You're right. Girls are much more sought after than boys in the adoption process. And as someone else mentioned, boys are more desired in when having a biological child. Part of the reason that girls are desired and boys are not is that boys carry the family name. For men the carrying on of the family name/genes is often very important. The girl children-not so much. In adoption research it has been found that maternal grandparents support adoption in general far more than paternal grandparents probably for the same reason. Sad, sad, sad....
2007-11-11 23:37:05
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answered by punxy_girl 4
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The most plausible explanation that I've read is that women usually "drive" the adoption process and many women dream of having a daughter. I'm not sure if it's a childhood fantasy of dressing them up and having mother-daughter tea parties or what... but for some women, having a daughter seems to be a *big* deal. I know several families who adopted girls after giving birth to a string of boys (but I don't know any who adopted a boy after giving birth to several girls.) I also know several families who have *many* (bio) children... because they kept trying for a girl.
I also think for some people, the first knowledge that they have of adoption (especially international) is about the little girls in China. And once "girl" gets into their heads they continue down that path and request a girl, no matter what program they choose.
2007-11-11 10:32:45
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answered by Kim 3
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Could it be that girls are more available than boys? My parents adopted two girls and a boy - but my mother told me that she specified that it didn't matter if she got a boy or a girl - she ended up with a girl. This was way back in the 60's and early 70's.
A former co-worker of mine adopted two girls from China - but, given the situation in China (from what I hear) that is just expected - she and her hubby really wanted a child, so again: It didn't matter if they adopted a boy or a girl....
2007-11-11 07:15:37
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answered by IJToomer 5
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We've just completed an adoption preparation course and this question was asked and the answer given was that there is a misconception that boys are harder to raise than girls... In reality adopted children come with their own unique behaviour because of their often tough start in life; it's not gender specific....
2007-11-12 00:16:38
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answered by Jayne R 2
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Yes, there are many people who want to adopt baby girls vs. baby boys.
Those that I have personally heard of that desire this want to because they are afraid a boy will be too energetic for them.
Also, many couples who have children seem to have biological boys, and then want to adopt a girl so the moma can finally have her "little girl" without taking a "shot in the dark" and hoping for a girl when they've already had 2 or 3 boys.
We adopted a boy AND a girl...full brother and sister, and ages 9 and 10.
2007-11-11 15:44:53
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answered by Anonymous
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I wanted to adopt a girl because I thought a lot about how hard it can be for a girl left alone in the world to protect herself. Considering the ways women are exploited and abused around the world and in various settings, I thought that if providing a stable home for one girl and teaching her how to protect herself from being exploited or abused could help at least her, then I would choose a girl. It's true that boys also suffer, but the power balance of society is set against women and I definitely took that into consideration in my adoption effort. As it happened, I was put in touch with a birth mother and agreed to adopt the child not knowing the gender, although she turned out to be a girl. If I get a second chance to adopt, I would be happy to adopt a boy.
2007-11-11 07:17:47
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answered by surlygurl 6
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Well I would love to adopt a baby but I want a boy because they're cool and easy to take care of.
Maybe other people adopt girls to save them from finishing in the streets someday or things like that. Since people happen to have the concept that boys have more chance to make it through a life with traumas and not be so affected by it. Girls tend to do things that can risk their life, like maybe falling in hands of men or people with bad intentions. I guess...
2007-11-11 07:17:47
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answered by Poe 2
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When I was approved for adopting I said that I would have a girl or boy, but as I had two sons the panel approved me for a girl so that our family dynamics wouldn't change. The boys would still be our oldest and youngest sons I then said I would have a sibling pair and they just happened to be twin girls.
2007-11-12 02:21:54
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answered by Dory 7
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If you're referring to China, it's because girls in that country are often abandoned, due to China's one-child policy and a cultural preference for boys. As a result, orphanages are filled with them. However, one thing that isn't often mentioned is that these places also have handicapped boys and nobody seems to be adopting them.
2007-11-12 18:34:48
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answered by RoVale 7
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I agree with Kim, woman are more 'in charge' of the adoption process in most cases, and woman tend to want girls. In our case I just always wanted a little girl, and so did my husband. (or was he just trying to be a good hubby because he knew I always wanted a girl!?)
I don't know why I wanted a girl so bad, my mother daughter relationship with my mom isn't that great, and hers with her mom wasn't good at all. Hmmm, Hope I am not trying to break some psychological cycle of some such. Or yet, maybe it is good that I am aware of that family dynamic and that awareness will allow me to break it!
2007-11-11 15:59:30
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answered by martha a 1
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