Adoption

my husbands cousins son is in a foster home and we are willing to take him into our home can anyone tell me if it is hard even being a family member to the child and also does anyone know what can be done to move the process faster so he can get into a home that he knows and out of foster home. The parents are really big time drugers and drinkers the mother is no where to be found and the father keeps fauling his drug test someone help thxs!!!

2007-10-03 19:39:08 · 8 answers · asked by jennifert 1

What I need to know is where do I begin this journey? My mom has some details. But not many. Of course we have his birthdate, and the hospital he was born. She actually named him, but for some reason I don't believe the hospital kept it. So what to do?I'm now 41 and he's 39 and I need to find him. And his biological father is deceased(37 yrs ago). So that's that. I would like only serious anwers, please. Oh...I'm in Los Angeles if that'll make a difference.

2007-10-03 17:58:01 · 12 answers · asked by louloutee 3

ok so i'm getting adopted by these people. i LOVE to go to japan every summer! i love to read manga and watch anime. i love to go on youtube. i'm a very good artist and do sell some of my drawings. i'm very skilled at kendo. i hate public schools and only like priviate schools. my hair is down to my waist. and i'm wanting to dye my hair pink in about 2 months. but they said they will not take me to japan anymore because it's to expensive, will have a filter on the computers, will be going to a public because does not have enough money for a priviate school. will not let me sell my drawings. will not let me do kendo anymore because it's dangerous. might make me cut my hair. won't be able to read mangas(japanese comic books) or watch anime. and will definintly not let me dye my hair pink! what should i do?! i'm spoused to go live with them in like 5 days! help!

2007-10-03 15:52:37 · 9 answers · asked by Sasha H 1

how do you think is the best way to tell your adopted child any of the following information without them feeling like total poo?
1.) His b-mom did drugs while pregnant
2.) She decided to parent the other children (1 id 20mos
older1 is 20mos younger. Both healthy
3.) she wants absolutely no contact
4.) b-dad is incarcrated for non-support (and has a new baby on the way)

Do I tell him EVERYTHING. When? when he's an adult.

My mom was an alcoholic who left me in the car at parties, who made sure there was beer before milk in the fridge. At 5 I was mixing her drinks. She slept with my sisters b-friend and got pregnant. And for years I felt like I was doomed to be like her. Of course now I undrstand that I'm my own person, but I don't want him to think that he is doomed to be like them.

2007-10-03 13:50:06 · 21 answers · asked by in COGNITO * 4

does it piss anybody off other than me to get on here and listen to peoples check lists of what they are looking for in a child? i want a girl, i want a boy, i want a kid with brown hair and blue eyes, does anybody think that they should just get what they get just like us? does anyone but me feel like we don't get to choose so why should they? I just feel so cheap litening to people talk about adopting kids as if they were shopping for choths. does anyone else feel like that?

2007-10-03 09:38:43 · 12 answers · asked by kaluah96 3

One baby is going to keep me on my toes, im 18 years old, with no help so if you were in my place would you adopt the other one out?
I cannot take care of two, i know this so don't tell me any different.

2007-10-03 08:30:46 · 103 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am an adoptee and i am comfortable and happy i was adopted. i have found both my birthparents. they were a mess back when they had me and the reasons they gave me up are obvious. i have thanked them for what they did for me. several times. my experience was positive and i share my story openly. now that being said we all know that not all adoptions are rosie and grand. some are immoral, some are down right awful experiences. the list goes on, but all in all is it really so hard to TRY to have some understanding of all sides? for those that adoption was a bad experience, cant you try to see it isnt always like that? for those that had a good experience, cant you have some compassion for others that have only heartache connected to it? for birthfamilies that gave up their children willingly and openly, cant you see that it some are forced into that decision?
the questions can go on forever, but in the end is having some respect and understanding for the other side really that hard?

2007-10-03 02:11:58 · 14 answers · asked by rachael 5

My older sister put me in charge of raising her son Ellery, for the next 3 years because of family issues going on. And to be honest im horrified because im not good with children. Is there anyone who can give me a few tips on how to be a foster parent to my nephew?

2007-10-02 21:09:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

im scared and i dont know much about it

2007-10-02 16:15:34 · 15 answers · asked by ~[Donut]~ 2

I am a 41yr Adoptee, - But I have never told my own child about this.....Should I tell her or let it stay at rest. - Does she really need to know & why?

2007-10-02 11:17:11 · 28 answers · asked by Sheba 2

What kind of parents did you guys have, like were they good to you? See, I really don't want to keep the baby, it's not like I'm scared, but I just don't want to be a mom, ever, but I want to do the right thing and make sure that people will love the baby and look after it all right.
What kind of parents should I look out for? Do you think they should be old, young, etc? I know these are my decisions, but I was just wondering on people's input.
Also, it you are looking to adopt a baby, can you please reply also and say why you want to adopt a baby?
Thank you.

