2007-11-12 13:52:45 · 20 answers · asked by hello kitty 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Get a lawyer. Why did you let her have your kid in the first place? She may prove you unfit. All i can say is call a lawyer.
2007-11-12 17:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I had a best friend in high school who let her aunt adopt her child, then reclaimed her. It hadn't been 7 months, but I don't know what the time limit for contesting adoptions is where you are. My friend, btw, is a wonderful person and a great mom. Taking her child back didn't mean she was going to abuse it, or neglect it, or anything of the sort. It just meant that when she was pregnant she had a lot of people filling her head full of doubt as to whether or not she could be the best mother of this baby, and eventually convinced her that her aunt was better than she was. Turns out all of those people were wrong. Your child may have attached to your aunt for 7 months, but he/she attached to you for 9 months in utero and no one minded her taking him from you and breaking that mother/child bond, did they?
What I would do, first, in your shoes is to go to http://www.origins-usa.com and talk to the women there who can give you some great advice and help you find a lawyer. Next, I would contact a lawyer and let them know that you would like to reclaim custody of your child and the events leading up to the adoption. Have you spoken to your aunt and uncle about this? If not, you may want to do that also so it doesn't come as too big a shock for them. They may try to keep you away from your child though after you make your plans known, or try to close the adoption, so be careful. Ask your lawyer if there is anything you can do to make sure the adoption remains open. I'm sure that when people were talking to you about giving your baby to your aunt and uncle, they told you that at least you could see him all the time and know how he's doing...see how well that works on them. Something tells me the lines that were used on you aren't gonna fly far with them, but at least you'll see how much BS it was.
I wish you the very best of luck.
2007-11-13 07:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Marsha R 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
It's not totally impossible to get the child back but it all depends on the whole situation...was social services involved? Did you voluntarily give up the child or was he/she taken thru social services? Have your parental rights been terminated yet or did you just verbally agree to give the child to your aunt? Do they have legal custody? How much contact or how much of a relationship do you have with the child? Most important, think about whats right for the child.
2007-11-14 10:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states there are stipulations in the law that states a birth parent can resend the adoption within a certain period of time but it's usually no more than 30 days. After that point it's pretty much a done deal. Your best bet is to contact an adoption attorney regarding the specific laws to your states.
2007-11-12 23:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Orion 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I would think a good start would be the agency you started the adoption with. You probably need a lawyer. Will your aunt contest giving the baby back? Also, why do you want the baby back? I am not trying to be the bad guy here because I admire your wanting to raise your baby but there must have been a reason you wanted to put the baby up for adoption to begin with. Have the circumstances changed? Good luck. I hope everything turns out for the best for everyone involved.
2007-11-13 00:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
It depends on the state and you should contact an attorney, but most likely you can't get the child back. If you signed relinquishment papers, then you usually can't just take that back and change your mind, unless you can prove that your aunt is an unfit parent or that it would be in the BEST interest of the CHILD to be back with you.
2007-11-13 11:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by Amy B 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I agree-depends on the state and there laws!!!! do your research and find an attorney, if you can't find any attorney call your local social services office and see if they have a list of attorneys who do pro bono work and can help you.
2007-11-14 08:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by tovah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the aunt isn't giving the baby back then she is attached to the baby and stuff it will be hard and it will be costly with lawyer that is only way take care.
2007-11-15 00:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the adoption is not finalized then this is still your child. Contact originsusa.org for advice and support
2007-11-13 07:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by H****** 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
If the adoption is not finalized then you do have some rights left. You will need to contact an attorney if you decide that you really do want your child back. Unfortunately, the courts may find in favor of your Aunt even after you contest the adoption. It will be a LONG and expensive journey. There is no guarantee that your child will ever legally be yours again.
Think about the reasons you want to get your child back. Are they in the best interest of you (will it make you feel better?) or the best interest of the baby? You should only contact an attorney if it TRULY is in the best interest of your baby. Your birth child has now bonded for seven months with your Aunt. It will be difficult for everyone involved if you choose to try and stop the adoption process.
Best of Luck!
2007-11-13 00:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Leslie C 1 · 1⤊ 10⤋
Depends on your state.
Plain and simple You Need An Attorney
2007-11-12 21:56:35 · answer #11 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 9⤊ 1⤋