Adoption

okay well i am adopted..i was at about a month old. my birth mom was going to keep me..she did for 2 weeks..but then put me up for adoption because it was too hard.

anyway..people always ask me if i want to meet my mom and i just say not really..i mean i have a great loving family, awesome firends, an amazing boyfriend..just a great life. people seem to think it is so wierd that i dont go out and look for my mom. i love my mom and dad now..whats the big deal? do you think this is wierd?

2007-11-05 15:39:09 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to understand the feelings of both the mother and the hopeful adoptive parents. I truly understand that the adoptive parents are going to feel devastated, especially if they have waited a long time for a baby. Yet, sometimes they sound really self-centered and selfish with feelings of entitlement to a baby to whom they have no legal claim (albiet there in unquestionably an emotional attachment). I also understand how a woman who is totally comitted to an "adoption plan" can change her mind the moment she lays eyes on her child. Is she a weak-minded woman who should have been able to make up her mind during pregnancy? Did she get caught up in an "adoption plan" not realizing that after giving birth that she would come face to face with her real human baby? Is she a scammer who was just trying to get money?

2007-11-05 15:39:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been caring for my 3 year old niece for a year because her mother neglected her and let her boyfriends abuse her. No her mom claims to be a changed woman, but I don't know. She flew up yesterday with her new man and my niece HID from her when she heard her voice and she does this to know one else. We went out to lunch and my sister and her boyfriend were very lovey dovey and kept on saying very nasty things that a 3 year old shouldn't be hearing. I secretly recorded them with my cell-phone because I was really suspicous of her. My sister is staying in a hotel with her boyfriend until we meet in court on Saturday. Can I use this evidence to prove that she is still too wrapped around her boyfriend and that her daughter is still scared of her? Or is this useless?

2007-11-05 09:53:07 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

when i asked the question about keeping my baby and gave a description of how poor i am people were telling me to put the baby up for adoption, it would be better for him. now, and not because of those answers, i am giving him up for adoption and people and telling me not to do it. i guess my question is do people believe in it or not? or do they still think i should and they are just warning me how hard its going to be?

confused...

ps not trying to be rude, i am grateful for all my answerers but im just feeling a little stuck in the middle

2007-11-05 03:35:09 · 25 answers · asked by *Kala* 3

My children are 6, 4, and 1. My husband and I are thinking about fostering or adopting another child, but we are trying to gather as much information as possible before we go ahead.

2007-11-05 03:32:23 · 7 answers · asked by maria 1

i've been a foster kid for 10 years (about 15 different families). the one i'm with now has had me for a year and is the worst of them all. i haven't looked up online the odds of older trailer trash like me being adopted, but i'm pretty sure they're low. most of the adopted kids i know of are under age 5. but anyway, is there a way for me to get out of this hell-house, even if it means going to a different one? and don't say contact you're social worker, she hasn't been by in over 6 mo. and when she did. she saw the situation me and the other kids were in and did NOTHING> it's gotten worse by now too.

2007-11-05 03:22:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

What if in the hospital a birth father decided to give the baby up for adoption and the birth mother didn't want that but the birth father had more rights than her. Do you think this would stop all the baby stealing done by adoption agencies and the mothers saying they don't know who the father is.

2007-11-05 01:01:55 · 10 answers · asked by sam22254 3

like Atheist and Wiccan?

2007-11-04 12:54:54 · 10 answers · asked by Someone 3

i have chosen parents who are my fiance's sister and husband, i am happy with that decision. we absolutely cannot afford to keep this child and i want whats the very best for my baby boy. thats whats driving me to do this. i guess i just want to know how people who have done this are managing now? i know its a long process and im never going to be over it completely but i was wondering about hearing other people experiences if you guys wouldnt mind sharing them.
thank you so much for any imput, i would love many answers and dont worry about how long they may get...
thanks

2007-11-04 06:12:27 · 17 answers · asked by *Kala* 3

And what kind of family can adopt?
are they only babies, or are older children put up for adoption?

2007-11-04 05:09:00 · 17 answers · asked by ? 6

Is it easier to adopt a child from a foreign country? Why not adopt from right here? Is this a growing trend? Everytime you hear of a celeb. adopting the child is from somewhere else. Why? Don't get me wrong I think it takes a wonderful human being to love and care for these children, but I really want to know the facts so that I may better educate myself.

2007-11-03 20:27:42 · 18 answers · asked by luvtko 2

I am a 30 year old single woman. I have never given birth to children of my own. I know that I am still young enough to have children and still hope to become pregnant one day, but I feel like there are children that need a loving home. I don't know how or where to begin. Age is not an issue.
I also heard that it is more difficult for single people to adopt. Is that true? What do they look for in an adoptive parent?

2007-11-03 20:18:45 · 4 answers · asked by luvtko 2

2007-11-03 04:22:13 · 13 answers · asked by al. s 1

I need interviews for an essay I am writing. Please help me come up with pros and cons I may have missed :) thanks

2007-11-02 13:40:17 · 13 answers · asked by frogbfound 4

from about ten years ago. It is a christmas picture, and behind her, on one of the gift bags under the tree, in big letters across one of the bags, it says "Donati". Can anyone at all tell me what Donati (may be Donati's, can't remember for sure) is. Is it a business, where I may be able to narrow down her whereabouts? I am desperate for some information, please help.

