Anybody else disturbed by this?

Question

Prime example of why we need adoption:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApSiaxcrBk8SCdxkqlLe6HB37hR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045600AAFpasi
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlTznH0W.dGc.kpxffyc79xq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118043837AA08uVJ
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqFv.C_VpbvnX4ehtEP8YgNq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20071118045407AAYcio2

I hope this is somebody just trolling. I don't think it is and it really scares me for her children. This is why we need adoption in this country! Anybody else have thoughts on this?

What's scary is the people on this forum who live in a fantasy world and think all natural mothers are wonderful. Then they bash adoptive parents who give children like this a better home. Wouldn't be great if these kids could have been adopted as infants? According to most people on this sight, infant adoption is horrible!

I don't think all adoptive parents are great. Just like I don't think all natural parents are great. Just like I think some infant adoption is coerced, but not all is.

This is also why people don't go through the foster care system to adopt. I would feel hoorible if I was the foster mom who had to send the children back to this woman. That would break my heart and I don't think I could handle it. I considered fostering but this confirms why I won't.

Check out her answer to this question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AteYT1sS2sdt8hECIlEiekPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071118043423AAJ8h26&show=7#profile-info-gEur48SPaa

Ignore last link. She deleted her answer where she talked about beating her kids.

Answer 1

This is a prime example of the old saying "Anyone can be parents but not every one can be a mom and dad". She needs to act like a mom to be recognized as one. I wish I could find out who she is and report these posts to her social worker. These poor boys are going to have one hell of a bad life. She needs to get off the damn computer and be a mom.

Answer 2

well to today's culture it can be viewed as a bit disturbing, but back then I don't think this would have been as disturbing as it may be now. Shakespear also has many tragedies that are a bit disturbing so Shakespear in general can be a little odd, yet brilliant. personally I think the fact that they both commit suicide because the other one died is a bit of an exaggeration of their love. I wouldn't commit suicide after a VERY short while of knowing someone. And considering how young Juliet was (early teens I believe. maybe 13? been a while, lol.) I most likely would not have been in love with someone as old as Romeo to die for him. But the lesson behind the story, the lesson of human nature and how feuds and fighting can lead to disaster for both of the opposing sides, is very real and is probably why it is so famous. Shakespear had a way of teaching subtle, yet imimport antsssons in his plays. haha But I LOVED what you said about Twilight! Just goes to show you, that is NOT a real book but basically a porn magazine for stupid fangirls. haha. loved that. ahaha :D yeah, you rock because of that

Answer 3

I will say that it seems Jolene does not have much patience for kids. That is never a good combination. Her children need to readjust to being with her, its understandable if they had been with their foster mother for several months, that that’s who they would want right now. Despite weekly visits, it was not her who was there for them 24/7. It will take time for them to get with their new routine. I don’t understand why she expected them to just readjust like that. No one is a prefect parent whether they are a biological parent or an adoptive parent, Foster parent or all.

You know Cowboy fostering doesn’t always equal that will get the child(ren). You can get the kid for a short time or even a long time. Most people looking to adopt through foster care go through the Fos to adopt program. Where a person actual gets placed with a child(ren) that have a very high change of being available for adoption. Sure there are risks but there are risks in adoption as a whole. Like that poor girls who posted earlier about her Aunt and Uncle possible losing the baby they’ve had for 5months.

Answer 4

Why, yes who wouldn't find it distrubing!! She obviously needs more parenting classess if she at one time had her kids taken away from her. She also probably needs some counseling because she is dealing with a wide range of emtions. Hopefully someone can direct her to get some help in coping. I mean i want her kids to be safe, but if she can get help, i say start there first. Then if that does not work then placing the kids back into foster care or up for adoption should be the last option.

Answer 5

Well the first one is certainly disturbing. That person probably wasn't parented very well when they were a child. The last two are more sad then disturbing. That mother just is looking for help and want her children to know who she is. I actually just noticed that all three posts were from the same person, this is seriously disturbing. No wonder her children want to go "home". I want to know how she got her children back in the first place. Is our systems that messed up that they take children from good homes just so the state doesn't have to pay money for the foster care.

Answer 6

Yes, I am disturbed at your lack of empathy, and violation of the TOS of Yahoo answers by deliberately attacking another user.

If we can take this poster at face-value she is in a difficult situation and your response is to go on the attack.


She could use support and parenting classes, that is no reason to rip her children away from her which would be very painful for the children involved.

I don't have any fantasies about my natural mother, I have known her for much of my life, nor do I have any fantasies that there are these super perfect adoptive parents out there, having known adoptive parents all my life.

Answer 7

I think this woman needs help, there is a reason why her children were in Foster care that we are not privy too. I hope she can get her life together very soon before her children are damaged permanently. We all try to do the best for our children.

Answer 8

I read those questions and I'd bet their are real.

As for you suggesting that all adoptive parents are so wonderful that is NOT true. Sure, a lot of them are good but trust me some are very bad. I was abused all through my childhood by my adoptive parents. I doubt they gave me a better life than my natural mother could have. Don't be so biased, adoption is good but not for every one.

Answer 9

Your right it might be trolling. Since all three are posted by the same person. My answer to her is if she is so concerned about her kids calling her mommy. Then she needs to be concerned that they are ill.
Adoption is important. But what people have to go through to adopt is tough. And I think that there would be more loving families to adopt is they allowed same sex adoption.

Answer 10

I believe there is a part of your brain missing that allows you to have patience for others that have not had the opportunity of having good parents. It is villainous to suggest adoption for one reason, you do not know what adoption is like in reality for the KIDS. Here, let me give you your part of brain back that says you can go have your time out and journal what services should help parents like that to not lose their kids but become better parents...

Try getting mad at GW Bush for having armies kill innocents in overseas. That's a real argument.