My husband watches **** on the internet and not making love to me. We used to be great together. Why??

Question

it's become an increasing issue. If I bring it up we fight. He won't talk to me about it and just tells me I'm nuts.

I have tried everything I can think of to get his attention back on me. Instead of making love to me or talking about it we fight and he just tells me I'm nuts. I'd be quite happy doing it all the time. Believe me I have no problem with ****. Just pay some attention to me please!!!!

Answer 1

You kinda have two issues.
The first is that you and your husband can't have a "good" conflict. If you disagree about something, you need to be able to talk about it in a mature and loving way, and resolve it. Him telling you he won't discuss it because you are "nuts" is not productive.
The second is the ****; I'm with you on that one. Granted, he isn't talking to these women and doesn't physically interact with them, but he is going to someone other than you for sexual satisfaction. I can see how that would be hurtful.
Before you can deal with the **** habit, though, you need to be able to have a good discussion with him.
Counseling might be a good idea. Counseling is not an admission of defeat; getting counseling means you care enough about your relationship to do some hard work to fix it.

Answer 2

The best thing to do is talk openly with him about this issue. If he refuses to listen try and get him to go to some sort of marriage counseling. **** is very attractive to me obviously because men are visual creatures but also because its easier. With **** men can get right down to business so to speak and not worry if there partner is in the mood or not or go through foreplay, sad but true in some cases. The biggest thing is always communication. Another option would be to enjoy pron with him, I know it is not for everyone but it does work for some people. Good Luck!

Answer 3

i think all men with the internet look at **** on the internet! but for him to not make love to you seems like a bigger problem, if you have tried talking to him and he gets mad then maybe you should either disconnect your internet and see if things change in the bedroom, or somehow set up a block on the **** sites, or maybe even just put a password on the computer while you are not home and then, if he doesn't have access to the **** while you are gone, then he should start being interested in making love to you again. and if not maybe you should seek help from a professional.

Answer 4

The reason why people turn to **** on the Internet or anywhere for that matter is when boredom has set in their sexual relationship. There is no blame here. It just happens in long term relationships.

Why not take an interest in what he watches and watch it with him. Ask him if he'd like you to do the things he watches. Get some of that 'naughtiness' back and spice up your sex life.

Answer 5

It has no harm inwatching the **** on internet. Your problem is that you have no sexual alternation. A the same time found an alternation of you amd getting sexual satisfaction on internet.

So you should also use alternation to vaginal sex say masturbation or use sex toys in front of him, when ever he watches xxx on net. Show yourself in different sexy styles. Stripties is also good. Also see **** with him on net.

You should improve his sexual fantasy. He will come back to you.

I have suggested this to so many girls. In 88% cases it works 100%. In 11% cases husbands are watching less xxx on net.
1% had no change.

Go ahead and soon u will get a wild ******* from him.

Answer 6

tells you that you are nuts so you drop the subject, don't let him play you... don't be a fool... demand that the **** stops or it's divorce... it's cheating in your case... because he's not giving you the affection you deserve/need!

you can disconnect the internet or hide the computer at a friend's house, these are all options... good luck, but, make him stop, girl!

and if he refuses, and still finds ways around it, he does not care about how you feel, and that's wrong, no compromising on this one... he does it because he thinks he can...

it's an addiction and it has to stop... just like alcohol...


good luck!

Answer 7

Find out the main reason for such a behaviour of ur hubby. It is possible that u may be the cause for that. Try convince him and make him realise that u still love him. Talking to him can solve this problem instead of fighting. If he loves u he will definitely request you. And if he doesn,t then its up to you.......PLEASE DONT TAKE TO HEART AND DONT AT ALL LOSE HOPE !!

Answer 8

I think HE's nuts. Looking at pictures or movies is never better than the sensation of a hot loving woman focused on you (and you focused on her). The only time I consider looking at that is when my partner is not in the mood, he should develop the same attitude and realize how insensitive he is.

Answer 9

This always seems to be the case. Hey...I like to oogle alittle pornography now and again too but not let it dominate my life.

I really don't know what to tell you. If he won't discuss it then what else can you do short of leaving? Maybe an affair? What do you think? If you're not satisfied sexually because he spends all of his time masturbating to a bunch of colored pixels then I'd say you're not left with much of an alternative.

So although I can't say I condone it I certainally can understand the reason as to why if you did. Good luck to you. The poor fool doesn't know what he's missing.

Answer 10

Being a guy i can tell u, guys always look 4 a change.and most of the guys live a fantsy world n looks 4 teen babes.the fact is he has fullfilled all his fantsies wid you n now he wana try wid a new partner.Sincere advice... u also look out 4 a fling. this will work.