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Mother gave her children up for adoption and signed away rights but now would like to make amends and give adoptive parents contact info to decide whether they are willing for her to make contact, send photo's and/or let her know how children are doing.

2007-11-11 14:47:25 · 5 answers · asked by Benjamin R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adoption

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dont do it ...dont reate havoc in these kid's lives bcuz u realise ur mistakes....if u gave them up so they could hae a better life then just pray that they do and move on,it's going to be hard but for their sakes ....move on.

2007-11-11 14:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 6

Boy oh boy, this was my fantasy as a child - that my mother would make contact! It still is in fact! It has nothing to do with the love I have for my adoptive family, we are secure enough in our love for each other to know that knowing my real mother would do nothing to damage our relationship, it could only make things more complete.

I would make send communication via the adoption agency that handled the adoption and also have the mother insist that a waiver of confidentiality is placed on the file making it clear that she is open to contact if and when the adoptee seeks information from the agency. Ensure that contact details are kept up to date when moving address, telephone numbers or email addresses.

If you know the names of the adoptive parents you can look them up. If you need help with this just email and I can run the names through some search databases for you.

Whatever happens, I hope the adoptive family are receptive and kind and welcome you as part of the extended family

Good luck

2007-11-11 21:19:12 · answer #2 · answered by H****** 7 · 1 0

Okay, I had a nice big answer, and my connection timed out, so I'll make this brief.

It sounds like this was an adoption where the mother got her children taken away from her, am I correct?

If so, the state was involved.

If that is the case, most states have an adoption registry set up to where birth family and adoptees can attempt reunification (or can say "no, I don't want to reunify"), and a facilitator sets up the initial contact.

I'd contact the adoption services in your state and see if they have something like this set up.

If you're the birth family (or asking for this person), then explain to the birth mom that she needs to find this out and see if she can get added to the registry if she's not already, so the kids will know whether or not she wants to see them again when they're adults, so if they look, they'll know her feelings.

2007-11-11 15:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4 2

Her first step should be to contact the agency she went through (if she went through one). They will hopefully be willing to make contact for her. If the parents are unwilling, she will have to wait until the child is an adult.

2007-11-11 15:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by blank stare 6 · 7 1

if you know their names you can try the social security admin office in the state or city you think they are at. good luck

2007-11-14 16:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0 0

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