Adoption

I believe in adoption reform. I know that adoption is a necessity. I just want to make it about the child. I want the adoption industry out of our lives. I want us to be able to control our destiny. I want our choices returned to us. If an adoptee is happy and doesn't want to search, I am fine with that. I don't want a prospective adoptive parent ripped off because they want a child. If an adoptive parent chooses an open adoption, I don't want an adoption agency telling them how to do it. I want adoption to be free from coercion and lies. I want to remove the myths and lies that the adoption industry. How does all of this make me anti~adoption?

2007-11-25 12:28:02 · 14 answers · asked by amyburt40 3

It has been said here on Yahoo! Answers that natural mothers with anger issues should be sterilized. I am curious as to the opposing views on this topic.

Should n-moms be sterilized only if their anger is present prior to the birth and relinquishment of the child or should they be sterilized if they become angry after the birth and relinquishment once they are able to process the possible harm the adoption could impose on their children and themselves?

On to my second question. Why is it that a natural mother is only a decent and loving human being if she is passive and dares not speak out and share her own pain? Are all n-moms inherently evil or just the ones who are willing to share their own personal stories? How is is possible for a woman to go from near sainthood before the baby is with it's adoptive family to being a low life, child hating, irresponsible breeder once the adoption is final?

2007-11-25 11:40:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello,

I am thirteen years old.

When I get older I plan to adopt a baby.

I want it to be a baby, cuz I do not want to have my own.

Has anyone here adopted a baby, and come to love it as your own.

Any one here that has adopted, but didn't really like the idea, since it isn't yours by blood.

If you have adopted, did you tell the baby when it got older that he/she was adopted, or did you keep it from them?

I am really interested in adopting, and can't wait.

How old were you when you adopted the baby, or child? I plan to be around 25 when I adopt.

Do you have to pay? Anything like that. Lots of papers to sign?

I am just being prepared for the future.

10 points for the best answer, and most help.

Please no mean answers..

Thanks!

2007-11-25 11:38:16 · 3 answers · asked by Unknown. 3

Okay, I've been gone for a few months, but this category used to be all about offering support and opinions in a postive and respective way. Everyone could voice their opinion but it was done with respect. I'm reading some of these responses and wondering what gives anyone the right to be so ugly and nasty? I just received an email from someone who will not be back to this board because of the "attack" she came under. Aren't we all here for the same thing? We can agree to disagree but we should not be attacking one another. So I'm curious, what started this whole thing in Y!A adoption?

2007-11-25 07:29:08 · 15 answers · asked by BPD Wife 6

My step son has a baby on the way, 12-25-07! The mother already has 2 babies aged 1 and 2.5 yrs. She was with my boy for a short time during her divorce from her babies father. Now she and her ex husband are back together and she is talking about putting this baby up for adoption. He ex husband doesnt want to raise it! She lives in Indiana we live in Ohio. Our son is heart broken. He doesnt have a pot to p!ss in or a window to throw it out. He is currently living with us. My husband has asked me how I would feel about adopting that baby. Truthfully is scares the you know what out of me. Our youngest is 18 and a senior in HS! If I agree to this I want it to be our baby, not a baby with strings attached! I dont want to have to ask the boy, get permission or explain ourselves for actions we take in raising the child. Is that too much to ask?

Has anyone else had this experiance?

My mother was adopted by her biological paternal aunt, and her bio father did not interfere

2007-11-24 13:48:28 · 9 answers · asked by grapelady911 5

sometime me and dad think it would be nice to have a sibling around and me have alittle brother or sister around my age maybe. how bad is adoptiing a child. i live in alabama any help would be appreciated my mom couldn't have another child for a health reason

2007-11-24 11:25:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

what if i go through with the pregnancy....then when i have the baby become attatched? isn't it better to kill the foetus before i get to know it inside me?

2007-11-24 10:22:46 · 14 answers · asked by Titchy. 1

arise in people who were raised by their birth parents. There are bad parents period. I've known adopted children with and without problems. I've known non-adopted children with and without problems. It's not adoption that's the problem, but the parents raising the child. that includes parents who gave birth to the child.

