I was listening to the radio this morning and the radio host asked an interseting question. He wanted to know how you would react if your kids called their stepmother: Mom. Would that piss you off? He was talking about how Katie Holmes told a tv show host that she loved Tom's kid's with Nicole Kidman and that they even call her mom. I'm not married with kids but personally I would hit the roof it my kids called my husband's new wife mom. How about you?
2007-12-20 01:47:51 · 29 answers · asked by ALeoStar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take away the situations in which the biological mom is pretty much not an active part of the kids life or is a bad mother...Kidman doesn't strike me as an inactive parent.
2007-12-20 02:16:59 · update #1
Your absolutely right.....My ex husband and I both have moved on and our children are very much involve in their father's life as they live at home with me....They know that their dad's girlfriend is apart of there life because shes with their father...Other than that they respect her just as they will respect any other adult...But, as to calling her "mom" they wouldn't do that just like they will not call my fiance "dad"...In my opinion, there is no reason to...Both of us are active parents and they know that neither one of our partners will try to replace the other ...I think it makes them have a healthier relationship when they know that the new partner is not there to make things worse or bad...This is something that should be addressed in the beginning and maybe the new partner would not feel like they have to compete with the natural parent or feel like the child resents them...
2007-12-20 02:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound all evil and stuff, but there are some ex-wives who give the new stepmoms hell. The only way to guarantee that situation never happens to you is to never divorce, because people, including kids, have to move on with their lives. If this happened to me, I would probably feel a bit jealous BUT I would know that hey, there must be a reason their dad is with a new woman and it almost always takes two people to end a relationship, so who am I to be bitchy about the "mom" thing? Also remember, when he remarries he's not YOUR husband anymore. That sounded kinda harsh, but sometimes the truth does sound that way.
2007-12-20 02:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, for whatever reason those kids are in that home situation, their happiness is the most important thing. Children KNOW who their real parents are. But, equally they need to be in, or create a settled, "normal" life. If they live with, or even just spend weekends with, their dad's new partner, they need to have a form of reference that's warm and acceptable.
Step-mom is such a mouthful, especially for kids. I've met children who launch into a whole explanation of who the other "parent" is. It shouldn't be necessary. Children should be at ease in the new lives that they had no part in creating.
I'm a teacher. Kids call me Mom, Dad, and the names of their grandparents. They know who I am; they realise they're talking to someone who is a part of their life and cares about them.
Accept the words of children - don't chastise and criticise.
2007-12-20 02:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Francis Hannaway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's hope you pick the right MR Right or you'll be going through the roof someday. Many people think that mother and Mom have the same meaning. Let me tell you. They do not. A mother is a biological female that produces a human being after having sex with a biological male. Period. Nice, huh? Short sweet and simple. A MOM is a caregiver who sacrifices her time, likes and pleasures to provide for a growing human being be giving them life's necessities. Also giving them a homely education about right and wrong. Teaching them to grow up to be responsible adults. Get my drift? So if you would go through the roof when your children called their Step-mother Mom, I have to say "Go get a life and be a Mom to your children when you have some.". That one of the reasons why divorces happen: yes, mothers forget to me Mom and fathers forget to be Dad. Anyone can be a mother or father -- go to bed, get laid and out pops junior 9 months later. It takes a special person to be a Mom or Dad: total sacrifice of their time, effort and pleasures to raise a human being to be a productive member of society.
2007-12-20 01:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by arruda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the cast
C = my sister
J = sister's husband
B = J's ex-wife
L = son of J + B, so sister's stepson.
B volunteers at L's school. For mother's day he made a gift in class for both B and C. B was livid and flipped out in front of the entire class.
C's been dating J since L was 2 years old and married since he was 5. Hes 8 now. J has sole custody of L, because B is mentally ill.
2007-12-20 02:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by CHARLES R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it pisses me off...but my boys are important to me and what I want is for them to be comfortable. Their dad is remarried and has another son by this woman. She also brought kids into their relation so all the kids call both of them mom and dad. They know it brothers me, they're young but not stupid. They don't call her mom when I'm around or on the phone with them. I love that they show me that respect. But I had to let them come to that conclusion on their own. I couldn't have ask them to do that. I
2007-12-20 04:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by I am what I am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hit the roof too.
I have a wonderful relationship with my stepmother; she's actually been more of a mother to me than my bio mom and I wish I called her mom.
But, i am there for my children; I wanted kids so badly and if they were to call some other woman mom it would just kill me.
2007-12-20 01:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think Tom Cruises family is quite complicated why did he leave Nicole in first place after 10 years in first place again?Those adopted kids are going around like yo yo between them its sad maybe they call her mom to fit into the family i know couple of kids who just hate their adopted parents for the same reason since they expect things in return for adopting them
2007-12-20 01:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on what the family dynamic is. If the real mom is far away, kids want a parental figure that is warm and nurturing. If the stepmom works hard to build a positive relationship with the kids, then the kids may want to call her mom too.
2007-12-20 01:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Brad 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