I've always thought that if a man cheated on me I would want to know, but is it easier not knowing? Let's say you're in a happy relationship and temptation attacks him and u find out would you just up and leave?
2007-12-20 01:03:10 · 32 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I would want to know..I would forgive but I would never forget and Yes, I would leave. Cheating is unacceptable!!
2007-12-20 01:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by ZarahzMA 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a situation that is hard to judge unless you've been in that situation. I've thought about it and have said that I would leave a guy who cheated on me. However, once feelings are involved, it's much easier said than done! More than anything, I'd hope I'd have the courage to do what's right for me in that situation. Sometimes people deserve second chances, and sometimes they don't. As far as details go, I would want to know the jist of the cheating but I wouldn't be able to handle all the details.
2007-12-20 01:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know I would leave cause I've left a cheater before.. with the drop of a hat.
I guess I'd rather find out- save myself the trouble of a fraud relationship.
I admit, it would be easier not knowing. Ignorance is bliss.
I would still like to know, though. so i could end it and move on. My love is not *unconditional.* It comes with conditions. Two of those are Respect and Trust. If those conditions are not met- my love is gone.
2007-12-20 01:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by plastic 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have felt like the "fool". The first hubby, I kept finding him in affairs. I finally left after 5 1/2 years. My next 2 hubbys, were left as soon as I found out the first time. I don't like being a fool. why be there supporting their behavior? and feeling unloved?
2007-12-20 01:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to me and I started to up and leave but found out in doing so how much he really loved me.
After really thinking about it, I am glad I found out; even though it hurt so much. It opened him up to truly realizing that he could always come to me about anything and he has changed so much; thought he was loving and caring before;; now he shows me every single day how much I mean to him; think he lost track of that and took our marriage for granted.
Best to have honesty; no matter how horrible the truth may be.
2007-12-20 01:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want to know. I am a wife, and have had to deal with that (and so has ny husband). The multitud of questions finally end in your head when you know the truth. To extent details are shared always varies, but knowing the simple fact of 'yes, it happened' or 'no, nothing happened at all' calms the heart. in a strange way.
2007-12-20 01:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by lookin4ansrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know. Eventually it will come out. Nobody can hide something like that forever. It's better to know about it and deal with the situation. The relationship may not last, but at least I would be able to respect him enough for being honest with me.
2007-12-20 01:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by 1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know so that I didn't waste any more time. At least now, at 30 years old, I would want to know because I don't think it would be a one time thing at this age. By this age, I feel once a cheater always a cheater. When I was younger, maybe high school, I wouldn't want to know because at that age I do believe that people can change and maybe it was a one time thing.
2007-12-20 01:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by laura1977 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want to know, that way I could choose to leave or to stay. Knowing how I am, I would probably leave to find someone that treaeted me with enough respect to not cheat.
2007-12-20 01:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with truth and reality is what I prefer.
My level of respect for my husband would drop significantly, and that would suck the life right out of our relationship. He'd feel guilty and always be trying to make it up to me. I'd feel like our marriage was no longer anything special and wonder if he was tempted to slip again. In short, the dynamics would change dramatically.
Nope. Once the trust in gone, the marriage dies a slow, painful death.
2007-12-20 01:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by DJ 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