Adoption

Ok, birth parents want to place child up for adoption, however the birthmoms mother does not want this to happen and wants the baby to raise. However, the birth mom, does not want her to raise the baby and still wants to place child up for adoption. FYI --the grandmother just got out of prison 2 mts ago.. Can she prevent the adoption from taking place?

2007-11-13 06:46:50 · 23 answers · asked by luckygirl 2

2007-11-13 05:41:54 · 16 answers · asked by Sue-Sue 1

i ask this because often i hear, associated with a failed adoption, a comparison made with a child's death. what do you all think? and please give rationale behind your reply...

2007-11-13 03:10:16 · 19 answers · asked by tish 5

I just found out that I can not have children do to PCOS. But it was always my dream to be a mother. What are the cadntrails that you need to have to be able to adopt a child? And also to foster a child? Any thing would be great. Do you HAVE to be a high school graduate? Is there a certain age range? Can you be single or dating, or do you have to be married?

2007-11-13 02:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by Blah~!!! 2

i have read a couple of questions from dreamwhip,happy adoptee and noodlesmycat. I'm starting to take their questions personally!! Just because i'm for open records does not make me anti-adoption. Just b/c i found my n-mom does not mean i love my adoptive parents any less. I just wanted her to answer my questions. I'm here at my computer crying and being angry. I can't believe they feel that i'm crap because i wanted to know some medical information(diabetes runs in the family), where I came from(i'm mexican-irish). I do know of case close to home that they were abused by their adopted parents. So i feel that there should be closer screening of couples. So the child will have a happy home enviroment for all involved. I just don't understand why they think i'm anti-adoption because i want to help other adoptees who are searching. I like this forum, i have had alot of questions. And everyone has been nice to answer them. I don't know i feel like such a loser because of them.

2007-11-13 01:34:14 · 24 answers · asked by a healing adoptee 4

I'm an adopted child, and having met a few others in my life, am struck by the fact that feel like I'm in the minority because I'm not going to look for my birth parents.

I just feel like my adopted parents ARE my parents; they took care of me when I was sick, shouted at me when I let my schoolwork slip, and cried at my wedding. It wasn't all easy by a long shot (in fact, when I was a teenager we had some downright awful times) but they were always my parents. Who else could I call Mom and Dad?

Also, who knows where my birth mother is? I wish her all the best, but if she's got her life together, does she need me to shift her balance? It just seems too complicated for everyone involved.

Like I said, though, I know I'm in the minority. Are there any other adoptees out there who are not planning to find their birth parents? Why or why not?

2007-11-12 21:32:05 · 22 answers · asked by Bellavita 5

Do you believe in interracial adoption (as in a family adopting a child of another race)? Why or why not?

I personally have mixed views on the subject, because I noticed a lot of white families who adopt Asian children adopt them because they think asian kids are cute when they are little (you don't see most of them adopting a latino, indian, or other-raced child). I have heard of other scenarios as well regarding the problems with interracial adoption.

Yet I also feel a family is not bound by race but by love and a child of any race can be raised and adopted with love by parents of any race. But yet could it work if the parents show them other children just like them, know the child's heritage, culture, etc...

What is your opinion on this issue? For or against and why?

2007-11-12 17:07:50 · 12 answers · asked by Dusk 6

2007-11-12 13:52:45 · 20 answers · asked by hello kitty 1

My dh is adopted with no interest in searching.. and I think he should, if only so that his mother knows that he survived childhood and is a man she could be proud of.

(I'm not talking about an aggressive search, btw... only about listing him with soundex and other free online registries, so that if she is looking, he can be found.)

2007-11-12 13:39:44 · 9 answers · asked by mommy2squee 5

is it possible for a single mother to adopt? i really want another baby.

2007-11-12 12:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was born july 24, 1969. My birth mother was from St Louis Mo and I was born in Irving TX. I have 3 sibs (either 2 f and 1 m or 2 m and 1 f) I'm on the register in San antonio and the one in Austin for adoptees but if anyone has any info...contact me.

