Lets say you're dying tomorrow and have no family and you were FORCED to place your child.... (I know someone who was in this situation God rest his soul)
What kind of parents would you seek for your children?
Would there be anything that would put a gay couple at the top of your list over all of the possible parents out there?
Just curoius.
2007-10-21 14:27:00 · 23 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
like sls314... all of the other attributes are otherwise equal to another coulple who was straight.
2007-10-21 14:52:58 · update #1
Well, both my husband and I come from huge extended families, so its hard to imagine a scenario where we wouldn't be able to find acceptable friends/family members. But, for the sake of the question...
I'd want to find a couple with similar views on parenting as me, who was loving and nurturing, had good financial stability (wouldn't need to be wealthy, but certainly stable), and who I felt would do right by my children.
As far as the gay issue was concerned...I wouldn't necessarily object to that couple being a gay couple. But to be completely truthful...if I had to choose between 2 couples (1 hetero, 1 homosexual) who were otherwise equal in every relevant way, I'd choose the heterosexual couple. After all, you'd try to choose a couple who was most similar to what your children would experience being raised by you.
2007-10-21 14:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by sarah314 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Uh...nothing would put a gay couple or a straight couple at the top of my list simply because of their sexuality. I just want the best parents for my kids. Why drag sexuality into this question, anyway? It's just completely missing the point of parenthood and adoption!
Besides...I have endless people to pass my children onto. There is no way in hell that I'm gonna snub my best friend over some gay couple just because I don't want to look "discriminating" or something. Blood first, then best friends, then friends, then aquaintances, and then the best possible people for the job that I don't know at all. Those are my priorities. Yes, the priority list does not include information on their sexual lifestyles. Deal with it.
2007-10-22 03:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by fliptastic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most import I would search for people like me. I would want them to have a life as close as possible to the one I would have given them. I would want people who would love my children flaws and ALL, who value honestly, and tolerance, who practice patience and understanding towards those who are different and YES if would consider a gay couple to raise my children, in fact due to my belief system of non judgment and tolerance I would quite possibly look for a gay couple who would be open to searching out a either a maternal or paternal figure to meet my children's needs cause by being in a gay home.
2007-10-22 10:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Petra 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If there were a to couples with all equalt traits other than one is gay then NO I wouldn't place my child with them. I chose a mom and a dad for my daughter 8 years ago and there are plenty of loving straight couples looking to adopt.
2007-10-22 19:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We've actally thought of this before. If my husband and I were to both to die, and for some reason both sets of our parents were unable to care for our children, and none of our siblings were curently in the position to raise (more) children, then we would hope our children could be raised by close friends of ours.
We are very good friends with a couple who are in a long stable relationship, mature, responcible, financially stable, ADORE our children, and happen to be both male. So, yes, if family was not available, then the fact that they would be excellent parents would be much more important then the fact that they are a gay couple.
2007-10-22 02:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Angela R 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't discriminate against a gay couple.
I would try and find the right fit for my child, one where they can have the same upbringing as my husband and I could have provided, with the same opportunities that we can provide. If a same sex couple fit the bill the best, I would have no issues with placing my child with them.
2007-10-22 07:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Morgaine 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being a lesbian I would have no problem placing my child with a gay couple, however the bottom line is the welfare of my child and whoever I felt would love and accept my child unconditionally whether gay or straight.
2007-10-22 15:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by Americka S 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
sory gay couple wouldnt be on the top of my list either in saying that no offence to the gay world i have an aunty and a cousin who are both gay. I would look to direct immediate family realatives on both sides of the family.
2007-10-22 03:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by ladybabe 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No fair! I don't like this question - the very thought of it has made my stomach turn somersaults!
What a horrible situation for the kids to be left in with no mother and no family (I have three little ones)
To answer your question re gay couples, I think the type of person and their values would take precedence over their sexual orientation
2007-10-22 04:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by H****** 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Okay - my ten ka-zillion relatives are gone - who, who?
Had I been asked that 3 years ago I would say some nice hetero, suburb couple. But, since then, I met J and her female spouse K (legally married in a state more enlightened than mine). In a heartbeat I would choose them. And they aren't even planning a family right now. Surprise!! Love ya J and K!!
2007-10-21 23:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by grapesgum 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