How to find birth parents???

Question

I was adopted in Connecticut when I was 1 month old. I do not know anything about my birth parents- no names, nothing. I do not live in CT anymore but I would like to know how I go about finding them. I have tried to go through the adoption agency where I was adopted from (Catholic Family Services) in CT and they told me I have to pay $200 search fee and it does not guarantee they will be able to give me anything. Isn't there a better way??? Please help! I have children of my own now and I really just want to know some medical history. There is nothing in the adoption paperwork about any medical issues.

Answer 1

can't repeat enough times www.isrr.net
other than that, everyone else said everything else I know for your state. I don't know much of anything for CT. Here are the breakdown of your laws, but I'm sure you already know all of this:


Obtaining Non-Identifying Information:

Non-identifying information is available to adopted adults and adoptive parents or legal guardians of adoptees. Parents who have surrendered may leave updated information in files. ( * managers note* what about parents who have surrendered, they don’t get non id? )

Obtaining Identifying Information:

Identifying information is provided through an Adoption Registry.
Using the Adoption Registry: State law requires each agency to maintain an adoption registry. Adopted adults age 18 or older can receive identifying information on their natural parents if they have filed their consent with the registry. If consent is not on file, the natural parents will be contacted for consent. Natural parents and natural siblings can receive identifying information regarding the adopted adult if consent is on file. If consent is not on file, a search will be conducted for the adopted adult age 18 or older to obtain consent to release information to the birth parents.

Contact:
Connecticut Department of Children and Families
Office of Foster and Adoption Services
505 Hudson Street
Hartford, CT 06106
[phone]
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Obtaining an Original Birth Certificate: An adoptee must petition the court in which the adoption was finalized to receive.

Okay so by reading the above,..... it looks like if you pay the $200 ( which by the way is total and complete discrimination and unregulated laws on fines and fee's for agencies makes me soo mad! ) then they HAVE to find your first mother to ask for consent.

But what this means, is that, if she says no, your file is sealed FOREVER, with no chance of opening it again.
Which, is also a violation of your human rights. They're just slowly twisting the knife in your heart aren't they. I am so sorry.

BEFORE doing ANY of the above ( EXCEPT REQUESTING YOUR NON ID), i would definately sign up with ISRR, and find yourself a FREE SEARCH ANGEL in CT to help you out!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

hi I'm a adult that was adopted when i 6mths old and i live in the UK,it might be a bit different over here but after 30yrs i found my birth mother so i no how you feel as i had been looking since i was 18.i will explain how i found her and it might be of some help.when you turn 18 you can apply for your original birth certificate from the social service's you do have to pay for it normally about £20.00 but that will give you a starting point with a name for your birth mother.
i found out that every child/baby that is adopted the social service's has a file on them and in it will say the mother and father's name's,there last known address of both parents and the reason why the child was adopted.it will also have a report on the adoption IE:who adopted the child,any thing relevant in the case (you do not have to pay for this,this is free)you have a legal right to have this file. you can try your phone book it can be that easy,don't give up it took me 12 years to find my birth mother and i wish i had left it alone.but i wish you all the luck in the world as i know what it feels like to want to know what your parents look like!

Answer 4

Do they have a registry? Also sign up for the ISRR. Sign up on as many registries as you can, non pay of course. Also get your non identifying information. Catholic Charities has a bad reputation for screwing with adoptees and their reunions. They also like to take the money and run. Does your adoptive parents have paperwork? Ask them for it. It is yours. Find out what the law is in Connecticut. Every state is very different. You can find it at their Department of Health and Human services website. Check into any search websites for your state. There are search angels from all over the country specializing in various states.

Answer 5

This is the website for ISRR - it's a free registry.
http://www.plumsite.com/isrr/

I'm in Australia - so can't help you locally - but I'm sure Gershom will be along soon with some advice on search links - she's a wiz with that type of thing!!

All my best wishes on your search.

Answer 6

write to the socila secuirty admin about this and they maybe able to help you they can and maybe the health departm good luck