2007-11-12 09:17:15 · 9 answers · asked by Dreamweaver back for more 6

Ok so I am not going to tell you my age because that will efffect the answers you give me so i am not going to say that... Well i am 21 weeks and well i have chosen a nice couple whom i know can handle a child to give my baby girl to. I have an ultra on the 20th and i have invited the wife along to see her. Well recently i have been thinking that i want to keep my baby. i even have a great name for her (Zina) but i dont know how to tell the family i want to keep her. or if i even really what to keep her. Is it horrible to do to the couple. I mean there are other families to choose from arn't there i mean i'm not their last hope.

2007-11-12 08:28:37 · 79 answers · asked by youcantseeme2976 2

as so many here claim, then why do so many people have IVF treatments before resorting to adoption?

2007-11-12 07:53:02 · 20 answers · asked by H****** 7

I'm in need of some serious advice.

I'm majoring in criminology. After college, I plan to go overseas and teach for 1-2 years. This will be my "break" before med school, where I want to become a forensic psychiatrist.

Now, I have always wanted to adopt children before having any of my own. This is mostly because I've always wanted to be a young mother, since I feel that it's easier to connect with your child when you're still quite young. However, by the time I get my MD, I'm undoubtedly going to be in my 30's. See the problem? Sure, I could still have kids earlier, but it wouldn't be fair to them to have a crazy mother trying to care for them while going through med school/residency.

Any advice? Having a family is important to me, but I want a strong career to be able to support them.

All of the above aside, I'm also worried about treating my adopted child(ren) differently when I have biological kids. I can't see myself doing it on purpose, but what if I did it subconsciously?

2007-11-12 07:31:29 · 8 answers · asked by Joey 1

I hear people say often, that if a child must be placed for adoption or raised by someone other then their biological parents, then it's always best for a family member (aunt & uncle, grandparents, cousin) to adopt the child then a non-related couple. I wonder though, if your relatives are very different then your parents, not really in the best situation to raise a child, and "taking the child in" mainly out of family obligation, is it still better then having friends of the parents, or another adoptive coupe who really want to raise the child adopt them? For example, if my mom's brother and his wife adopted me, she would not be genetically related to me in anyway, and while I am related to my uncle, he is not close with my mom, and I don't think I would have ever been treated as their child, and may have been seen as a burden.
Has anyone been adopted/ raised by a family member? Do you think it was better then if you had been adopted by someone outside your family?

2007-11-12 07:24:20 · 11 answers · asked by Angela R 4

i would like to know the pros and cons to each and why doctors reccomend natural birth. i am putting my baby up for adoption and i guess im just reaching out and thinking that cesarean would maybe be easier because its not all pain and then this crying little miracle. im not saying it will be easy but i just want to know why people disagree with cesarean

please no rude answers and also no people that think cesarean is weak

2007-11-12 07:00:46 · 25 answers · asked by *Kala* 3

Phone call from the police and you are told that the child you have been raising for ten years is not your bio child, there was a mix up at the hospital , just now disovered. Do you trade in your child, the one you have raised loved and cared for, you thought was your flesh and blood for your real true bio child?? do you take that child from the only fmily he/she knows? Could you give up yout child after ten years of bonding if you discovered this? This question test the theory of what it takes to be a real parent genes or nurturung

2007-11-12 06:53:27 · 17 answers · asked by dreamwhip 4

Did you feel loved by your adoptive family? were you happy in you adoptive home? what could your adoptive family/parents done to make things better for you?

the reason I'm asking is
I want to adopt my 4 year old foster son, we have been a family for 1 year, he is a delight.
the bio mom has relinquished her rights (life prison term)
and bio dad is deceased.
I want to provide him with a happy loving family and home, I want to aviod the pitfalls of other adoptive mothers.
Thanks in advance

2007-11-12 04:42:47 · 22 answers · asked by bopddbop 3

Okay check out CNN!! http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/11/12/adoption.birthrecords.ap/index.html
ACLU has taken on a new cause not to let adoptees access to adoption records. I want to know your thoughts! This is outrageous!! ACLU says it pushes birth parents into unwanted relationships with their childeren?!!

