me in the hospital and when we left, I handed her to them. We have stayed in contact and every year they visited my parents. I know there are horror stories out there with adoption, but there are success stories as well. Find a lawyer or someone who will help you find a couple that will let you be part of the childs life. God Bless.

Answer 8

definitely you should keep it and according to your situation then if you really want put it up for adoption but always be a part of the child's life if not and you can get help and support then keep it and take care of it either way you are giving the baby a chance of life by not terminating the pregnancy ok i wish you all the luck and god be with you in making a decision make the right one hon u can do it be strong

Answer 9

If I were pregnant and 15 or 16, I would ask my parents or boyfriend's parents to help me parent my child. If they refused, I would have an abortion. I would not put anyone through the hell of adoption.

Answer 10

If I were in this scenario I would defiantly put the baby up for adoption. I’m not even ready to be a parent at 24, let alone when i was 15 or 16. I’d provide as much medical information for the baby’s new parents. Include some other things about myself that they could tell the child one day if he or she asked, maybe even write a letter to the child, that again he or she could read one day if they wanted too.

Answer 11

first of all if this question is for you you should tell your mom ASAP..... I had my first daughter when i was 16. and let me tell you i wouldnt have been able to do it with out the help of my parents and friends. Taking care of a baby 24-7 is the hardest thing you will ever have to do but at the same time the most rewarding. My daughter is now 17 and a honor student well on her way to college. I am very proud of her but i had to sacrafice all my wants and some needs to make sure she got what she needed.!!! Good Luck!!!