after quarrel between u and ur wife ?
what is the best thing you do to make her happy and apologize
in few hours. with best reason?
2007-12-20 01:05:08 · 26 answers · asked by mm m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Exactly what were you doing with that other girl?
2007-12-20 01:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sit your butt down and tell her that you'll take anything she wants to dish out. You deserve whatever she throws at you. (literally and figuratively)
Tell her how sorry you are, and you'd better be sincere. Tell her you're sorry for what you did (not for getting caught). Tell her you will do everything in your power to earn her trust back if she'll let you. And then DO EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER to do just that.
Your question about making her happy, makes me so angry. There is no easy "fix" for this one, mister. This is going to take some major work on your part if you want to keep your wife. No present and nothing but time and hard work will get her through this one. You have lost her respect and trust. How does it feel? Is it worth it???
I'm not saying not to give her gifts during this. But what she needs is emotional support. Can you understand that a man is a woman's "rock" of support. You were her strength, and the one she leaned on? You were her security! If you can understand that, you can see that the rock has been pulled out from under her, the security she depended on is not there right now. Can you ever get back to that place in her heart? Yes...through some major hard work. It's been said that one bad word requires 10 good words to erase it. How long do your think your behavior is going to take to erase? Probably never. But you can both come out of this stronger if you are both willing to make the effort here.
Get rid of the other woman. It's not worth your marriage. What on earth were you thinking? Honestly, I want to hurt you right now and I don't even know you. And I don't even care if you hate me for this note. It's the honest truth!!! You've ruined your reputation in your wife's heart and ruined her Christmas. Geeze..................
2007-12-20 09:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by Woods 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best thing you could have done, would have been to be faithful to your wife! Since that's out of the question, you're NOT going to make her happy if she saw with her own eyes that you are cheating on her. You may eventually gain her forgiveness, but you're not going to see happiness in a few hours! If you're sincere (though if you are, why'd you do it in the first place) apologize, then give her time to decide what she wants to do.
2007-12-20 09:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well bub if you felt the need of another woman you don't need to hang around give your wife and yourself a break get out and start a new life and let the wife keep her self respect and not have to put up with your lies that your telling her and yourself. Thats the best thing you could do now too make her happy . once a cheat always a cheat!
2007-12-20 09:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why were you with another girl? Why should you think she should forgive you or even want to listen to your excuses? Try making her feel like she is the ONLY woman in the world. No more lies and sneaking around. If that is the life you want then let her go so you can be with whoever you want whenever you want.
2007-12-20 09:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frist thing my dear...... your wife is not going to just get over seeing you with another girl! At this point her guts have been ripped out! How was you seen with the other female? I would not wait a few hours! i would start begging now. Is your wife the one you want? If so why was you with another female?What about the other female She no you were married? if you like to chat more you may contact me
2007-12-20 09:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say in a situation like this the only way your apology would be accepted and be considered sincere is to cut off your testicles, wrap them in a box with a bow and present them to your wife with an apology.
2007-12-20 09:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are screwed man. You better beg for your life...If I was her I'd just let you go. I can tell you one thing though..She's probably never going to trust you again! I dont blame her either. Why were you w/ another girl anyway??! Thats just stupid. You shouldn't be getting people to give you apologies anyway, you should tell your wife your BS not everybody elses
2007-12-20 10:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First some advice. Never admit to anything! Aas long as you never admit it then they will always have some doubt about what they are thinking.
Now to fix this you need to do the obvious like send flowers etc but the trick is when you talk to her you need to actually just listen, this is the hard part because for men we are not good at this. Now you turn it around by saying things like "I didnt know you cared so much for me" silly stuff like that. This gets her to think about you guys and forget the other girl.
I could go on and on but remember. Dont admit to anything!! No matter what she says she knows or thinks she knows...
2007-12-20 09:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by DC 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, that depends a lot on what you were DOING with the other girl when your wife saw you!
2007-12-20 09:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Skepticat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Hank Williams said in one of his songs, We have a license to fight, & making up is Great! But, if your truly in love with your mate, totally, then there would be no other person involved. Your statement does not compute, in my mind.
2007-12-20 09:12:58 · answer #11 · answered by Tobby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