So for those of you against adoption, would you rather have a single mother on welfare raising her child in poverty? Would you rather she chose abortion?

Adoption today is very different than it was 10, 20+ years ago. I hope you also understand that adoptees aren't the only ones who have trust and abandonment issues too. It can happen to people raised by their birth parents as well.

2007-11-24 09:05:25 · 14 answers · asked by Brittae 3

I noticed that there is a lot of tension here. Why is that? There seems to be very strong opionons about adopting, being adopted, losing a child to adoption.
I realize there are feelings involved, but personal experiences are nothing to attack, nor are they a reason to attack.

Anyone have a response?


Oh and I actually wanted some advice. We are foster parents, but we do not currently have a child placed with us. We were invited to attend a Holiday party for Foster families and foster children. Should we attend, even though we do not have a placement?

2007-11-24 08:35:37 · 15 answers · asked by mexirican@sbcglobal.net 2

I can't help but notice how many very angry adoptive parents are on this forum. I was raised by an adoptive father who could not control his rage and it manifested in much the same way as some of the posters here, long nonesical insults, breaking objects, kicking in doors, unfocused,disporportionate, fear based. Actually quite frightening, he blamed "liberals" for a lot of things, that type.

My question is, how common is this kind of anger in adoptive parents and are these questions even asked about in the home study?

In other words why are so many disturbed people allowed to adopt?

2007-11-24 06:10:12 · 17 answers · asked by Joy M 3

Recently I've asked some questions regarding my reunification with my birthmother (I was adopted at a few weeks old), and the way in which it has being going very negatively. She has, among other things, demanded I cut my parents out of my life, and ignored 3 of my 6 kids because they're not bio kids. I have tried to work with her, encourage her to seek help, etc, but to no avail unfortunately.
Now to my question. As a foster parent, and someone who has worked as a family liason officer, I'm no stranger to adoption horror stories. But I was shocked at the number of people who blamed adoption in and of itself for my birthmother's issues. I understand that a lot of people have suffered a great deal of pain from adoption, and I'm so sorry for them. But sometimes people make their own choices, right or wrong, and adoption certainly isn't always wrong or harmful. So why do so many people still seem to blame adoption itself? I was just looking for an insight, thanks.

2007-11-23 16:06:11 · 17 answers · asked by Sonja 4

2007-11-23 08:54:53 · 27 answers · asked by OfficerKleen 1

2007-11-23 05:12:40 · 18 answers · asked by castlegatemoore 2

CPS took my husband away from his mom when he was 11 years old because her boyfriend was abusing him and they were both doing drugs. He was put into a group home and then foster care. His mom basically told them she didn't ever want to see him again. He heard her say this imagine that. This happened in California and now we are about 1500 miles from California and married and we have four kids. He wants to find his mom just to tell her that he has a good life now and ask her some questions. How would we locate her? He said cps wouldn't give him her information or they didnt know where she is now.

2007-11-22 16:34:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering how it went for anyone else, and if anyone knew of any devoted forums for adoption?

2007-11-22 15:37:03 · 15 answers · asked by PUREfect Your Skin 5

2007-11-22 14:25:45 · 7 answers · asked by SHOCKWAVE 3

her baby up for adoption?

2007-11-22 13:42:40 · 24 answers · asked by Lily-Ann 2

Is this intended to be forever or is there an option to reunite later in life?

2007-11-22 05:20:58 · 4 answers · asked by H****** 7

I'm definitely not old enough to seriously be considering this, but I'm thinking about the future. I'm just wondering, how difficult is the process to adopt a child? I'm thinking either a Romanian or Russian boy. Thanks!

2007-11-22 03:38:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

At my daughter's preschool today, there was a box of pumpkins outside with the following sign:

Free Pumpkin Adoption. Spend the Holiday with your pump"kin"

Do you think that is offensive to adoptees (or anyone else)? Or do you just think it is funny?

Just in case anyone might think otherwise, this is a serious question (well, semi-serious), certainly not trying to bait anyone (I really don't see how it would be viewed that way, but just in case). I do have opinions (those who know me know I pretty much always do), but I don't want to prejudice your responses.

