sometime me and dad think it would be nice to have a sibling around and me have alittle brother or sister around my age maybe. how bad is adoptiing a child. i live in alabama any help would be appreciated my mom couldn't have another child for a health reason
2007-11-24 11:25:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Ask yourself the question - "Do Dad and I want to adopt for our needs or to fulfill the needs of a child who needs a home?" If it is for what you want only, I think it would be better for you to consider a famliy pet instead of adopting.
2007-11-24 23:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
I have four adopted children and the process was not that bad The first two times we went through a private agency and that took a little longer The second time we were foster parents and were able to adopt the two that were placed with us That was through the state and that took very little time
Yas they do backgroung checks but the main thing is the love that you can offer a child and there are many children that would love to be adopted that are in Foster Care
Good Luck
2007-11-24 19:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Linda K 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Great.
We adopted two little boys. We also have a 'natural' teenage daughter. We talked to our daughter a lot before and during the adoption and she was very supportive (though, when the boys go into her room she gets a little less happy about it). She loves being a big sister. The boys call out her name when they see her and they love to play with her.
You should also know that there are a lot of options for adoption. If you and your family are looking to adopt an older child you should tell your parents to look into Foster-to-adopt programs. This will do a lot of good (helping kids who really need help) and will cost them little or nothing.
2007-11-24 21:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Wundt 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I do hope you're parents adopt! That would be wonderful. A priest friend of ours said that it is much better for a child to have a sibling and he always recommends that couples who can only have one child adopt another. There are so many life lessons taught within a family and an only child misses out on many of them.
I'd suggest they look in the foster care system because those kids need loving homes the most. :)
2007-11-25 23:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Adoption can be wonderful. If your family is willing to adopt a school aged child than the cost is little to none if you adopt through the county that you reside. Many states even offer a medical card and subsidy until the child reaches 18. Just know that you are taking in someone that will not be as willing as you are. It will take quite awhile to build a family bond. Most children want to be with their birth family even if the consequence of a better life is with you. There are thousands of kids right here in the US that need a family. Nothing wrong with starting the paper work and the numerous hours of training that is required. Once you take your training hours you will learn if this is right for you and your family. Nothing ventured ,.... nothing gained.
2007-11-24 20:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by ohshititsher 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If you want to adopt with the idea that you are filling a hole in your life, your father's life, or in your mother's life, don't do it. If you want to provide a home for a child who needs a lifetime commitment from a family to be a part of the family, I think that's great, and recommend adoption from the foster system.
There are over 100,000 children in this country waiting for a permanent home. There are also many more children who just need a safe, loving family to stay with while their own family finds a way to care for them them properly.
Why don't you guys all sit down at dinner tonight and talk about it?
2007-11-25 13:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Julie R 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
its the best thing next to have a baby of ur own. i would love to adopt my dream is to become rich and have 4 kids of my own and adopt 14. giving a child a ggod life is the best thing u can do. i think u guys should go for it
2007-11-25 14:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by silkydreamgirl10 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I think adopting is a great thing. I think if you are honest with the child and loving and supportive, it will be fine. But that is the same with any child. There are some people on here who think it is terrible, but I've known lots of people who were adopted and as a birth mother, I think it's great.
2007-11-24 19:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Brittae 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Its not bad... its just a lengthy process alot of paperwork and legal stuff alot of background checking and home inspections and if you go through a good agency it should not be hard...sorry to hear about your mom..
2007-11-24 19:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sherrie O 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Lot's of paperwork and in some cases a ton of red tape but the end result makes it all worth it!
2007-11-24 23:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