Marriage & Divorce - 20 December 2007

My husband and I discussed divorce last night.
This will be quite a shock to everyone we know; we put up such a good front at being happy.

I love my husband but ever since my business that I started went belly up; everything just seems to be going wrong. I have no zest for life anymore. I get aggravated easily and I'm so down on myself. No one sees this except my husband and kids. It seems as if we are just living as roommates. No oneis cheating as far as I know; we don't argue and fight; we just co-exist.

My question is how do I tell the kids? The husband says I need to decide which two I'm going to take with me. I don't want to seperate my kids. But I am so unhappy. Maybe I have mental issues i don't know.

I have been researching divorce all morning; I hate breaking up my family; my kids are going to be devestated. Damn.

2007-12-20 01:53:37 · 13 answers · asked by Indypendence 3

I was listening to the radio this morning and the radio host asked an interseting question. He wanted to know how you would react if your kids called their stepmother: Mom. Would that piss you off? He was talking about how Katie Holmes told a tv show host that she loved Tom's kid's with Nicole Kidman and that they even call her mom. I'm not married with kids but personally I would hit the roof it my kids called my husband's new wife mom. How about you?

2007-12-20 01:47:51 · 29 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4

it's become an increasing issue. If I bring it up we fight. He won't talk to me about it and just tells me I'm nuts.

2007-12-20 01:43:54 · 25 answers · asked by brarshsmom 1

Why do you live?

2007-12-20 01:22:21 · 18 answers · asked by Stevo 1

after quarrel between u and ur wife ?
what is the best thing you do to make her happy and apologize
in few hours. with best reason?

2007-12-20 01:05:08 · 26 answers · asked by mm m 1

I've always thought that if a man cheated on me I would want to know, but is it easier not knowing? Let's say you're in a happy relationship and temptation attacks him and u find out would you just up and leave?

2007-12-20 01:03:10 · 32 answers · asked by tc22 3

I have NO money for Christmas presents this year. I have been struggling to pay my bills (tax bill just went up $500 poof just like that). I don't know how to tell them, and I just cry when I think about this. And no, I don't have credit cards to just "put" the presents on. I don't even think I can get them a stocking this year (3 kids).

2007-12-20 00:59:00 · 80 answers · asked by Jill S 5

I just would like to know what other people think because me and my boyfriend are planning on getting married in June of next year, but I will only be 18, and a lot of people that I knwo feel that I am too young.

2007-12-20 00:58:29 · 30 answers · asked by redbone 3

y do married men have affairs with many women at once and think they wont get caught?does his wife really not have a clue what he is doing?

2007-12-20 00:54:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

hurt him. Not to mention the Hurt & Pain.
My husband had an affair
BLAH BLAH BLAH.
Long story short I agreed to try & work things out but it seems almost impossible to get past the hurt, pain and anger!
A part of me wants to do something to hurt him as much as he's hurt me.
All things aside I Love This Man with all my heart that and the fact that we have 2.5 kids is the only reason I want to work things out. (I'm 8 months pregnant by the way)
1.But how do I get past the ANGER of him lying, cheating, and stepping outside of our marriage?
2. How to I get past the hurt & pain he's caused me?
3. How do I get past this desire to hurt him BAD!!
4. How if at all possible do I start to trust him again?
I Love Him Dearly But I haven't been In Love With Him for about a year and a half.
PLEASE RESPOND WITH CONSIDERATE ANSWERS My hormones & Anger are raging out of control and all I keep thinking about is putting him and her 6 feet under.
Thanks in Advance!
from:DANGEROUSLY UPSET!!

2007-12-20 00:51:58 · 17 answers · asked by THIC007 3

their words lead to, in the listeer's mind & self-esteem? Or is this a habit they formed growing up, out of the need for self-defense? Depending on that answer....how do we deal with the people who don't accept this in themseleves and honestly seek help?

2007-12-20 00:47:17 · 10 answers · asked by lookin4ansrs 1

Caught my wife having phone sex wiht a 19 yr old...she is 33....it was in my bed with my daughter laying next to her..I have it an audio from me cell phone. Can I use this in court?

2007-12-20 00:31:46 · 14 answers · asked by Javi 5

I popped on my myspace this morning and there was a message from a cyber friend saying she was deleting her myspace and going to kill herself.
A cry for help, sure ... but really, what do you say to a person who's that far away and in such a state?
Sure, the usual, god loves you and things are not that bad, but that doesnt help .. have you ever been in this situation?

I think back to some kids who killed themselves when we were younger and imagine, if I only knew I would do this or that ... now, in the situation, i cant remember a darn thing!

2007-12-20 00:30:09 · 9 answers · asked by newenglandseers.com 4

If a couple gets divorced are they still covered under the same health insurance?

2007-12-20 00:28:12 · 14 answers · asked by E-net User 1

I'm America but moved here in the Philippines years ago when I retired from being an airline pilot. I moved here because I liked how families are raised here and the good moral conduct of its people. I didn't want my kids to grow up back in the States.

I have a friend here who's a psychiatrist and I'm surprised that he's saved almost 100 marriages in his career. Although there's no divorce here, there is annulment and separation however. And he's managed to save that much marriages. And a lot of those cases are so "extreme" that if it happened in the states it's sure to lead to a divorce in just minutes.

He told me that he believes that any marriage can be fixed with proper education and will. And after seeing all those cases he's fixed, I'm starting to think about all those marriages back in america that end up in divorce is a waste because it could've been prevented and fixed.

What do you think?

2007-12-20 00:20:57 · 22 answers · asked by michlayfield 1

why do we stil go out together and sleep together if there is no love there i wonder if he does love me He says we just don't get along except on the bed I think that is an excuse. I don't know what to do i love him but want the divorce because he does is there any hope and is it wrong to sleep with him giving our situation i feel weird about it but like sex with him.

2007-12-20 00:00:16 · 26 answers · asked by poo~poo 1