2007-11-21 09:07:48 · 23 answers · asked by spydermomma 5

2007-11-21 01:33:43 · 7 answers · asked by marina w 1

I'm not going into detail. I have done that elsewhere. I also will have to hold on to this gift until we are reunited far down the line.

Any suggestions of something to, preferably, make to honor his ascent into the teenage years? His Bday is the 29th and I refuse to spend another year mourning a child who is still alive.

Anything you would have liked to be given when reunited?

2007-11-20 15:20:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello, my husband and I are wanting to be foster parents and eventually adopt and my question is that we have three dogs a great dane, chihuahua, and a Pom./maltese mix, and I was wondering if they would make us get rid of them or they would be ok with having a baby in the home with three dogs. Also they said we would have to be married for 2yrs., and this August will be 2yrs and the lady said we could start doing all the paper work this Feb. and could have a child in our home by August... Has anyone else done foster care? If so could anyone give me a little more info on it? I'm really interested, and can't wait til Feb. and August of 2008!

2007-11-20 04:25:41 · 8 answers · asked by Brecken's Mommy 3

My husband and I would like to adopt from Japan within the next 7 years. We want to be able to save money for the adoption, and would like any advice that people could give us regarding their adoptions and how they paid for it.

Thanks :-)

2007-11-20 04:14:59 · 9 answers · asked by PUREfect Your Skin 5

I'd like to suggest to the anti-adoption group that your answers would better serve the kids in the Pregnancy Forum than here. I think they NEED to hear about your experiences. For instance, Dew S asked this question, "what i should do to avoid my partner for being pregnant?". It's merely a suggestion & I don't think this boy should be harassed any more than the rest of us have been in the Adoption Forum, who have adopted, are adopting, thinking about placing their child, et.al. Don't you think that you would then be "barking up the right tree" & truly helping to prevent the trauma you say you suffer from now? You might actually help prevent these children from making the same mistakes that you made and feeling as bitter as you do, about having been adopted. I honestly think you could really help them. Please, won't you consider this?
It doesn't do any good to those of us who have had a good adoption/adoptive experience. We all have our own TRUTH & we'll never agree on this issue.

2007-11-19 13:50:20 · 9 answers · asked by noodlesmycat 4

Should the state abolish regulations that make it less likely for children IN THIS COUNTRY who are in need of a stable home life from being adopted by married couples IN THIS COUNTRY at the earliest possible opportunity, rather than allowing these children to be emotionally damaged after years spent in care and foster homes because of a lengthy and bureaucratic adoption process that favours job-creation for social workers rather than the best interests of the child and adoptive parents?

More on this question at:


http://www.1party4all.co.uk/Home/Account/TopicForm.aspx?topicsId=86

2007-11-19 10:42:21 · 13 answers · asked by Andromeda 3

How do you feel about being adopted now that you are a grown-up/teenager?

2007-11-19 08:16:35 · 15 answers · asked by Grace 4

Prime example of why we need adoption:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApSiaxcrBk8SCdxkqlLe6HB37hR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045600AAFpasi
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlTznH0W.dGc.kpxffyc79xq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118043837AA08uVJ
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqFv.C_VpbvnX4ehtEP8YgNq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045407AAYcio2

2007-11-19 07:32:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a 3 yr old- In the 3 years she has lived there had been no visitation. Non- custodial parent said he would sign over rights if child support was relinquished. Is there any way to do this without an attorney? In the past i was able to file other legal stuff myself, But is Adoption possible without an attorney? From my understanding there has to be mediation, mutual agreement - I dont talk to this man.... Is that where the Attorney comes in? I also heard about a Social Worker getting involved? Is that necessary? I can tell im in for a whirl wind and I just would like some clearance. My husband and I want this so badly. My daughter knows him as daddy and we already "un leagally" gave her his last name.

2007-11-19 06:10:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm a married mother of 3 boys. due to my complicating pregnancies my husband and i are looking to adopt a girl. My friend recently adopted a lil boy without having to go thru and agency. Is there any websites or anyways to get in touch personally with mothers who are looking for a home for their child/dren?? i heard adopting is very expensive!!!

2007-11-19 04:29:42 · 6 answers · asked by Ms. B 3