2007-11-12 03:50:46 · 14 answers · asked by a healing adoptee 4

Did you know that 25-35% of young people in residential treatment centers are adoptees? That's 17 times the norm. Adoptees are morelikely to have problems with drugs and alcohol abuse, eating disorders, ADD, and suicide?
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/ginni.html

And that adoptees are 15 times more likely than their non-adopted peers to kill their adopters? Adoptees represent 16% of all serial killers but are only 2-3% of the general population?
http://crimemagazine.com/07/adoptionforensics,0919-7.htm

Why does this institution continue in all but the most dire cases? Is it because it's a $1.4 billion business?
http://www.antiadoption.org/counselingandsupport.html

Why else?

2007-11-12 02:15:34 · 27 answers · asked by Sunny 7

http://www.crimerant.com/?p=707
Crimerant » Blog Archive » Michigan Mom’s a Lock for Worst Mother of the Year

http://www.a-team.org/child_abuse_statistics.html
A-Team. Child sexual abuse. Child abuse statistics. Domestic violence, date rape, abusing women and abusing men. Abusing family and sex education; marriage education.

http://archive.salon.com/mwt/feature/2000/05/08/stalked/index.html
Salon Mothers Who Think | Stalked by my birth mother

2007-11-11 18:18:14 · 12 answers · asked by noodlesmycat 4

i just got done watching Meet the Robinsons with my little cousins and it got me thinking about adopting and older child to give them a chance becuase no one wants onder kid they want babies would it be wierd to adopt a older child or nice has anyone done this that can give me some advice

2007-11-11 16:53:35 · 12 answers · asked by noodle_stupot 3

I am highly disturbed, as an adoptive parent, of the notion that those who adopt from foster care, or who are foster parents make incredible amounts of money caring for those children.

What makes a person think that people foster or adopt from foster care to get rich?

Yes, there is some financial relief for foster and adoptive parents, however, if you're doing it right, you're not even getting reimbursed 50% of what you spend on your children.

Example. I worked as a secretary for a middle school, and it was Christmas time and it was time to pick a child whose family was having hard times to "sponsor" with gifts and Christmas dinner.

Immediately, I thought of "X" who had just been orphaned because his parents were in a car wreck.

The answer? NO, because he has foster parents who are making a boatload off of caring for him, he'll have a good Christmas. WTF?!?

Please tell me, if you're one of those that believe this notion, WHY you do. I can guarantee you, it's false

2007-11-11 16:13:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mother gave her children up for adoption and signed away rights but now would like to make amends and give adoptive parents contact info to decide whether they are willing for her to make contact, send photo's and/or let her know how children are doing.

2007-11-11 14:47:25 · 5 answers · asked by Benjamin R 1

I am with a man that had a child when he was 19 years old. The mother put the baby up for adoption and he was in jail when it happened so he didnt get to sign the birth certificate or anything. His father has ahold of the birth certificate so he can sign it. Being in jail when it comes to adoption does the father lose rights even though he didnt actually sign them over?

2007-11-11 13:22:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be getting married soon and one thing I have always wanted to do is adopt some kids. Is there a lot of kids that are adopted? what is your opinion?

2007-11-11 11:35:03 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4

she had to give up her newborn son years ago and was wondering how i can go back to records and find him. she has always wondered how he is doing and would like to meet him and has wondered for many years. please help me find him. thankyou duane.

2007-11-11 08:51:03 · 5 answers · asked by dsfildes@sbcglobal.net 1

2007-11-11 07:10:59 · 43 answers · asked by ? 6

My 3 year old niece is now in my custody after the courts told my sister for the SECOND time that she was not a propper mother. My sister wasn't mad, but relived. She told me she would rather have her daughter in better hands. I'm glad she's out of denial after one year.

So, if I get her mom to give away her paretnal rights, could I adopt my niece? I know my sister will say yes. My niece's father died in IraQ two years ago, so I don't need to worry about him. Thanks!

2007-11-11 04:28:58 · 5 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

i'm just asking anyone,who need a 13 year old girl to adopt.Okay,i'm just asking because i am that girl.My family treat me like i'm their step child and i can't take it anymore.I never get a chance to be with a real family that can love me.I tried to talk to them and they still act the same.But if you think this is stupid,please,just don't answer.

2007-11-11 03:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by Lonely K 1