2007-10-02 01:59:01 · 36 answers · asked by Sam J 1

I was taken by CPS & then adopted. My files were sealed & now that I am an adult I want to find my birth family & show them there Grandaughter & find out about my families medical history.
Does anyone know how to UNseal my files ?
What is the best agency to go thru ???

2007-10-01 18:48:21 · 6 answers · asked by Gabriella76 1

Is a domestic adoption possible, and is it ok if our other kids are bio children? Their ages are 2 and 9, and we want more children but we would rather give a home to a baby who needs it than have more kids. Is this possible for a domestic adoption, in the US?

2007-10-01 15:43:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was adopted at the age of 3 and my brother was adopted at the age of 2. his name got changed and the only thing I have is his ss # and birth certifick. what should I do to try to find him

2007-10-01 02:40:53 · 5 answers · asked by tweety111580 1

Why do you answer it only to tell them that they are wrong/unethical to even consider adoption, and then tell them your views on why adoption (of infants) is wrong?
I understand this is a public forum, and every view is entitled to be expressed, but I don't understand why someone would answer a question with a completely irrelevant 'rant', that's hardly the purpose of YA.
There isn't the room to list all the questions here, but you only have to look through the list to see what I mean.
I've also noticed that a lot of adoptive parents or potential adoptive parents on here are constantly critisized and condemned by some people. These people are constantly talking about other's denying their truth and their story's, and that's all good, but why do they consistantly deny other people their own truth?

2007-09-30 20:13:23 · 11 answers · asked by Sonja 4

I appreciate your attempt to answer my question in regards to adoption. To answer your question. Yes I am very involved in the lives of my nieces and nephews and that is very rewarding. From reading some of your answers to adoption questions it seem that you have a negative outlook on adoption alltogether. I'm not trying to get personal with your business or circumstances. I'm sure there are many cases where people have been hurt emotionally by adoption but have you concidered all of the people adopted into loving families that have benefited. I'm not seeking an infant that was concieved for me. If I choose to adopt I would be looking for a child who is needing a home. I would not be trying to force my identity on someone else. But I have a patience and ability to care for and love. If I am capable why shouldn't I help someone in need? I'm not a perfect person so I couldn't offer a perfect life. But who could?

2007-09-30 13:48:24 · 6 answers · asked by Betty 2

This is merely a theoretical…

2007-09-30 11:54:10 · 5 answers · asked by rhaps♥dy 3

I have been divorced for a little while and I'm engadged. I have 2 daughters from the first marriage a 2 month old (we divorced while I was pregnat with her) and a 20 (almost 21) month old. My ex gets to see our daughters once a week but he doesn't want those rights. (He doesn't love the kids at all. He told me.)

My fiance wants to adopt my two daughters so we can be one big family (Me, my daughters, him and his 5 kids). My 20 month old really loves my fiance and my 2 month old is always happy around him. I would love for him to adopt my kids.

Now, do we have to consult my ex about this even if he doesn't want custody over them?I know where he is. We both have never done this before and we want to do this as leagally as possible. My ex's name is on both of their birth certifacates (he's on my 2 month old's because the divorce wasn't final until a week after she was born and he was there to help deliver and he's the birth father). Any help would be appreciated.

2007-09-30 09:15:08 · 10 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

the child is unhappy. My other children are unhappy. The situation has made me ill. Social workers say they have the powers to make him stay where he is. Is this right ?

2007-09-30 07:34:23 · 18 answers · asked by Elaine B 2

understand how can someone just give up a child? And yes i have heard the whole "they wanted the best for you etc" thing, but that doesnt explain then why they got pregnant in the first place, or even why they didnt get rid of the child instead. Because although the whole "they wanted the best for you" approach works.. what happens when the adopted child grows up with small thoughts, thinking 1) i was a mistake and 2) i wasnt wanted by my "birth mother" .. how do you overcome these thoughts??

2007-09-29 21:12:03 · 29 answers · asked by [xox] Jessica [xox] 2

My husband and I have been married for three years. I'm currently pregnant with twins (just found out - one boy && one girl). These are my first children, but he has a four year old daughter by his ex-girlfriend. She never sees Maggie. She agreed over the phone to sign her rights away so I could adopt her, with demands of her own of course.

We've decided we want me to adopt Maggie no matter what. This question may sound dumb because i'm not very educated about adoption, after she dissolves her rights what happens then? Is this hard to do or simple after she signs her rights over?? What all do you have to do?

2007-09-29 20:37:19 · 6 answers · asked by *ConfusedPrincess* 1

I am the adoptive mother of a 2yo boy from Ethiopia. I also have 2 bio kids, 5 and 7yo.

I would like ANY suggestions on how to help my son with the questions he has/will have. Be BRUTALLY honest.