2007-11-01 15:12:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-01 07:10:31 · 2 answers · asked by Rubys2Die4 1

We would like to start the adoption process, but the costs are so much! I heard of a couple who trained for a marathon and people "sponsored" them - they were able to raise $27,000. Do you think this is ethical??

Any other unique fundraising ideas? or quick money making ideas??

Thanks for your help!

2007-11-01 02:57:07 · 5 answers · asked by j 2

I was recently told that I wouldn't be able to have children of my own. When I looked into adoption I discovered that it is incredibly expensive. It is less expensive to adopt a child that is waiting here in the US but the children that are listed are all over 10 or have pretty severe disablities.
Maybe I am naive but I have always heard about the countless nameless children that need a forever family and now that I am at a point where I could provide one I feel like I am getting smacked in the face with all of these fees for opening my home and heart.
Anyone have any great ideas on how to fundraise for an adoption or a website or agency to look into?

2007-10-31 20:30:44 · 10 answers · asked by gizellie 3

I'm more than likely going to choose adoption for my child (due in March) and have recent started to show. What do I say when people start asking me questions? I don't want to lie or act like I'm planning to parent but it's very uncomfortable when normally they are just trying to make conversation. I even have problems in how to respond to congratulations from anyone.

Also I'm concerned about what to do about extended family gatherings for holidays or birthdays. As an extended family we aren't very close so discussing this sort of situation can be very uncomfortable and embarrassing. Should I attend or opt out? If I go what do I say? This also includes my own birthday (my 23rd) close to Thanksgiving.

2007-10-31 16:22:03 · 28 answers · asked by Meg M 3

is there a price diff between a baby and a older kid?

2007-10-31 04:42:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-31 00:32:13 · 13 answers · asked by the swede 2

how long of a wait did you have once the background checks and home study was completed?
We want to adopt a child 1 and under. I know about the "legally free" and the "legally at risk" categories that the state has and would prefer to adopt a child who is "legally free"
I have been searching all over the web and cant really find any adoption boards that have more than a few pages. Or any place to find others that have adopted children 1 and under from the state foster care system.
Do you know any helpful websites that I could check out?

Thanks

2007-10-30 22:40:33 · 7 answers · asked by tricia123 4

I just received a letter in the mail from my husbands brother and his wife, they have been ttc for a couple of years and went through a couple of rounds of in vitro. Anyway, this letter was asking for donations to help them with their adoption, they are going through a local adoption agency, and just waiting for an answer.




I guess the reason why I am so offended is because we have three kids and live on one income and have never asked for help from anyone, and second, they both work, she gets, weekly pedicures and massages,and last year they took a trip to Amsterdam and Rome, so they were already going through the invitro and chose to spend their money on this trip, and now they want donations to pay for their baby?

Should I even respond to the letter, or just not mention it?

2007-10-30 10:10:51 · 25 answers · asked by Lucy 5

My wife and i want one more child but biologically is to risky. We did the classes for foster to adopt. They give you all the worst case senorias which they should so you know what you are getting into. We are having our homestudy soon. We are thinking of just adopting and not fostering first. I don't want to get attached and wait a year for parental rights to be terminated and if they aren't the child goes home. I thik it will tear me up. i would rahter just get the call after the rights have been terminated and there is no chance of them leaving.

2007-10-30 09:19:38 · 6 answers · asked by Big Daddy R 7

My husband and I are 1st time foster parents. We are meeting with 2 young boys that are very emotionally delayed due to neglect. Should we attempt to take them into our once childless home or should we keep our home open for a less challenging opportunity?

2007-10-30 06:13:28 · 9 answers · asked by KM 2

Do you really believe adoption should be an unregulated 1.4 billion dollar industry?


Do you really think there is no trauma when a child is separated from his/her mother? If so have you ever read child development or books on attachment?


Is giving an infant to a financially more secure family any reason to separate a child for life from their own family? If so should you look for a richer family to take the children you now have?


How is securing children for wealthier families any different than child trafficking?

2007-10-30 03:52:44 · 20 answers · asked by Joy M 3

I'm 23 right now and I won't start nursing school until I'm 26. I'll be 30 when I graduate. After I graduate I want to adopt. I really don't know anything about adoption. Is there any places to learn about rules and laws of adoption in Maryland?

2007-10-29 23:37:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm an adult adoptee (34 yrs old), and I have been in contact with my birthmother since I was 22. I've known all my life about the details of my adoption, and of my birthparents, and regular contact/info swapping was facillitated by my parents.
Recently however, my birthmother has started to intrude big time on my life, she is beginning to insist on me calling her "Mom", which I've never really wanted to do, but also insisting that I stop calling my parents Mom and Dad.
We have six children altogether (1 adopted, 2 fostered), and she is only willing to spend time with our 3 bio kids.
There are other issues also, but you get the picture. I'm happy for her to be in my life, always have been, so please no answers about unresolved adoptee issues!
What can I do/say to her?

2007-10-29 14:28:06 · 36 answers · asked by Sonja 4

I want to change last name back to what it should be...the name I was born with, the same as my bio-mom's. Can an adoptee do that? How?

2007-10-29 14:02:57 · 9 answers · asked by Debbie Downer 2

Whether this takes the form of an actual physical search or a search for answers to the many questions adoptees often hold inside themselves for fear of upsetting their parents

2007-10-29 12:33:46 · 22 answers · asked by H****** 7