Help with adoption..?

Question

Hello,

I am thirteen years old.

When I get older I plan to adopt a baby.

I want it to be a baby, cuz I do not want to have my own.

Has anyone here adopted a baby, and come to love it as your own.

Any one here that has adopted, but didn't really like the idea, since it isn't yours by blood.

If you have adopted, did you tell the baby when it got older that he/she was adopted, or did you keep it from them?

I am really interested in adopting, and can't wait.

How old were you when you adopted the baby, or child? I plan to be around 25 when I adopt.

Do you have to pay? Anything like that. Lots of papers to sign?

I am just being prepared for the future.

10 points for the best answer, and most help.

Please no mean answers..

Thanks!

Answer 1

Hi Paige

I really enjoyed reading your letter. I have a couple of suggestions for you. No mean answers, promise! :) Start a journal now. Take down these catagories; What do you enjoy doing? Whatever you enjoy doing should transfer to what you would like to do when you get older. What are your reasons for wanting to adopt, versus having your own child? Now...there are several options for you if you still want to adopt when you get older and financially secure. We have thousands of foster children, a lot of them ARE babies! Some are newborns, some are under 3 years old. If you decide to become a foster parent, you can choose the age group you would like to take care of. Yes, some of them are returned to their families. However, there are thousands that are not returned or they are returned and then become foster kids again. You would have first chance to get the same children back if you were the first foster parent they have. Then if the parents cannot care for the children, you would have first choice to adopt him/her or them. Any child under the age of 3 or 4 would only relate to you after a while. Just like a newborn baby. You can do some research on foster care even at your age. Check with your local Children and Family Services. Most of the workers are terribly busy, but you can call them, tell them you are doing a journal on the foster care system and would like to interview them about the process etc., Ask them if you can tape the session on tape recorder so that you can write it in your journal. Keep your journal forever, it will mean the most to you the older it gets. Let me know if you get that interview. Good luck!

Answer 2

I've never adopted a child; however I did think about it and like you I only wanted to adopt a very young baby that way it could grow up knowing only me. I have three of my own and parenting is very hard work.

At the age that you are now I wouldn't recommend putting to much time into thinking about adopting children instead you should be channeling that energy towards school work and what type of career you want when you get grown. You may even start thinking about saving money, because it will help you later on in life and it can give you a pretty good financial start. More than likely by the time you are old enough to adopt a child things will have changed quite a bit from now. It looks fun to be a parent, but alot of times it's not as fun as people make it out to be because with parenthood there are alot of responsibilities, much needed patience and you can loose yourself real easy.

Answer 3

Well, I will tell you it is MUCH cheaper to adopt in the US than to go outside the country. My husband's step-brother and his wife adopted twice, once in Russia (The baby was Korean) and the 2nd one they adopted in Korea. I was told it cost about $30,000 each. Not sure if that was the correct amount, but I know it is VERY expensive. You do have to get a lawyer to finalize any adoptions so you have to pay thousands to adopt, but you also get tax breaks, and subsidies. You will sign so many papers that you will tired of reading and you will get writer's cramp. In the end after going through all that you will have a precious baby to love. My brother in law and his now, Ex-wife couldn't love their daughters anymore if they were born to them.