Here is what we do now:

We have an open adoption and contact with my sons Ethiopian father and 4 siblings. His mother passed away.

We will visit every other year or every 3rd year as finances allow. In the meantime, we write frequently and send photos. We sponsor his 4 siblings (who are still with his father) so that they can attend school.

We have photos of my son with his father and us with his father hanging with all the other family photos. We also have a video message from him that our son watches whenever he wants.

I have kept a box with every single adoption related document I received, for my son whenever he is ready for it.

We have made friends with other Ethiopian adoptees and embraced his culture.

What else can I/should I be doing? What am I doing wrong?

2007-09-29 14:18:05 · 9 answers · asked by thatswhatshesaid 3

In 2004, there were close to 140,000 children of varying ages in the United States, awaiting adoption. About 50,000 of these children were Black. Republicans oppose abortion. Many of them oppose Birth Control. Yet these unwanted children need homes.

While these American kids waited for new parents, more than 200,000 foreign children were adopted by U.S. citizens. These children were mostly babies, because adoptive parents usually want infants. These statistics do not include the number of children in foster care, who are not adoptive, since their parents have not signed the necessary papers and the courts have not removed parental rights.

Republicans always use adoption as a choice for a woman who is pregnant and unable to care for her child. Yet this child, if given up for adoption, may spend his or her formative years in foster care, with no chance of adoption.

Why don't more Republicans live up to their Pro Life arguments and adopt more unwanted children?

2007-09-29 12:43:20 · 28 answers · asked by Me, Too 6

I have recently found my bio mom and I am having a really hard time with all the emotions that has stirred up. None of my friends or family totally understands. I'm sure there are forums or groups for this sort of thing..what are some good ones?

2007-09-29 12:39:36 · 7 answers · asked by medge97 2

2007-09-29 11:53:03 · 18 answers · asked by MH 1

My name before I was adopted was James Phillips. My twin brother and I were born in or near Lansing Michigan in 1955. We have been told my biological mother was around 33 and father 28. One was Italian. My father had a PhD, in what we don't know. My Mother might have been a nurse. Does anyone know a family with the last name Phillips that could fit the description or something close? The details above are not for sure accurate, this is what we were told.

2007-09-29 09:41:45 · 5 answers · asked by ?? 1

When I was 18 I gave birth to a girl after a 1-Night Stand, but at the time, the guy I had had the 1 night stand with died and I was about to go into college and was not ready to be a mother at all, so a nice family Colorado adopted her.

3 weeks I recieved a letter from her! She said she was glad to have finally found her birthmom and that she wanted to see me. We've been e-mailing, writing letters and IMing. We've set a date for her to come see me.

I have pictures of her now and she once asked me: "If you could turn back time, would you keep me?" I said I probally would now knowing what a bright, friendly girl she was. Then she asked "If I could, would you want me to live with you." And I said "Of course, I would but I don't think they'd let me." But she really, really wants to live with me and she's only talken to me once on the phone and we haven't met yet.

Can I get a custody lawyer and fight for custody of my daughter or is it a waste of time?

2007-09-29 07:30:04 · 17 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

His name is Daniel Lloyd Savia. His is 50 years old. Anyone seen or heard of this man before?

2007-09-28 10:46:03 · 4 answers · asked by Ive Got Answers 4

i was born may 18th 1974 in syosset ny at 1:15 am i believe. My birth mother was 16 yrs old when she gave birth to me and she was born in puerto rico. Spence-Chapin handled my adoption and i have tried every site that people have told me and im just not getting anywhere on finding my birth mother and i really need to find her because i want to know if there are health problems that i need to know about. I have 3 sons that she should know about. i have posted on every site that i know of i have done the registrys and im just about fed up and i have the right to know who my birth mother is. so if anyone knows of a female that was born 1958 and is puerto rican and gave birth to a boy on may 18 1974 and gave him up for adoption at spence-chapin please provide me info

2007-09-28 09:32:45 · 7 answers · asked by sean m 1

I don't usually comment, just read. I'm trying to understand the issues better but I guess I am still uneducated enough to be confused. A lot of the comments make me feel like I'm doing something wrong?

My husband and I are foster parents, the infant that is currently in our care has been with us since birth and will soon be up for adoption. We will be adopting him, simple as that. His mother (as much as she loves him) is mildly mentally retarded and it has been proven that she is incapable of caring for him, even with all the support the world has to offer. She seems to understand that we will be adopting him and it doesn't seem to bother her one bit, she even calls me his mom.

Adopting him seems very natural and uncomplicated to us but reading all of the terrible things being said on here about adoptions I am begining to think otherwise. I guess my question is to the people that feel adoption is wrong or are bitter about their own, what can I do to make this situation work?

2007-09-28 09:21:06 · 21 answers · asked by Crystal 2