What I need to know is where do I begin this journey? My mom has some details. But not many. Of course we have his birthdate, and the hospital he was born. She actually named him, but for some reason I don't believe the hospital kept it. So what to do?I'm now 41 and he's 39 and I need to find him. And his biological father is deceased(37 yrs ago). So that's that. I would like only serious anwers, please. Oh...I'm in Los Angeles if that'll make a difference.
2007-10-03 17:58:01 · 12 answers · asked by louloutee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
If he was born in CA, it may be easier to find him than you think. CA birth records are online at ancestry.com. If he was born in LA county, though it will be a little more difficult. Here is what I recommend you do.
register first with isrr.net (not .com!)
then look at online adoption registries such as
registry.adoption.com
findme.org
and g's adoption registry
http://100megsfree3.com/levgen/data.html
If you do not find him on any of those or any other online registries that you find, please register with g's adoption registry. You can find the link with any search engine.
This site has many resources for locating CA adoptees.
Good luck
2007-10-05 04:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Devin's mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Register with as many reunion registries as possible. ISRR is probably the largest and the State your brother was born and adopted in may run a registry too and siblings should be allowed to register (depends on which State)
I attended a search group for in California, they meet every month in Mountainview. Give the guy a call - he has all the info you'll need
Neil Kelley
Adoptees Identity Discovery
PO Box 2159
Sunnydale, CA 94087
408-737-2222
I wish you all the luck in the world.
2007-10-06 09:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by H****** 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am the youngest of 4 adopted children, 3 of us have made contact with our B-families. My brothers b-family found him. We all went through the agency we were adopted through. They do charge you, but it is the most effective way. I was registered on all the sites & never got any hits for a very long time. The agency handle the matter very well, at least ours did. Start there, & see what they can do & how much it will cost you. My brothers b-sister did the search for him as a surprise for his parents. Just make sure you are all ready for ANY outcome! If you are not, it can be very painful.
Best of luck, & try to be patent.
2007-10-04 20:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by gddeal1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i does not sign in decrease than a pretend call so as that he does not comprehend you at the beginning. that's sneaky - whether it is likewise emotionally secure for you splendid now. i think of you superb determination is to attitude this slowly. you have not have been given any theory what his circumstances are or whether he grow to be stated he grow to be observed. The attitude of superb up a verbal substitute that's usual is okay in this occasion. there is not something incorrect with coming up a friendship. That way, you bypass away the door open for him to share that he grow to be observed - at a time of his figuring out on. at that element, you may share which you have an older brother that grow to be observed and additionally you have been thinking for a protracted time how he's, what he feels like etc. that's not being sneaky in any respect. that's determining that possibly he does not understand. And if he does not understand, i'm uncertain it may be superb to hearken to it first from you. in case you recognize who his observed mothers and fathers are and the thank you to attain them, an determination would be to touch them immediately. That way, in the event that they by no ability instructed him - you supply them the prospect to accomplish that first.
2016-10-20 23:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by marolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Soundex Reunion Registry; they're on-line. You might also google the phrase "search angel"+brother's state of relinquishment. Search angels are amazing people who will help you do a search for free. "Shea's Search Series" (Google will help you find this) may be helpful too.
Good luck.
2007-10-04 00:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll want to register with the ISSR. Here's their website: http://www.isrr.net/
Check out all the on line reunion registries. Just google "adoption reunion" and you'll get many. Look for him and register with them.
Those are the two things I can think of that are free. There's always private investigators. Good luck with your search.
2007-10-03 20:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by blooming chamomile 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
can you edit to add what state he was surrendered in :) and I'll post you a couple of things you can do, like submit a waiver to release your information if he comes looking to the agency. Sign up w/ your states registry, apply for his non identifying information... hmm... thats about all I know for searchers from the natural families side to adoptee.
2007-10-03 18:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gershom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soundex is good. But it took me 36 years to find my son. I did it myself using zabasearch.com and putting in his birth name. He did keep it. I thought he was in my state but he had moved so I found him in texas on Mothers Day two years ago. It is a miracle. Good luck!
2007-10-05 06:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are firms that specialize in finding people for a set cost of a couple hundred dollars. Never pay an investigator hourly to find someone. I think that's your best bet.
Hope you find him.
2007-10-03 18:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by TJTB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea it called a closed adotion sometimes that can happen. what is your mothers name and fathers name if you hape that and the date and the year that might be able to help you. good luck
2007-10-03 19:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